MSE Pregnancy Club 24

divorcingjack

woaaaahh! This thread moves SO FAST!

I will never be able to keep up with all your chatting

So, I have been AWOL for a few days, but I have a good excuse - pram shopping, MSE style. I have been slightly in pregnancy denial, so up until about a week ago had bought absolutely nothing. Zilch, nada, zero baby related items.

I finally realised that monkey is actually going to arrive at some point, and probably should have some possessions. In a frenzy of buying - we now have a baby hammock (bargain), breast pump (£10 bargain for a medela swing, RRP £120!!), car seat, ISOFIX base, pram adaptors for said car seat, travel system, AND 2 babygros with hippos on AND a hat.

I feel victorious, if a good bit poorer. I also have an extensive list to of other things and ebay alerts pinging on average about every 7 seconds.

Congrats to any new arrivals, hugs and labour vibes to those who need them.

dj x

twinklie

divorcingjack wrote: »

breast pump (£10 bargain for a medela swing, RRP £120!!)

HOW?? :eek:

bellola

Does anyone have a Pink Lining changing bag? I'm thinking I may treat myself with my bonus I'm due this month. But not sure what to go for, so many options! I'm liking all the Pink ones though! What is the material, is it a wipe clean type?

kelda_shelton

twinklie wrote: »

HOW?? :eek:

I was just about to ask the same thing!!!

Gillyx

fluffnutter wrote: »

Yeah... I think you're going to need to take a few things out of first! The OH dumped his pants and socks in the cot this morning - he said it was a 'useful space'. I shrieked that it was not to become a dumping ground for his manky undercrackers!

My OH done the exact same thing when we built our crib...

divorcingjack

twinklie wrote: »

HOW?? :eek:

kelda_shelton wrote: »

I was just about to ask the same thing!!!

Teehee!! It was badly listed on Gumtree, but in the box, barely used and with brand new box of Lansinoh milk storage bags £5!

Also, I had been stalking gumtree/ebay/preloved, so I emailed about an hour after she put it up. The cheapest one I had seen before that was about £40 :eek:

I'll sell it on when I'm done and might even get my money back :T

Blew all the savings on the pram though :eek:

RebekahR

Well that antenatal class just terrified me! The lady spent all night telling is how babies cry all the time, and how you will be hormonal and want to cry all the time, and you might want to smack your baby you will be so tierd and hormonal. I wanna send the baby back now :-o. She said to leave baby to scream in teh cot and go to the bathroom and have a good cry or go up the garden where you cant hear the baby for 5 minutes. Thing is i know there will be days like that that its all not good but wow I feel down and dreading this now. I had to keep looking at the floor as when she was talking about you will get the baby blues at 4-5 days in I felt like I wanted to cry there and then!!

RebekahR

fluffnutter wrote: »

Yeah... I think you're going to need to take a few things out of first! The OH dumped his pants and socks in the cot this morning - he said it was a 'useful space'. I shrieked that it was not to become a dumping ground for his manky undercrackers!

I am truely laughing out loud as that is what my husband would do!!!!!! :rotfl:Yea we do hehe. All the sheets and covers/blankets are on the aria drying now.

fluffnutter

RebekahR wrote: »

Well that antenatal class just terrified me! The lady spent all night telling is how babies cry all the time, and how you will be hormonal and want to cry all the time, and you might want to smack your baby you will be so tierd and hormonal. I wanna send the baby back now :-o. She said to leave baby to scream in teh cot and go to the bathroom and have a good cry or go up the garden where you cant hear the baby for 5 minutes. Thing is i know there will be days like that that its all not good but wow I feel down and dreading this now. I had to keep looking at the floor as when she was talking about you will get the baby blues at 4-5 days in I felt like I wanted to cry there and then!!

You've just got to find the balance with all the advice you're given, haven't you?

Yes, you might feel like this. But equally you might feel utterly blown away with unconditional love for this beautiful child you and your OH have created and spend days and days gazing in adoration at it (far more likely than slapping it, frankly).

I'm guessing you're feel all sorts of emotions, some bad, but most good. Anyone can say anything really; just take on board the bits you want to and ignore the rest

Gillyx

I'm not gonna lie, for me at the start the bad days totally outnumbered the good. Baby can't do much when they're first born except scream and sleep. You don't get anything back from them and you are drained. But gradually the good days become more and more frequent, until it's just hours here and there that are bad. When baby starts to smile and respond more to you it makes the bad times so much easier.

I still have days where I want to sit in the corner and cry, but you can't you just get on with it and then baby laughs or learns something new and it makes your whole day.

One piece of advice I'd say is be kind to yourself, labour isn't easy for everyone, it's tiring, you may not feel that rush of love towards your baby but it will come, no matter how much a baby is wanted, the initial adjustment from being just the 2 of you and having minimal responsibility and then having this tiny screamy person demanding everything from you is hard, (I believe everyone feels like this but so many people don't admit to it or voice it for fear of being labelled a bad mum) it's normal. You will adjust though and every day is becomes easier and easier xxx

Edit: Emsbet has been listening to us all moan for a few weeks now, so she'l tell you we all have wobbles