MSE Pregnancy Club 24

little_miss_moneysaver_3

Evening all!

Well OH got home about 7 and woke me up, feeling a bit fuzzy and headachey but hopefully no more sicky sick. Thank you for all the hugs and lovely messages.
Moneypenny baby does seem to look more like OH as a baby. I'm not really sure tbh he just looks babyish to me lol.
MMM I'm also dreading the drop in pay, even though I know the NHS offers a generous maternity package so I'll be better off than a lot of people. That book sounds really good too. There used to be a thread on here by a lady called Weezl who was her, OH and baby and they lived on 90p a day. I know prices etc are a lot more now, but it's still on here somewhere I think. I'm doing the grocery challenge over on old style thread to. It back a bit. The debt free/mortgage free threads have some good ideas on cutting back or making money.
KittenWhen I qualified three years ago I thought I would be able to save so much as I'd managed on a lower wage for so long, but it's true you spend what you have. So now I'm really trying to cut back in preparation.
SAHM I'd love too but I've kind of worked hard to get my job, although I have to go back after maternity leave. I'm hoping to go back part time. I can't afford to give up work at this time. We just bought our house last summer and probably stretched ourselves a bit to get our house thinking we'd have a couple of years to try and over pay etc.also I do earn a bit more than OH so we would struggle. my sister will help out with child are too so I'm very lucky
Rups tbh I also get confused. I thought these were 3d scans. But they are often referred to as 4d so I now call them that.
Have you tried looking at doing online surveys? I used to do more a couple of years ago. Also I do shop and scan where I just scan my shopping each week, I get vouchers for that. But some surveys you can get PayPal money. Some pay a lot better than others and it's not a guaranteed income. There's a thread on here about upping income. Also there's a comp thread where people post all the latest comps. If you've got a spare ten minutes one day maybe take a look. I set up another email address as I find they can sell your email etc and you get a lot of spam.
Twinklie happy birthday! How annoyed your heart is behaving since you've had the monitor, just typical. Enjoy your tea!
Jedi happy birthday for tomorrow, hope you enjoy your weekend.
RJH I think it's a combination of being 34 weeks, anaemic and the heat! Glad you managed a nap. Try and take it easy if you can.

Well OH has had a good week at work and got some good news so has suggested a takeout for tea. Going back to my post earlier about not wanting me to cook, but also not fancying cooking lol. So trying to think of something light to munch. He came in, put on the tv onto embarrassing bodies which was all about willies and has wandered off! So I've been left with it lol.

Bye for now xx

iluvfreebies

RebekahR wrote: »

Oh my dayz. That was scary. HV asked about abuse issues, previous depression, if drugs, alcohol etc. Didn't know whether to lie about abuse issues and previous depression but thought that if owt ever did happen would make it worse so divulged. So now I guess we are labled as at risk as the abuser was my dad and he would see little lady. Made if very clear though that he is in no state to do anything as he has parkinsons disease and is somewhat decrepid! She asked if he would ever be alone with her and I said no. Bet she thinks i'm going to go mad after the birth as I have no support network either. Ah well. At least she isn't worrying about me and hubby as we are sound but wanted to know if he had previous abuse issues etc as well...

I had this yesterday with the HV as well - i was really shocked at some of the questions she was asking - i wasnt sure what to say to some of them at all. Glad this seems to be a routine thing and not something she had made just for me.
I hate the thoughts of people interfering in our lives - am so not a fan of the authorities

sexymouse

Happy birthday twinklie, and just in case I don't remember tomorrow, Happy Birthday to Laura for tomorrow.

Our pram finally arrived today! :j:T It took us half an hour intially to set it up, make the sun canopy and attach it (took a couple of attempts to get the canopy done - Moon tried first, then I did it, then we attached it to the pram back to front, and had to detach and reattach parts). Then we put the cocoon in and tried to fold it up. We realised the seat was away-facing, so had to detach the cocoon then work out how to detach the seat unit to put it into parent-facing, then reattach the cocoon and fold. This took us another half an hour. Then the fun part - trying to attach the rain cover! Moon and MIL tried first, then I looked at it an realised it wasn't attaching properly as it was back-to-front! :rotfl:Finally got it on and this took a further half an hour of working loops etc out. Luckily now the canopy is on and the seat etc is around the right way, we won't have to worry about that when Bean is born - not looking forward to getting caught in a sudden rainstorm though. We'll definitely need to practice!! It all looks great though, so we're all really pleased with it and MIL is keeping it in her spare room for us until we need it.

Off to get dinner now.

Hugs to all who need or want them, and labour vibes where appropriate.

sexymouse xx

olgadapolga

i!!!!!!!!!!! wrote: »

I had this yesterday with the HV as well - i was really shocked at some of the questions she was asking - i wasnt sure what to say to some of them at all. Glad this seems to be a routine thing and not something she had made just for me.
I hate the thoughts of people interfering in our lives - am so not a fan of the authorities

**delurks**

Firstly, the questions are routine for everyone, so don't worry about that

Secondly, you DO NOT have to see a health visitor, or allow them access to your home or your child if you choose not to. It is a voluntary thing and entirely up to you (as is how much information you choose to divulge

**relurks**

NBirdy

I think I missed the bit where you get interviewed by the HV? :eek: Is that standard? Is it a new thing? I'm pretty sure I didn't get that in previous pregnancies. Won't be at all impressed with a home visit at any stage of the proceedings either :mad:

Kitten_Pie

My midwife went through abuse questions when I first saw her without OH.

little_miss_moneysaver_3

I think meeting hv pre birth is a regional thing.
Kitten same here, although OH was with me and asked if there was an issue with domestic violence. I told her not yet but once the hormones kick in who knows what I'll do to him!

Kitten_Pie

I think it was my last pregnancy on here but someone had an embarrassing conversation with the midwife because she had accidently ticked the box stating that her and OH were related.

Student_Mrs

Good fun catching up with you all today. Had a day off and had a hair cut for the first time since January, feels so much better! was feeling a bit miserable before that, not sure if its because i have been getting up early to take hubby to work as well as not sleeping properly.

Re: work. I always thought that I'd take at least 9 months off and eb an amazing mum and domestic goddess but in reality, having just qualified, I thought I'd be unable to find a job in 9 months time so returning to teaching in Jan 13 only 2 hours a week on a weekend and then planning on starting a new job i interviewed for while 20 weeks pregnant - only 1 day a week but an hour away and if he comes on time, when little man is 10 weeks old - oops!!
I should be eligible for maternity allowance due to my self employment but they asked for payslips for my casual job but the only one i had was May which was about 100£!! waiting til july payday to send off - how long has it taken you all to get a response from maternity allowance??

Happy birthday twinklie and to laura for tomorrow. Was my hubbys tuesday and now he is out tonight with his student friends so could be an interesting night i am missing yummy cocktails it has to be said but also baby moving a lot more today so i know its worth it - even though it does feel like he is trying to push his way out! my next midwife appt is friday 13th - eek!! i did pass my driving test 5 years ago on Friday 13th though so not too worried

hugs to all and labour vibes to the boldies!! xx

ikkle87

moneypenny21 wrote: »

As for strange questions...the MW asked me and OH at the booking appt if we could be related! We looked at each other horrified! I guess they have to ask though!

It's a standard question now because in some cultures it is completely normal to marry a cousin and have children together etc.