MSE Pregnancy Club 24

Kitten_Pie

Your not silly Gemma, I am also worrying about labour. I am putting it to the back of my mind and not worry about it for a while but I have that luxury.

Feel free to worry and voice your concerns here.

rjh090384

Sorry Gemma don't know your story bout your dd birth but feel free to vent on here!

MummyOfTwo

GemmaE wrote: »

I'm feeling a bit strange, starting to get a bit panicky about having a baby, mainly due to DDs birth, but I have no one really to talk to; DH can't/ won't mention the baby at all, MIL/ mum says oh don't worry about it, my BF is 33 weeks gone with her first and I don't want to burden her with my woes, 2 others who I could have spoken to have had their babies in the past week and both have only just come out of NICU. I feel so bloody selfish for worrying as we were so lucky with the outcome of DD birth, but all the same it absolutely terrifies me that something will happen this time/ things won't work out well. I keep telling myself how lucky we are not to have had any problems with fertility and miscarriage like so many other people. Am I being really silly and overreacting? I think maybe the best thing to do is for me and DH to fill as much time as possible over the next few weeks getting things done in the house/ school work done so I don't have time to worry. Sorry self-indulgent moan over!

Hope everyone else is OK and welcome newbies, labour vibes to those that need them xx

its really important to talk about it Gemma - its horribly scary and even more so when you know whats coming!

BB1984

sexymouse wrote: »

For those of you having nightmares, have a look at this. My Mum just sent it to me.

Oh my goodness, that made me cry! (I'm an emotional wreck at the moment, everything makes me cry, LOL!) So unbelievably cute, had to share it on facebook

*Nutella* wrote: »

BB, B&Q have a bank holiday offer on where if you spend more than £100 you get 20% off, so if you need other DIY stuff too, today might be a good day to stock up Happy painting!

Thanks Nutella! We did actually go to B&Q and bought loads - despite it being 20% off we still managed to spend £160!! :eek: gulp. Mind you that was paint for 3 rooms, a stairway and landing, plus primer and top coat for the woodwork etc. Also bought some extra rollers as we have helpers coming next weekend and don't want anyone to be empty handed!

Kitten_Pie wrote: »

Miss_Money,

I wanted to offer you support. No matter what the situation many go through the 'was this a good idea' moments. It doesn't make you bad but makes you a good mother for wanting the best for your baby.

If I were in your situation I would look into the options of leaving, what rights you have etc. Not that you will use them but to know what your options are will make you feel that little bit more in control.

Has he always been this way or has he changed with the pregnancy. If it is a recent change it may be he is scared, mens hormones change too etc and arguments and clashes can be blown out of proportion with neither side wanting to back down. (Not saying this has happened but just to be aware that it can)

We are all here to support you no matter how things go. Big hugs

^^ what she said! Kitten is very wise Miss Money, big hugs to you. I have to agree with Elelyn, from what you've said your OH does sound pretty awful The things he's been saying are so out of order at any time, let alone when you're heavily pregnant with his child! The only advice I'd offer is if you want to talk to him, make sure you wait for a time when you're both calm and not upset - everyone ends up saying things they regret when they're angry/hurt. Feel free to moan on here as much as you like, if it helps BTW, FWIW, (gosh lots of acronyms going on there!) I think your baby might be making an appearance sooner rather than later....!

Thanks for all the painting encouragement! Didn't get quite as much done today as I'd hoped, mainly because we were at B&Q for blo0dy hours. However, we did an initial undercoat of the nursery and our bedroom, so it's a good start. I'm suffering for it now though, my hips/pelvis are killing me, and my carpal tunnel syndrome is playing up too, can barely bend my fingers Never mind, I still count myself lucky compared to some of you poor sufferers!

Elelyn, I think that taking the whole of August off sounds like a fine idea! If you can afford the time off, and still have a decent amount of time after the baby's born, then why not? I'm finishing 4 weeks before my due date, and it can't come soon enough, believe me! I have quite a big commute too, and the only reason I've lasted this long is because I've been working from home one day a week, plus had quite a few early finishes etc for various appointments. No point in running yourself into the ground before baby comes, just make sure you've got things to keep you occupied because some people say they get a bit bored... (I'll be busy painting and doing everything I should have done weeks ago!)

BB x

Miss_Money

Gemma- I don't know i'm just going to ignore him for a bit. Its natural to worried about labour no matter how many kids you've had i think. Im worried and i've had 2 before. the pain doesn't worry me but i have panics about the cord being around her neck and silly things like that xx

BB1984

Ooh, meant to say - Jennynoo, congratulations on the birth of your LO! Your birth story is amazing, sounds like a textbook ideal delivery! :T I'm hoping for similar...!

BB x

GemmaE

Thanks everyone, the highlights of DDs birth including waters leaking from 32 weeks, hospitalisation and steroids then twice-weekly scans/ monitoring, induction at 37 weeks which (luckily) again put me in hospital just in time for full on placental abruption leading to quite a bit of blood loss and a get her out now emergency c-section. I think had I have been at home DD would not be the bright and happy girl she is today (I think I had 20 mins from haemorrage starting to her having to be out). 10% chance of repeat this time, but on aspirin to stop clotting in case this caused it.

On a more positive note found a tankini in mothercare for £7.50 today and couldn't resist, not on the website but its cream and brown zebra stripes

rjh090384

My main birth worries are that I was induced with first so have no idea what actually going into labour feels like and also as I have had a lletz treatment worried I may go early which is seriously not an option lol !!!

Miss_Money

rjh- ive gone into labour twice before and im sTILL nervous i wont be able to tell that labour is here ;o

rjh090384

I just need to keep my legs crossed until 1st August!