MSE Pregnancy Club 24

ikkle87

Rups32 wrote: »

wow so many things i am learning. i think i might check argos too.. ebay sounds just fine though. I was telling my FIL that even clothes etc, i am happy to buy cheap ones as babies use them up so quickly and they keep getting washed.

thanks for the appointment times (ie when to roughly see midwife). i am hoping once imake the 16 week one, i get told of the next one? lol. you just never know as things get missed off.

thanks emsbet. i think i will say that but its DH who keeps saying that, and its annoying me. just because he is on weight watchers doesnt mean he has to keep saying that. I was thinkng about people touching your bump too as i read about that. I have seen DH do it to our friends who have been pregnant and i didnt like that ( i am silly and traditional in they way - well old fashioned) and i dont know how i will stop friends as i find it weird. When we told our gay friends, one of them did do that and before i could say anything, he had touched it and it felt so weird... what do you girls think?

ohhh another question please? how do you find these antenatal classes please? i want to go back to my work gym and start swimming as i gave the gym for a good few months. will just swim and walk. what do these antenatal classes comprise of then? sorry stupid questions but i really dont know.

If someone touches your stomach, touch theirs back. My granddad did it once to me and I did it back to him and said mines only one baby is yours twins, he saw the funny side but he won't do it again. Even my OH asks if he can touch lol.

Antenatal classes - if your going to NHS ones your midwife will normally tell you about them nearer the time. If you want to go to NCT ones it's worth looking on the NCT site for your local area. They can be expensive though. Theres some info here http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/antenatal-classes-pregnant.aspx#close

I like Argos for some of their clothes but their other stuff can be expensive so it does pay to shop around and compare prices.

Your midwife would normally prompt you to book your next appointment. My midwife does anyway although I'm not seeing her till 31 weeks now as I have my 28 week scan and consultant appointment at the hospital so she said theres no point having two for the same thing.

Rups32

Thanks ikkle

The inlaws came and were so pleased to see the scan pictures. been feeling moody with DH as he has been annoying me (just hormones) and he had a go at me when i said i would LOVE to find out the sex of the baby as he doesnt want to know, so he was saying 'you are not finding out'. errr isnt it my baby too? i wont tell him and wont let slip, but i want to know. so then later il said she has a feeling it will be a boy and i just said i would like a girl but wouldnt mind in the end as a healthy baby is more important and then DH said he wants a boy and ijust shouted that if we are meant to have a girl we will! His mum said i was a bit harsh but in a jokey way. oops... why are men so annoying?? maybe its me?

is it still normal to have period type pains? i had an umcomfy belly earlier but its better now and that right pain still
xx

Rups32

ps. thanks ikkle i will do that esp as i never know how to tell people to back off. i didnt like it when DH did it our female friends we know. no way would i like it.

ikkle87

Totally normal to get pains still hun, its everything stretching and growing. I still get them now cos he's having a bit of a growth spurt as well as playing with my sciatic nerve which doesn't help cos it hurts lol.

My OH was very much team blue, all my family thought I was having a girl and admittedly I did too but was very happy to just find out that the baby was healthy and am so used to the fact my baby is a he that I can't imagine any different. It's ok to feel a bit deflated when you find out the gender too if it's not as you imagined.

You never know you might have an awkward baby who doesn't want to flash their bits.

x

Rups32

yes i bet that will happen to us, and then DH can be happy. lol. i am being so silly but i just want to know for me. i wont tell him or anything. he just thinks this baby is his. grrrr... its not in his belly is it? hehe

i keep touching my belly too. ooohh my bro told me he has made someone he is 'seeing' pregnant. my mum is going to kill him as he had been through this before, but the baby wasnt his in the end. poor thing. he hopes this is his baby and he said once the baby is born, he will tell my mum. bad idea!

ikkle87

Haha my dad never told my grandparents my mum was pregnant, she used to wear overalls and they never noticed, she was still riding pillion on his motorbike and everything. Then she got her friend to ring up my grandma and ask if she was in labour as she hadn't been able to get hold of her and knew she was due to give birth soon lol.

Don't be too hard on your OH, it is his baby too, (I know your the one carrying it) but it is hard for them, they have the same fears as we do but they are supposed to be the strong masculine one and so it's not always easy for them to show their feelings. It's all new to both of you and so it's a learning curve. xx

Rups32

i do feel bad now.. i get hormonal and then irrational. he is trying hard but when he starts teasing me etc i dont see the funny side. to be fair i dont know how he puts up with me and my nagging. poor man..:)

FIL made a lovely meal and i couldnt eat too much and now i am getting hungry..:P

ikkle87

The joys of pregnancy it's hormones hun its normal. Don't feel bad. If it makes you feel better my OH gets on my nerves allllll the time. I nearly bopped him one the other day cos he said I looked like Susan Boyle!

Rups32

ouch! lol. i would too. its ok i get it all the time too esp the comment nowadays that i am pregnant and he hasnt let me go. shallow men!!! really!!! my DH is a stand up comedian (well in the process of being one) so he thinks his jokes are funny on my account. lol.

ikkle87

Ah my oh is normally very good about weight etc just this one time he said something without thinking. I can't moan too much as he has really looked after me on my bad days x