MSE Pregnancy Club 24

Kitten_Pie

Dizzi without turning this into a for or against breastfeeding which many threads inevitably take. Surely as long as your little one is looked after and happy no one should judge. If they do then that group isn't for you. I am holding out hope that I will find a group which I don't completely hate - there must be one out there.

emsbet

Very exciting for you alizee

((hugs)) missmoney

I'm thinking of hiring a TENS machine for labour but I haven't looked into it yet really.

I've been into town this morning to go to the job centre, which was a joy as always! I also popped into primark while I was there to get some more pjs as a lot of mine are getting too small.

I hope everyone else is well

xx

MrsExcited

Hi all!

I've been away from a computer since Friday but reading on my phone. Unfortunately it's such a palaver to post using my phone that I don't.

Good luck to Alizee and Miss Money.

Welcome to any newbies - sorry i can't remember any names!

I went to a meeting yesterday that was a 2 hour drive from home. Then had to sit all day in this meeting and then drive 2 hours back home. My poor bum was killing me. It had been squashed flat by sitting all day.

Anyway today my bum is ok but my back is absolutely killing me! It is so sore. I'm finding it hard to concentrate. I am quite stressed too as I have a massive deadline for Friday and I couldn't work on it yesterday as I was out of the office all day.

So I am feeling sorry for myself today. I had a McDonald's for lunch which cheered me up a bit!

I am going swimming after work so hopefully my back will stretch out and feel better after that.

Hope everyone else is ok.

xx

rjh090384

I am the same with baby groups. I'm 28 but have quite a mature outlook. Also along with that I'm a scruffy beast. I'm a rock chick who lives in jeans and Harry potter tshirts lol. The last birthday party I went to with little one the mums were all hoity toity and asking me why I didn't pick el up from nursery and how they all volunteer. I'm like dude I'm at Uni full one and I a single parent I'm lucky to brush my hair most mornings. In all fairness im so scruffy u wouldn't notice either way lol.

Ps slept carp last night but hoping with other half staying tonight I might get tired out lol. back an ribs still very ouchy

Miss_Money

Dizzi seriously, as long as baby is happy, no one should sneer at you or judge you! grrr sorry it makes me angry, women should be able to choose and if they can't choose then no one should judge them anyway.. I don't think I'm saying this very well. basically people should mind their own bl00dy business and as long as baby is happy that's all that matters I bf my eldest for about 6 weeks i think and it was flipping hard work.. neither of us "got" it sooo i switched to bottles = happy baby happy mummy. same with maddie. this time round if i can bf i will but if I cant do it.. i certainly wont beat myself up over it, and people that sneer are not worth knowing! sorry for the rant oh and are there yummy mummy clubs in stabbo?! how do we class a yummy mummy?

I waddled to nursery and back.. the baby feels like she is sooo low that shes going to just fall through my foof! I spent my morning googling slow labour and I wish I hadnt! due date in 12 days! i just want her out! To cheer myself up i'm having scampie and chips for dinner. oh has been trying to make up with me.. but i was not nice this morning and wouldn't kiss him goodbye and said not to bother ringing at dinnertime. he can have a taste of his own medicen for a while childish i know but it made me feel better.

Maddie is playing teasets with me and i was told "do NOT slurp your tea. we don't do that in this kind of cafe!" ooer!

alizee

Hi guys I've not been admitted into labour ward yet as contractions have stopped for now but I am 1-2 cm dilated and I've had a sweep and scan. Babies est. weight is 7 lb 15 oz everything looking good, provisionally booked induction for a week tomorrow if nothing happens but midwife was convinced things are v much on their way so gonna get home and see if I catch some zzzzz's as I haven't slept last night!
She said she can easily feel the babies head when she did the sweep.. should have asked her if she felt any hair haha

Good luck MissMoney i hope things are getting started for you too!

little_miss_moneysaver_3

dizziblonde wrote: »

I can't join any yummy posh mummy baby groups - couldn't breastfeed (I pump what I can) and hate the idea of being judged and sneered at for having to use formula (yes I feel ashamed if I have to get a carton and bottle out in public).

To be honest I doubt you'd be the only one there with a bottle. I've been to a few baby groups with my sister/friends before (ok a few yrs ago and mostly younger mums) and I've never once seen any breast feeding it was all bottles. What was in them though I don't know. Kitten is right, others aren't there to judge you. I'm sure they'll be other new mums who will be having problems with one thing or another. You never know you could meet other mums who have had similar issues and could be a great support to you.

