MSE Pregnancy Club 24

Miss_Money

thegreenroom wrote: »

Does it feel like electric shocks because mine did

it feels sort of like a tens machine has been plugged into my kidneys.

Milliebob

emsbet wrote: »

Welcome milliebob and congratulations! :wave: What's your due date? Would you like adding to the list?

xx

September 24th, I'll let you know what we're having on Thursday! It would be lovely to be on the list thank you!
Just sat down to have our tea and watch BGT after spending the aft sorting out the spare room for baby... Where the heck am I gonna put my shoes and bags now!?

Elelyn

Welcome millliebob :wave:.

Miss_Money your OH sounds awful. No-one should have to put up with being treated like that. My instinctive reaction is to tell you to get out of the relationship as it doesn't sound healthy - but I can understand that you are in an awkward position right now. I hope you can work something out.

AFM we have finished painting the nursery today. Well, the walls anyway, I still have the glossing to do but that shouldn't take long. Will be borrowing a carpet shampooer next weekend to give the floor a good going over and then it will be ready for us to order the furniture. I can't wait to get it all set up!

On another note, I am trying to decide when to start my maternity leave. I am thinking of starting my official mat leave two weeks before my due date but taking three and a half weeks annual leave prior to that. So I would finish five and a half weeks before due date. Does that sound too early? I am thinking it will be nice to have the whole of August off (sitting in the garden if we have a nice summer - wishful thinking!). Plus, I have been suffering with my back and I have a long commute consisting of a drive to the station, train journey and then a bus ride at the other end. I find it tiring at the best of times and think I'll really struggle towards the end. What is everyone else planning on doing?

rjh090384

Ah I see what u mean hun. I was lucky with my husband that I controlled all our finances well most of them. I told him to go. Tho situation was different. I hope u can get things sorts. It is not nice being in an emotionally abusive relationship xx

mishkanorman

Oh dear we may have the same OH, at his worst he has a foul mouth on him - its ALL my fault if I didnt always have to answer back/get one up on him/ blame everything on him :mad: he some days just cannot see that he is the cause of it !

We've come so close to splitting on many occasions because he can make me feel so hated, I truly believe that most if not all of this is down to his depression - which is un diagnosed as he brushed it off as not a big deal when he went to the Dr. (he has a medical condition which is closely linked to depression but he thinks if I just "lay off him" for a little while it will fix itself)

Its sneaky as hell but I taped him once so he could hear the venom in his voice when he spoke to me - Ive never played it to him but its there to remind me that Im not insane or over sensitive.

If he is like my OH ive found that often Ive done something weeks ago and been a right cow bag to him and rather than address it at the time and give me a chance to realise and make amends he will brew and stew and pick fights until he feels justified and revenged.

My favourite line i repeat in my head 'you cant reason with the unreasonable'

Big hugs to you x x x

Miss_Money

mishkanorman yep the oh does wht yours does... brews it all up. we wont speak now for at least 3 days and i will spend the evening s in my room as im "not welcome" in the living room!. and then he will try and act as if nothing has happened.

thanks for listening to me though people it's helped somewhat. ive managed to make myself a ham toastie (looks like hes been to the shop) and ive eaten now. however.. and this is tmi... after eating the toastie i had a huge bh that went into my bowels :eek: and made me go to the loo... no more constipation!!

GemmaE

Hugs Miss_Money, that must be a pretty exhausting situation. My DH can go through stages of acting like this, and I too think he may be somewhere on the spectrum, for example if I give him pie for tea any night other than Wednesday he cant eat it and flips out!?! My OH has said he doesn't want to think about the baby as he knows he will start stressing and worrying and wants to put it off for as long as possible. I;m not trying to excuse his behaviour but could your OH be panicking about the baby coming and how he will cope? may be that is why he is lashing out so much at the moment?

Big hugs to you anyway, we are all here to listen and support should you need it.

I'm feeling a bit strange, starting to get a bit panicky about having a baby, mainly due to DDs birth, but I have no one really to talk to; DH can't/ won't mention the baby at all, MIL/ mum says oh don't worry about it, my BF is 33 weeks gone with her first and I don't want to burden her with my woes, 2 others who I could have spoken to have had their babies in the past week and both have only just come out of NICU. I feel so bloody selfish for worrying as we were so lucky with the outcome of DD birth, but all the same it absolutely terrifies me that something will happen this time/ things won't work out well. I keep telling myself how lucky we are not to have had any problems with fertility and miscarriage like so many other people. Am I being really silly and overreacting? I think maybe the best thing to do is for me and DH to fill as much time as possible over the next few weeks getting things done in the house/ school work done so I don't have time to worry. Sorry self-indulgent moan over!

Hope everyone else is OK and welcome newbies, labour vibes to those that need them xx

MummyOfTwo

miss money this is really bad. its not always easy to see but i cant see any aspect of your life thats not being controlled by him, and thats abuse.

Kitten_Pie

Your not silly Gemma, I am also worrying about labour. I am putting it to the back of my mind and not worry about it for a while but I have that luxury.

Feel free to worry and voice your concerns here.

rjh090384

Sorry Gemma don't know your story bout your dd birth but feel free to vent on here!