MSE Pregnancy Club 24

*Nutella*

Aida wrote: »

Nutella, I can say in words how good I felt after I read you reply. I never talked to anyone about my this. After my mc, I thought I would feel different and I would be...just a little bit nervous but not scared as I'm now. I try not to think but then when I read stories about birth I'm :eek:. I will have to speak to my MW as when I had my booking appointment I asked her not to have the birth options chat as it was too soon (it was all a lie as I wasn't ready to talk about this subject ).

I would love to know that I DO have all the options available to deliver my baby (including via a c-section) but everywhere I read it said that you have to have a really good reason to have a c-section (breech baby, previous c-section) and not just the "too posh to push" justification. Sooo sad when I hear people saying that. I'm not posh, I just can't see myself going through labor and also not resenting my baby or hubby for putting me in that position. Hope I'm not a bad person thinking like that.... I'm really greatful that I'm pregnant and that God gave me another chance to be a mummy but it's just really hard to be happy when I know that I have to give birth .

I feel sooo much better now that someone knows about it.

You are not a bad person Do have a chat with your midwife - she's there to offer you information and support. You may also find that you feel less scared as your pregnancy progresses and you spend time preparing for your baby's arrival - perhaps you'll be able to focus more on the end result (the baby) rather than the labour itself.

NHS guidelines state: 'If you ask for a caesarean section because you are anxious about giving birth, your midwife or doctor should offer you the chance to discuss your anxiety with a healthcare professional who can offer support during your pregnancy and labour. If, after discussion and support, you still feel that you do not want a vaginal birth, you should be offered a caesarean section'. More here: www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/caesarean-section.aspx#close

You have options, you have choices and you have people whose job it is to look after you and ensure you have the best possible pregnancy - and of course you have all the lovely ladies on this forum

LadyMorticia

I'd like to go to classes and things but I'm not sure if ones tailored towards disabled people would be better for me due to my disabilities and health problems, but I've searched and can't find any local to me.

CL

Rebekah don't get too stressed over a section. I had one with my DD as I had 3 attempts at induction and didn't dilate or have any contractions. I found it a really positive experience. I breastfed until DD was over 7 months and called into Tesco to do some shopping on the way home (although I think I pushed it a bit there!).

I was dreading natural labour, partly because of the pain, but also I was terrified of tearing. Which a friend said was ridiculous since I wasn't afraid of being cut open for a section. But it was the location that was the issue!

I could have easily driven within 2 weeks, but since we were practically snowed in for the whole month of December, i just snuggled up with DD for the first month.

I did not have significant pain and I used maternity towels with distilled witch hazel poured over them as a dressing, which I changed every few hours. Within a week my scar was dry, the skin knitted together and now (19 months later) the scar is nearly invisible.

I was referred to a consultant, as I had a previous section and he asked what way I preferred to have this baby. I said "Definitely a section" and he said that I would be booked in for one at 39 weeks. I was so relieved!

I know not everyone will have had as good an experience, but there are good and bad birth stories on both sides.

CL

AidaI read in the NHS guidelines that if you have a consultant who will not agree to a section, you are entitled to ask for another consultant who will be OK with this.

I wanted a section, but resigned myself to having to attempt a "normal" delivery, and I found watching programmes on childbirth made me feel more calm and in control as I felt like I'd seen the best and the worst case scenario and knew what to expect and could think about how I might deal with possible outcomes.

Ended up with a section 11 day overdue though.

Elelyn

rjh I love West Midlands Safari Park. I live not too far away and we usually visit at least once a year. I can't wait until the baby is old enough so I can take him and show him all the animals.

moneypuddle I love that rocking horse. What a bargain!

rjh090384

I'd never been before as I ne'er even been anywhere near there. Took te scenic route from Liverpool saw all little places I never seen before

Rebekah do u find it hard to get up with a head in your diaphragm? I struggling something shocking

Kitten_Pie

I haven't had a long read but skim read through.

Happy Birthday SM

Lovely birth story Mrs, enjoy your time with Teddy.

little_miss_moneysaver_3

Hello everyone!

Sexy mouse happy birthday. Sounds like you've got lots of treats for when bean arrives hope you've had a lovely day.
Rebekah can I pls borrow your MIL for. Few hours just to blitz my cleaning then I'll send her back just tomorrow to get through then she'll be gone. Try and make use of her though, as you said its hard to get ppl in to help out.
Ikklehope you're ok, think I missed why you went to hospital, hope nothing too serious and you're taking it easy. Hugs to you for your hips and sad news
RJH glad you're home safe and had a good time. Hope you sleep well tonight on solid land.
LadyM maybe your midwife would know of any specific classes for you? Still some of the classes sound really good and informative. If you don't enjoy one maybe just don't go back?
Heartbeat bear it was part of the package at the scanning place. It's in Watford. Not the clearest sound tbh but I just loved the idea.
Costco nappies well went today to do some shopping and had a proper look at nappies. I only smaller packs of pampers yday which worked out very similar to supermarket prices. I only looked at pampers. no size 1s and only size 2s in packs of 88. Big boxes seem to be about £20, in these are size3-180 nappies, size4-152 nappies, size 4+-135 nappies. 10-11p a nappy is great for smaller sizes. Obv as baby gets bigger there seems to be less nappies for same price. Johnson wipes were just under £6 for 6pks, which on offers at supermarket you can get. Costco is about 25 min drive, and of course I can never just buy one thing normally see other things that are bargains.
Birthing worries I'm more afraid of having a c section. I'm thinking my body is designed for childbirth, although its failing rapidly at coping during pregnancy lol. Just feel that major surgery and healing time after would not be good for my mental health either, also my body isn't great at healing, and do worry they'll use the wrong stitches or something Although I'm very scared of tearing downstairs :-( I guess we'll just have to see what happens. I have my ideal labour in my head, but you can never plan. Everyone copes and heals differently too. I'm more scared of drs interfering and messing with me really as they think I'm high risk.

Well half time at the footie, cheering Italy but it's not going so well!
Hope everyone is ok, hugs to those that need them and labour vibes to those in need xx

ikkle87

Happy birthday sm x

Love the rocking horse money puddle, did you go to the Ripon one? X

Lmm, basically my hips were sore this morning at half 4, got worse to the point I was getting shooting pains up my back and couldn't move my legs without feeling like I was being kicked by people with steel toe caps on. I have a spinal condition anyway as well as kidneys which are prone to infection rang midwife because paracetamol just wasn't cutting it and they said to go in, they ran out of beds on MAU so I got put on delivery suite (which scared the living daylights out of me) so they could monitor me and do some bloods to check for infections/pancreatitis. Been sent back home to rest and await an urgent referral to physio again because other than tiny shuffles I can't move my legs properly. I declined codeine because it affects my stomach and will cause me even more discomfort.

Bet you wish you hadn't asked now lol.

mishkanorman

Just watching Maternity ward, after being in labour for a freaking age the poor mother gave birth and was then subjected to the midwife 'playing' (screeching) Happy birthday on the violin, cringe cringe cringe


I dont care what else happens as long as no-one does THAT !!


ikkle, hope you get some sleep/rest and the pain eases a little.