Miss_Money

ooo alizee good luck i hope you get your munmmy cuddles really soon I don't think i will be getting mine anythime soon lol
talking of yummy mummys... my yummy days went out the window the day i had eldest lol.. then came back when youngest was about 3.. (had enough energy to make an effort) and went again when i fell preggers for the third time lol. I look like a haggered old witch and care not lol. im 32, and im not particualry fond of chavs either. dizzi when i had eldest i was living on the broxtowe estate :eek: and omg the sights youd see at the sure start centre there!! :rotfl: it truly was an eye opener... a bit like shamless!!! i kid you not. and a little sad really, there was one lady who'd had 8 kids and had them taken off her one by one.. but she just kept on having them. felt sorry for her as there must have been underlying issues there, and why they couldnt help her more i dont know. other mums used to turn up high :eek: i can laugh now, at the time it was like a nightmare! i went to get some sanity of being out the house. in reality it probably compounded my depression!

jovichick123

Afternoon all

Good luck Alizee and Miss Money Hope you both have mummy cuddles soon

STILL feeling yuck here so have been resting on sofa most of morning

Re: Baby groups I am not the most 'social' person at the best of times and like many of you am a bit apprehensive as to whether I will fit in or not I did try some with DS but didn't really take to them so only went a handful of times. I remember enjoying baby massage right up until the point when DS decided to pee on the group leader woman as she was demonstrating a tummy rub on him :rotfl:Was too embarrassed to go again after that I will probably try again but maybe with the groups closer to DS's school in the hope that I will meet mum's whos kids LO will grow up with IYSWIM. My local childrens centre is in the middle of a large council estate and the average age of the mums seems to be late teens from what I have seen so far; I am 31 so not too sure I will fit in there

I had the strangest dream/nightmare last night :eek: For some reason (never found out why) OH had decided to allow Derek Branning from Eastenders to come and live with us and they had become inseparable... Anyway, I was running round cooking and cleaning for them and found that my OH had been hiding cake from me (very random I know), I had a big row with OH about how out of order he was to be hiding said cake and he agreed to tell me all the hiding places and let me share... he did this and when I went to get some cake it was really out of date. I ate it anyway (as you do) and it made me ill and there were flies all over the kitchen that had come out of the packet... OH just stood there laughing at me with Derek Branning stood next to him :rotfl: I was really upset when I woke up and wierdly could taste the cake in my mouth and was trying to bat away the imaginary flies I really think pregnancy is making me a psychologists dream :rotfl:

(((hugs))) to those who need em

Jovi x

Cheetara

Good luck Alizee, hopefully baby cuddles soon

MissMoney - glad to hear your OH is making some effort to be nice to you, I'd be just the same as you and give him a taste of his own medicine. Fingers crossed your labour picks up pace and you're in the full on grunty stage soon

Turtlemoose - you poor thing! I hope you get to home, that hospital sounds horrible.

I used a TENS machine with my DD, hired one from Boots (keep meaning to go in there and ask if I can do this again but baby brain makes me forget). I found it helpful in the early stages but I don't know if it actually helped with the pain or was just a distraction giving me something to focus on. Either way it helped so I'll be doing that again. I'm not sure how much they cost to buy but I'd hire rather than buy if possible.

I'm another one who avoids mums and tots type group things, can't be doing with competitive mums or chavs. I've got a friend who went to everything with her first and is still good friends with lots of the girls she met, she's not a yummy mummy or a chav so it's probably worth a try if you're looking to get some company. There seem to be enough normal (ish ) people on here wondering if to go that some nice mums in the same boat must have joined these things. You can always feign illness if it's dire and leg it!

As for people being arsey about bottle feeding, sod 'em! I couldn't BF my DD because I was completely freaked out about the idea of it (yeah, weird I know) and woe betide anyone who had tried to belittle me for it! They've always been used for *ahem* other activities and it just feels weird to me to stick them in a baby's mouth. I know that's what their intended use is, I just struggle to feel ok with it. I'm going to try though and hoping I'll have that "oh wow this is great and not strange at all" moment.

My DD grew up healthy and happy. Formula isn't liquid heroine! I'm trying to overcome my irrational feelings about it and plan to try with bump but if I can't get the hang of it or am too freaked out then I won't beat myself up for bottle feeding.

Hugs to those who need them and those who don't cos hugs are ace anytime