Opinions....Don't know what to do!

Mojisola

burnoutbabe wrote: »

it does appear that people are allowed to say "sorry, I can't afford it" but what you are NOT allowed to say is "well I could afford it, but thats not how I would want to spend £2k and our 2 weeks holiday"

This is my big problem with getting invited to a wedding abroad.

I probably wouldn't want to spend my money on the trip - their choice, their timing - but, when it's a close family member, there would be a lot of emotional pressure to go.

kelda_shelton

Was the children being taken out of school discussed when she originally booked? If this was not mentioned at that point, then it may look odd that this then beomes an issue now. How old are your children? Are they at an important schooling age that these 10 days could have an impact? Could you ask the school to provide you with homework to take with them?

Re: money.

I did exactly what other are suggesting when my sister got married (for the 2nd time also) in Kos. I stayed in a hotel down the road from my sister that was significantly cheaper to stay in.. I was close enough though that my nieces ended up using my hotels kids club and eating in the AI restaurant with us one or two days! we also only went for a week while my sister went for 2 weeks.

Other guests attended the wedding but were in completely different resorts. So I'm sure you could find a deal within your price range at the same time. And I'm sure that members of the MSE forum would help you t find deals if you asked!

peachyprice

kelda_shelton wrote: »

Was the children being taken out of school discussed when she originally booked? If this was not mentioned at that point, then it may look odd that this then beomes an issue now. How old are your children? Are they at an important schooling age that these 10 days could have an impact? Could you ask the school to provide you with homework to take with them?

The child started school in September, so reception probs.

balletshoes

I've been thinking a bit more about alternative options, to try and keep everyone fairly happy -

you don't take your child out of school for 2 weeks in May and go to the same hotel as your sister - but could you take him out for a few days and maybe do 3 or 4 days in a nearby hotel, do it all DIY, have a nice little break in the sunshine and attend your sisters wedding? 10 days out of school (unless its reception year, which isn't compulsory education anyway) I wouldn't even consider to be honest, it would be a no-no for me - but I would have told my sister that at the start.
Obviously holidays from work etc would need to be looked into, to see if that was feasible.

You could then maybe manage a week away in July too?

Or - stick with your July dates, and go somewhere else (not Turkey).

Or - if you don't object to taking your child out of school for 10 days in May, have your summer holiday then, in Turkey, near to but not on top of, your sister and your relatives.
That way you get to have your family holiday, and you can go to the wedding on the day. I don't see any reason at all why you would need to forgo a family holiday and do everything en masse with the sister and your extended family, just because you are in the same country as your sister's wedding party - its only one day out of your fortnight, and it would be an enjoyable thing to do on your holiday, wouldn't it?

pimento

OP, keep schtum about your holiday in July until after the wedding and then tell everyone you had a small lottery win so are going away.

Lotus-eater

pimento wrote: »

OP, keep schtum about your holiday in July until after the wedding and then tell everyone you had a small lottery win so are going away.

I don't think lies help in these circumstances, better to be upfront. If you are ever found out to be lying, it would get much worse.

pimento

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I don't think lies help in these circumstances, better to be upfront. If you are ever found out to be lying, it would get much worse.

Not even a small one to keep bridezilla off your back?

Lotus-eater

pimento wrote: »

Not even a small one to keep bridezilla off your back?

Not for me. But each to their own.

Person_one

pimento wrote: »

Not even a small one to keep bridezilla off your back?

Bridezilla attitudes will just worsen and proliferate if nobody ever lets them know they aren't the centre of the universe!

peachyprice

!!!!!!, the sister isn't being a bridezilla, she doesn't even know anything about OP's holiday.

This is purely about the OP not knowing how her sister will take it. Her sister might be happy as a sandboy that she hasn't got to find more money for her sister and family to attend the wedding, she might jump for joy and say good on you. So why is she being cast as the baddie when she accepted last year her sister wasn't coming and hasn't mentioned it since?

Jesus, I'm glad, listening to some of the embittered trouts here that I haven't got a sister.