MSE Pregnancy Club 24

RebekahR

For me I think the fear is the other way round! I am apprehensive and scared to give birth but once someone told me it's not constant pain I felt a hell of a lot better about it! The idea of "12" hours constant pain I don't think anyone could stand! But what comforts me aswell is that my body has been made and designed to do this. Yes I think I won't cope etc but people wouldn't go back and do it again if it was that bad for everyone. You need to take the pain as 1 contraction at a time. That is say 30-60 seconds of intense pain. And then depending on how far along you are you then have a painfree rest inbetween. Here you can close your eyes - take your sip of water - just rest - etc and then when the next one builds up go through and breath with it. And there are always options of pain relief. I really want the challenge of labour persanally. I want to feel it an work through it and wonder at how amazing my body is! It will know exactly what to do just like it doesnt now in growing the baby and nurturing it. I'm currently odds on to have a caesarea and tbh I am terrified of that! Just being awake when i'm being cut open. Cutting through skin, muscle and my uterus. The pain of having to get over major abdominal surgery, unable to sit up after, unable to breastfeed painfree, unable to lift things, having to rely on people to help me get dressed, toilet etc for at least the first 24 hours. I want my first 24 hours with only my foo foo stretched but still able to care for myself and my newborn. Those 1st 24 hours will be so crucial to my bonding time and to not be able to use this properly as i'm being forced into a caesarean is not comforting for me. (This of course I don't know 100% at moment) but as we are sharing our fears this is just how I feel personally about my birthing preferences. But I can see both side of the coin as it were. TBH all in all however the baby comes out is scary LOLOL.

RebekahR

No my case is not big enough LOL. Current plan is one for me, one or her things and one spare at home for hubby to dip into to bring in things later if/when needed.

mlbarrett

Many happy returns, sexymouse!!

Elelyn

My NCT course is 8 weeks of two hour sessions with the first 5 sessions being run by an NCT antenatal teacher and the last 3, which will be about the practicalites of caring for a newborn, led by childrens centre staff. We are lucky in that our local council is funding the courses in childrens centres so we don't have to pay anything. The first session we all introduced ourselves and then the teacher talked about the stages of labour, what might happen when your waters break, intensity of contractions etc. Also good birth positions (anything but lying on your back basically) and how to encourage the baby into position. Oh, and she showed some pictures of what happens to your body during pregnancy and she demonstrated what a cervix dilated by ten centimetres looks like with a box of dairy triangles!!!

This week was about what the different hormones do during labour and how birth partners can help the woman along the way, what we should be doing to help our bodies help themselves. We also talked through the pro's and con's of being induced. It was really quite detailed and I learnt a lot. DH really enjoyed it too.

Elelyn

Rebekah, according to our NCT teacher during the bit inbetween contractions you get a sort of "natural high" from the hormones and she says you will feel amazing. I'm not sure I completely believe it but I'd like to think that's true! It's certainly got to be helpful to go into it with a positive mindset anyway. As you say it's what our bodies are designed to do.

moneypuddle

Happy birthday sexymouse

Good look to everyone who's due their babies soon

I did a bit of a clothes spending spree today. I did get from a carboot sale a brand new soft rocking horse for £4 this morning. Never even been used. it still had its tags on!

moneypuddle

Elelyn wrote: »

My NCT course is 8 weeks of two hour sessions with the first 5 sessions being run by an NCT antenatal teacher and the last 3, which will be about the practicalites of caring for a newborn, led by childrens centre staff. We are lucky in that our local council is funding the courses in childrens centres so we don't have to pay anything. The first session we all introduced ourselves and then the teacher talked about the stages of labour, what might happen when your waters break, intensity of contractions etc. Also good birth positions (anything but lying on your back basically) and how to encourage the baby into position. Oh, and she showed some pictures of what happens to your body during pregnancy and she demonstrated what a cervix dilated by ten centimetres looks like with a box of dairy triangles!!!

This week was about what the different hormones do during labour and how birth partners can help the woman along the way, what we should be doing to help our bodies help themselves. We also talked through the pro's and con's of being induced. It was really quite detailed and I learnt a lot. DH really enjoyed it too.

This sounds good, except maybe the dairylea bit :eek:
My NCT course is much shorter:

10-4 one day - 6 hours
7-9 the following time - 2 hours
10-4 the following time - 6 hours

So 14 hours, but only 3 sessions. I think shorter more frequent sessions would have been much better. The original course I was booked on was set up with I think about 6 or 7 sessions but due to poor booking numbers, they have had to shift me onto another shorter course (£145 rather than the £170 so got a bit of a refund - very mSE!). Only problem is the classes feel very late (i'll be 37 weeks!)

rjh090384

Home
At last. Made a pit stop at west
Midland safari park on the way. Had a great time pooped now.

I didn't find birth too bad with my first. Tbh the uterine infection I had after was worse than the actual labour. I worried bout c section too rebekah as my little one breech still. Its more the not being able to drive for six weeks which is the worst. That would kill me! If I can't drive I have to walk my daughter a mile and a half to nursery and back home. Don't think that would work lol.


Hope everyone well!

*Nutella*

Aida wrote: »

Nutella, I can say in words how good I felt after I read you reply. I never talked to anyone about my this. After my mc, I thought I would feel different and I would be...just a little bit nervous but not scared as I'm now. I try not to think but then when I read stories about birth I'm :eek:. I will have to speak to my MW as when I had my booking appointment I asked her not to have the birth options chat as it was too soon (it was all a lie as I wasn't ready to talk about this subject ).

I would love to know that I DO have all the options available to deliver my baby (including via a c-section) but everywhere I read it said that you have to have a really good reason to have a c-section (breech baby, previous c-section) and not just the "too posh to push" justification. Sooo sad when I hear people saying that. I'm not posh, I just can't see myself going through labor and also not resenting my baby or hubby for putting me in that position. Hope I'm not a bad person thinking like that.... I'm really greatful that I'm pregnant and that God gave me another chance to be a mummy but it's just really hard to be happy when I know that I have to give birth .

I feel sooo much better now that someone knows about it.

You are not a bad person Do have a chat with your midwife - she's there to offer you information and support. You may also find that you feel less scared as your pregnancy progresses and you spend time preparing for your baby's arrival - perhaps you'll be able to focus more on the end result (the baby) rather than the labour itself.

NHS guidelines state: 'If you ask for a caesarean section because you are anxious about giving birth, your midwife or doctor should offer you the chance to discuss your anxiety with a healthcare professional who can offer support during your pregnancy and labour. If, after discussion and support, you still feel that you do not want a vaginal birth, you should be offered a caesarean section'. More here: www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/caesarean-section.aspx#close

You have options, you have choices and you have people whose job it is to look after you and ensure you have the best possible pregnancy - and of course you have all the lovely ladies on this forum

LadyMorticia

I'd like to go to classes and things but I'm not sure if ones tailored towards disabled people would be better for me due to my disabilities and health problems, but I've searched and can't find any local to me.