MSE Pregnancy Club 24

little_miss_moneysaver_3

Welcome and congrats Milliebob
I'm stocking up on many things, cotton wool, cotton buds, sponges as well as some baby baby/shampoo not too much incase they're allergic etc. am stocking up on pampers nappies as heard Huggies are naff. Have got quite a few different wipes too. Lots of pampers sensitive wipes as heard there's a lot of allergy to wipes. If you sign up to the baby clubs they seems to give lots of vouchers for Huggies which if you look for special offers you can often get for free or nearly free so I get them then. hope that helps

Miss_Money

jennynoo congratulations! what lovely names


im sorry i need to get this off my chest....its a long rant sorry
well i've had a rubbish day. I think me and the oh are on the point of breaking up he's acting like a complete moron. He got himself into a tizz cos the house isn't immaculate and proceeded to shout at me and the girls, saying i'm a rubbish mother for not teaching them to tidy etc etc. (i bl00dy do teach them to tidy.. I'm sick of having to show them how to do their room etc) anyway... it's menat the girls have spent all afternoon in their room, and ive been banished upstairs having labelled me lazy, and if i don't get on with the housework tomorrow he wants me gone. i feel like packing my bags now, and if i go into labour any time soon i dont want him there! I'm not the tidyest person i know that.. but neither is he. he said when it came to the weekend he shouldnt have to do ANYTHING houseworky. I'd like to see him manage to do bleeding housework with spd. At this rate I'll be seperating from him after the birth if he carries on with how he speaks to me and the girls. he's said some right nasty things today that i won't be able to forget :(anyway ive just sat down in bed after slogging my guts out and im in agony now I havent eaten and i cant eat cos i feel so carp

rjh090384

Oh Hun I'm so sorry. It does sound like u both unhappy. How old r ur girls if u don't mind me asking?

Miss_Money

7 and 4. they aren't his. we got together when youngest was one.

rjh090384

Ps I would tell him to four letter word off tho I understand why u possibly can't with baby on way

Miss_Money

I can't do that though Im sort of trapped. He deals with all the finances and I have no where to go if i did say bye bye. seriously today i feel absolutly nothing for him at all (which cant be right) (i think its his lack of empathy with everything pain related, he just doesnt get it) he takes offence at the slightest things too. i got out of bed got washed and put my spray deoderant on... he tried to hug me in the middle of this, i moved away (smelly deoderant going everywhere which he usually complains about) he said why did you reject me?! um hello an inapropiate time to hug wait a minute! then he was like, i dont want one now etc.. sex is another thing.. he cant have a hug without him getting sexual and im not feeling the least bit sexy nor do i want sex! another rejection he takes it as... ive thought the unthinkable today too.. that as much as this baby will be loved by me, maybe it wasnt a good idea getting pregnant in the 1st place.

oh and i was told "anymore complaining about the food shopping i do and your out!" i just sat on the floor and sobbed at that to which he said i was a baby and he was sick of dealing with a baby!

mishkanorman

Miss_Money,

You have my full sympathy - we have sunday sulks as every sunday my OH starts a grump about the housework :mad: Im lazy, i know I put housework at the bottom of the list every time. What annoys me most is he is too, he rants about piles of carp left everywhere as all he can see is my mess - in fact its a good 50/50 split of stuff, also 2 kids at home all day in ANY house will leave it looking ransacked

Its not been too bad here lately he seems to have got over it a little at least, Ive also learnt to do the housework (the worst of it) on a saturday when he is at work so there is less to pick at on Sunday.

Hope things get better for you anyway,


AFM,

I have constipation from hell i cant sit as it hurts and I cant stand as gravity kicks in and makes it feel worse poor baby has no room to move. Anyone own a plunger ???

Kitten_Pie

Miss_Money,

I wanted to offer you support. No matter what the situation many go through the 'was this a good idea' moments. It doesn't make you bad but makes you a good mother for wanting the best for your baby.

If I were in your situation I would look into the options of leaving, what rights you have etc. Not that you will use them but to know what your options are will make you feel that little bit more in control.

Has he always been this way or has he changed with the pregnancy. If it is a recent change it may be he is scared, mens hormones change too etc and arguments and clashes can be blown out of proportion with neither side wanting to back down. (Not saying this has happened but just to be aware that it can)

We are all here to support you no matter how things go. Big hugs

thegreenroom

Miss_Money wrote: »

Nutella - happy due date
emsbet- glad you are feeling little one kicking

My back has been really hurting again kept me awake and now im up it feels like someone has elctrodes near my kidneys and i want to curl up and cry! someone mentioned it could be getting ready for labour, I really hope so 'cos this pain isn't good!! last 2 pregnancies I had horrific period pain and I "knew" i was going into labour!
so i went to the fridge this morning to do breakfast, to find there was a scraping of butter left. oh hadnt bought anymore :mad: so gave the kids that on their ham toasties and I had to resort to melting down an easter egg and having choccy spread on my toast, as there was no jam or butter or cereal to eat!!! oh then came downstairs and asked "wheres my breakfast?!" the cheek of it. told him to fiond his own mish mash of rubbish to eat! hahaha.
hope everyone is ok xxxx

Does it feel like electric shocks because mine did

Miss_Money

mishkanorman thankyou. He never sees the mess he makes, and expects me to clear up after him too. drives me insane. and i don't like the way he speaks to me on a daily basis. He's so rude to me! he will say "go make me a coffee now!" and think hes being funny when hes just being down right rude! if i challenge that i'm the one with the problem.... I started speaking to him the way he speaks to me this week, and apparently i'm a nasty peice of work!!! hah!

re constipation- ive got it bad too, and piles feel like my inndards are going to dissapear down the loo!


kitten- he didnt have a good upbringing (verging on abusive, actually no it WAS an abusive upbringing) he has a bad temper that he inherited from his dad.but i think theres other problems too. call me stupid but i think he is on the autism spectrum somewhere. if one little thing gets to him he will go over and over and over it in his head and then quite literally explode about that (which could be tiny) and then explode about everything that he feel he has a problem with.. (but didnt an hour before) hes always been hard work. But ive always wanted to make it work because we do have a good time together or did.
i dont drive i have epilepsy... and i cant stand to be in the house at the weekends. hes the opposite he doesnt like to do anything at the weekends. If he says he will take me out blah blah i will expect to go out, only to find the next day hes changed his mind and he doesnt want to do anything and i should stop nagging him cos its the weekend and hes not "here for my entertainment" great huh?