Opinions....Don't know what to do!

Person_one

peachyprice wrote: »

!!!!!!, the sister isn't being a bridezilla, she doesn't even know anything about OP's holiday.

This is purely about the OP not knowing how her sister will take it. Her sister might be happy as a sandboy that she hasn't got to find more money for her sister and family to attend the wedding, she might jump for joy and say good on you. So why is she being cast as the baddie when she accepted last year her sister wasn't coming and hasn't mentioned it since?

Jesus, I'm glad, listening to some of the embittered trouts here that I haven't got a sister.

From the OP:

"So we explained our situation, faces were pulled and people sulked but that was our decision, we couldn't afford it and that was that."

I assume the face pulling sulker was the sister, but I suppose it could have been parents, they can be a pain about these things too!

crissy73

hmmmm.... i can see from different sides here im getting married in Kefalos this year, although all my guests are all close people i would have wanted at my wedding i have not pressurised them into coming, they have all booked so far i think we have 50 people travelling, but i would have been really dissapointed if my immediate family didnt come then go off a couple of months later on holiday, on the other side i can see money problems where people wouldnt be able to attend as to which i would have been totally understandable.... in the end ive invited my guests if they dont come thats totally fine thats their choice... but they all have and im well excited

Lotus-eater

crissy73 wrote: »

hmmmm.... i can see from different sides here im getting married in Kefalos this year, although all my guests are all close people i would have wanted at my wedding i have not pressurised them into coming, they have all booked so far i think we have 50 people travelling, but i would have been really dissapointed if my immediate family didnt come then go off a couple of months later on holiday, on the other side i can see money problems where people wouldnt be able to attend as to which i would have been totally understandable.... in the end ive invited my guests if they dont come thats totally fine thats their choice... but they all have and im well excited

You seem quite switched on, but I have to point out the facts as you say them.

You understand if someone doesn't come, due to financially not being able to afford it. Yet if they decide to spend their money and any valuable holiday time doing something else, you would have been really disappointed.

You haven't pressurised them, but you still wouldn't have been happy if they decided to spend their money and time somewhere else, because lets face it, it's your wedding and this year should be yours......

I'm honestly not knocking you, you are perhaps one of the better ones, but just trying to see it from another perspective.

bill_creative

We got married abroad and paid for everyone that we wanted there.

That mean't that we couldn't afford a honeymoon (not that we really needed one after an amazing wedding), or go on holiday for a couple of years - but having family there was more important to us... and I wouldn't change a minute of it.

A few of the people that came went on holiday later that year and I never thought to begrudge them that at all (they probably needed it after having to spend a week with my Mother, hee heh).

When we first met, my husband went to his cousins wedding abroad - but as he had no money, his Mum and Aunty helped a bit (and he took a 25 hour bus ride to make it cheaper) and then he bunked with them in their room.

I guess I'm saying that I'm surprised that if you couldn't afford it when your sister asked, then if she had a big problem with it then couldn't they have found a way to get you there (even if it had to be without your whole family)?

Ames

I always thought that getting married abroad was a way of avoiding all the family carp. Looks like I need another secret plan...

balletshoes

Ames wrote: »

I always thought that getting married abroad was a way of avoiding all the family carp.
Looks like I need another secret plan...

if you do it right, it is .......;)

ceegee

I have only read the first page....that was enough!

Maybe I am a boring old f..t, but I am shocked that some people expect their wedding guests to shell out £2500 to attend their wedding abroad.
This is a HUGE amount of money. If a couple want nice sunny climes to celebrate their nuptials, then why not have the wedding here and then have their honeymoon abroad?

The very existence of this thread shows how problematical weddings abroad can be.

But maybe it's just me.........:o


PS I have just read some more of the thread and can see that there are many others who feel this way! It's crackers to expect people to fork out thousands of pounds to attend a wedding.

Lotus-eater

Ames wrote: »

I always thought that getting married abroad was a way of avoiding all the family carp. Looks like I need another secret plan...

Just do what me and my cousin did, just not tell anyone about it till afterwards

Derivative

ceegee wrote: »

PS I have just read some more of the thread and can see that there are many others who feel this way! It's crackers to expect people to fork out thousands of pounds to attend a wedding.

It's crackers to expect people to spend anything more than a nominal sum.

I'll pay reasonable costs to travel to a relative's wedding, and I'll wear my best threads. Why should I spend any more of my money on them?

I don't go to work to watch people get married.

aliasojo

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Just do what me and my cousin did, just not tell anyone about it till afterwards

Did you marry your cousin? Or was this 2 separate weddings?

I used to tell my cousin I was going to marry him. Poor boy almost used to wet himself. :rotfl: