MSE Pregnancy Club 24

fluffnutter

turtlemoose wrote: »

I've been eyeing up coffee mornings and so on, but while super excited about bubs, I'm not a mumsy gushing type so I really loathe the idea of trying to make friends with someone just cuz we happened to reproduce at the same time!! Anyone else in a similar boat?

Yes, my sentiments exactly. I'm not going out of my way to meet other mothers. I get my support on here, tbh.

But... I've lived here a long time and do have a network of friends, many of whom have children. I guess I might feel differently if I were new to the area like you are, but even so, bumps n babies groups are really not my thing.

fluffnutter

Miss_Money wrote: »

Morning ladies, i haven't read back but will do soon... well the period pain continued right up until i went to bed, and kept me up half the night, as well as uncomfortable bh's. I woke up this morning in a FOUL mood.. My legs and groin are in agony and I felt a bit shaky. Eldest wanted hotdogs for brekki so cooked them.. yuck... Ive just taken my pain killers and they got stuck in my throat... so cue being sick into the sink :eek: and whilst I was being sick I had 3 very distinct PROPPER contractions. They really really hurt! Maybe being sick will have pushed things on even more.. but the more ive read on the internet I'm convinced I'm in a really really slow labour!

Aah, told you! I expect you're up to your armpits in your paddling pool by now, pushing right into your bottom, like they tell you to do on OBEM. Exciting!

turtlemoose

I also struggle in that, without sounding like a total snob (but I'm going to anyway) ....there's lots of chavs and/or kids with kids at those sorts of things here...im 26 (but an old 26!) and just can't be bothered with that sort of person. And if I went to a group full of "oh well my little reginald actually has an IQ of 176 despite only being 3 days old" kind of mothers, I think I'd actually have to hurt somebody!!

Meh I guess I will just have to wait and see really.

Baby is super active this morning - normally ive been at work at least half an hour by now so either baby is quiet or I don't notice - but seems to be doing karate while head butting my pelvis, great combo!!

emsbet

turtlemoose wrote: »

Any of you first time mummies joining any groups or similar? I don't have many friends in the area (I'm not local, came here for uni then never left, but all the uni mates went home - have had the same job for 6 yrs but haven't massively gelled with anyone beyond 'colleague' level)....I'm a bit worried about being home all day with the baby and basically turning in to a nutjob!!! I've been eyeing up coffee mornings and so on, but while super excited about bubs, I'm not a mumsy gushing type so I really loathe the idea of trying to make friends with someone just cuz we happened to reproduce at the same time!! Anyone else in a similar boat?

I don't really know anyone round here and I was made redundant almost six weeks ago and I'm bored sh!tless already! I plan to go to some bumps and babies groups but agree about not wanting to feel like I have to make friends with just anyone just because I'm desperate for adult company but I figured I may as well give it a go as you never know there maybe a person or two there that I get along with

Exciting missmoney, I hope that LO doesn't keep you waiting too long

xx

MrsManda

turtlemoose wrote: »

Any of you first time mummies joining any groups or similar? I don't have many friends in the area (I'm not local, came here for uni then never left, but all the uni mates went home - have had the same job for 6 yrs but haven't massively gelled with anyone beyond 'colleague' level)....I'm a bit worried about being home all day with the baby and basically turning in to a nutjob!!! I've been eyeing up coffee mornings and so on, but while super excited about bubs, I'm not a mumsy gushing type so I really loathe the idea of trying to make friends with someone just cuz we happened to reproduce at the same time!! Anyone else in a similar boat?

*hugs* Sorry you've had such a rough time, hope you get to escape soon. I've started attending a group at my local children's centre (sometimes called SureStart) as I know no one in my local area and my OH works 50 miles away so we don't even have any colleagues close to us.
It's a bump to 1 year group and not anywhere near as mumsy/gushy as I expected it to be. It's just a bunch of people who natter about anything and everything who happen to either have a baby or be pregnant. I'm not sure I'm going to bestest friends with anyone and start meeting them outside of the group but it's good to get out of the house for a few hours a week and once baby arrives it'll give us both somewhere to go and meet new people.

turtlemoose

Thanks mrsmanda ....maybe I just need to try one and see how it is - must remember they can't force me to go again if I don't like it!

I have some hot wings left over from the KFC OH smuggled in to me after I was admitted last night ....is it wrong that I keep eyeing up the bag atnthis time in the morning and wondering if there's a microwave somewhere?? Yum yum...

Miss_Money

right then... I'm going to waddle to nursery with maddie and then I'm going to come home and eat some cake and then... well i guess I will bounce on my birthing ball for a while..... hugs to everyone that wants and needs them xxx

fluffnutter no paddling pool out yet lol.

MissMonkeyMoo

Aaarrrgghhhh! Just typed a really long message and the computer flipped out and lost it!

MrsManda

I've not been online much since Friday so haven't been keeping up with the thread.
Miss Money, hope it all happens for you today

I'm going slowly mad. Midwife appointment last Friday was mostly a waste of time. I did get her to talk about a birth plan very briefly but generally her view was that I needed to get the obstetrician to make one with me as she didn't want to fill my head with rosy ideas when they weren't an option for me. I did point out that I knew what I couldn't have (waterbirth, pethidine, epidural) but wanted to know things like how long I can stay at home before they want me in due to my strep b and how to increase the speed of my labour etc... not that she was particularly helpful with those questions either.
Then for some reason unknown (other than she seems like writing blood forms) she decided I needed a FBC again despite my last result being fine. Fortunately she's not daft enough to try to get blood out of me herself so yesterday I was at the phlebotomist clinic again. I'm very grateful the NHS opened one at my local council office as it's 10 minutes walk/waddle from home rather than the 10 minute taxi ride to the hospital. Of course I got there and realised I'd left my form at home so had to waddle back fortunately my OH was working from home so could meet me halfway.
I've been getting screaming headaches since Saturday, prescription strength codeine and paracetomol being the only thing which helps at all and even then not for long - was in tears with the pain on Monday. I've got a constant low grade headache, keep getting dizzy and have no concentration

Baby's wiggling constantly which is great except when I'm trying to sleep and the BHs are getting stronger and waking me up when I do manage to drop off. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get baby to engage? He's apparently head down but still free. I know I'm only 35+5 but I'm getting fed up of being pregnant and would like to increase the chances of baby coming sooner rather than later especially as they're not likely to let me get past 40 + 5 and I really really don't want an induction and a c-section is likely to mean a general anaesthetic.

Labour vibes to all who want them, hugs to everyone, hope you have a good day - I'm wondering if it's too early to go back to bed

dizziblonde

As for baby groups - I've not even braved the local SureStart yet (know exactly where it is - it's attached to a school I used to do supply at)... I did baby clinic once and that was scary enough! No doubt now we've been discharged from midwife care back into the health visitor (it's gone a bit screwy with us being in hospital for so long) I'll get the leaflets and suggestions I show my face at some... but, having spent a fortnight on a maternity ward I can say conclusively - having a baby born at a similar time to other women doesn't mean you might not want to throttle some of them (particularly any idiots having loud mobile phone conversations at 4am).