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twinklie wrote: »

HOW?? :eek:

I was just about to ask the same thing!!!

Gillyx

fluffnutter wrote: »

Yeah... I think you're going to need to take a few things out of first! The OH dumped his pants and socks in the cot this morning - he said it was a 'useful space'. I shrieked that it was not to become a dumping ground for his manky undercrackers!

My OH done the exact same thing when we built our crib...

divorcingjack

twinklie wrote: »

HOW?? :eek:

[quote=[Deleted User];53721625]I was just about to ask the same thing!!![/QUOTE]

Teehee!! It was badly listed on Gumtree, but in the box, barely used and with brand new box of Lansinoh milk storage bags £5!

Also, I had been stalking gumtree/ebay/preloved, so I emailed about an hour after she put it up. The cheapest one I had seen before that was about £40 :eek:

I'll sell it on when I'm done and might even get my money back :T

Blew all the savings on the pram though :eek:

RebekahR

Well that antenatal class just terrified me! The lady spent all night telling is how babies cry all the time, and how you will be hormonal and want to cry all the time, and you might want to smack your baby you will be so tierd and hormonal. I wanna send the baby back now :-o. She said to leave baby to scream in teh cot and go to the bathroom and have a good cry or go up the garden where you cant hear the baby for 5 minutes. Thing is i know there will be days like that that its all not good but wow I feel down and dreading this now. I had to keep looking at the floor as when she was talking about you will get the baby blues at 4-5 days in I felt like I wanted to cry there and then!!

RebekahR

fluffnutter wrote: »

Yeah... I think you're going to need to take a few things out of first! The OH dumped his pants and socks in the cot this morning - he said it was a 'useful space'. I shrieked that it was not to become a dumping ground for his manky undercrackers!

I am truely laughing out loud as that is what my husband would do!!!!!! :rotfl:Yea we do hehe. All the sheets and covers/blankets are on the aria drying now.

fluffnutter

RebekahR wrote: »

Well that antenatal class just terrified me! The lady spent all night telling is how babies cry all the time, and how you will be hormonal and want to cry all the time, and you might want to smack your baby you will be so tierd and hormonal. I wanna send the baby back now :-o. She said to leave baby to scream in teh cot and go to the bathroom and have a good cry or go up the garden where you cant hear the baby for 5 minutes. Thing is i know there will be days like that that its all not good but wow I feel down and dreading this now. I had to keep looking at the floor as when she was talking about you will get the baby blues at 4-5 days in I felt like I wanted to cry there and then!!

You've just got to find the balance with all the advice you're given, haven't you?

Yes, you might feel like this. But equally you might feel utterly blown away with unconditional love for this beautiful child you and your OH have created and spend days and days gazing in adoration at it (far more likely than slapping it, frankly).

I'm guessing you're feel all sorts of emotions, some bad, but most good. Anyone can say anything really; just take on board the bits you want to and ignore the rest

Gillyx

I'm not gonna lie, for me at the start the bad days totally outnumbered the good. Baby can't do much when they're first born except scream and sleep. You don't get anything back from them and you are drained. But gradually the good days become more and more frequent, until it's just hours here and there that are bad. When baby starts to smile and respond more to you it makes the bad times so much easier.

I still have days where I want to sit in the corner and cry, but you can't you just get on with it and then baby laughs or learns something new and it makes your whole day.

One piece of advice I'd say is be kind to yourself, labour isn't easy for everyone, it's tiring, you may not feel that rush of love towards your baby but it will come, no matter how much a baby is wanted, the initial adjustment from being just the 2 of you and having minimal responsibility and then having this tiny screamy person demanding everything from you is hard, (I believe everyone feels like this but so many people don't admit to it or voice it for fear of being labelled a bad mum) it's normal. You will adjust though and every day is becomes easier and easier xxx

Edit: Emsbet has been listening to us all moan for a few weeks now, so she'l tell you we all have wobbles

emsbet

Not moaning Gilly Definitely one thing I've learnt listening to you all though is that it's bloody hard work but so very worth it. It's ok to feel fed up and tired and like you want to hide in the cupboard under the stairs especially in the early days. It doesn't mean you are a bad mother or doing something wrong but that you are just normal and that there will be bad days but there will also be some wonderful, fabulous moments too. I don't think anything can prepare you for it all completely but I personally am someone who would rather be as prepared as possible and get as much knowledge about it all as possible to better prepare myself.

The lady at the class may not have put it in the best way but she was just trying to prepare you all that it's not all roses and it's perfectly ok to feel fed up. I personally think that better than someone telling you that it will all be wonderful and you were love your baby the instant you see it because then you would just feel even worse about yourself if it doesn't happen. My friend told me it took her a good few days before she even started to feel that rush of overwhelming love.

xx

Gillyx

Also cake makes everything better

emsbet

Gillyx wrote: »

Also cake makes everything better

Always

xx