Nice people thread part 5 - nicely does it

Davesnave

Loved it, Wheezy! :rotfl:




Must point out though, flaunting 'Cornish Ice Cream' this side of the Tamar would soon attract bovver from buxom Devon maids with enormous buns (and the clotted cream + jam to go in them, of course! )

There's a lot of competition over high chloresterol living in these parts. Ah yes, they may have their pasties, but we have hog's puddings, cream teas and lardy cake!

zagubov

I've wasted a day on the phone and in my local bank branch trying to sort out last night's Paypal debacle where it debited my mortgage-paying current account instead of my credit card . :eek:

Will spend days now expensively drawing money via ATMs to feed into my bank as my credit card company can't transfer funds to my bank even though they're now the same foreign-owned bank. Took me all day to leap the security hurdles and errors that stopped me deven drawing that cash. Still at least my credit card account is secure. Shame it's so secure I can't really use it for, say, buying stuff.

Don't know which organisation- Paypal (bought by ebay) or my acqusitive foreign bank that took over my separate credit card and current account companies - was the more useless. It sometimes felt easier when Paypal wasn't actually integrated into ebay. Maybe there should be a rule that every time one company takes over another they pay penalties if they don't improve the service.:mad:

Percy1983

zagubov wrote: »

I've wasted a day on the phone and in my local bank branch trying to sort out last night's Paypal debacle where it debited my mortgage-paying current account instead of my credit card . :eek:

Will spend days now expensively drawing money via ATMs to feed into my bank as my credit card company can't transfer funds to my bank even though they're now the same foreign-owned bank. Took me all day to leap the security hurdles and errors that stopped me deven drawing that cash. Still at least my credit card account is secure. Shame it's so secure I can't really use it for, say, buying stuff.

Don't know which organisation- Paypal (bought by ebay) or my acqusitive foreign bank that took over my separate credit card and current account companies - was the more useless. It sometimes felt easier when Paypal wasn't actually integrated into ebay. Maybe there should be a rule that every time one company takes over another they pay penalties if they don't improve the service.:mad:

Sounds a proper pain, at least you know its happened and can act on it.

I have spent all day doing my first big job for my new business, so far so good.

SingleSue

I think we should remove dad's debit card for his own financial safety!

Today, in the space of about an hour, he offered to buy youngest an Ipad, buy mum an expensive pair of shoes, buy me an expensive outfit (me and mum were in the same ladies shop) and then offered to buy mum a huge screen television...all of us are scared to say we like something, or even look at anything now as we have to go through the same embarrassing routine of refusing the gift and the hurt look in his eyes (although they are not bad off, they really can't afford these expensive gifts if their savings are to last the rest of their lives)

He is just so blooming impulsive now, we have to be very careful with phone calls to the house as he would just say yes to what ever the person on the end of the phone is suggesting....mum has now trained him to say he would need to speak to his daughter before commiting but he doesn't always remember.

It's frightening how quickly he is going downhill, how confused he is becoming, yet at other times, he can speak with clarity and intelligence so that people outside the family think mum is just being a drama queen. She is exhausted with the constant checking up on what he is doing (they would have been gassed long ago if she didn't) and the constant worry about the series of mini strokes he is having and how long he has left.

I just find it so hard to believe that in just two years (well not quite two years), he has gone from an energetic, clear thinking, intelligent and sensible man to a shuffling, impulsive, almost toddler like at times person. He looks up to me now rather than the other way around, he will defer to my opinion rather than anyone elses (it's that darn sensible label I have) and seeks my approval...all very confusing for me as he is my dad and I look up to him!

LydiaJ

Oh Sue, how awful. It's so hard to watch someone deteriorate like that - I know.
Hugs to you and your family.

zagubov

Percy1983 wrote: »

Sounds a proper pain, at least you know its happened and can act on it.

I have spent all day doing my first big job for my new business, so far so good.

It was a complete PITA! Gotta change the way I do things financially! Well that's not a surprising conclusion seeing as we're on the MSE site!

Hope all went well today (yesterday) Percy, in the new job

PasturesNew

Percy1983 wrote: »

I have spent all day doing my first big job for my new business, so far so good.

Ooh. business.... what do you do?

Or, if you're following the recent elocution lessons news story: wot u du?

PasturesNew

SingleSue wrote: »

I think we should remove dad's debit card for his own financial safety!

'Luckily' for me, my old never spent money, nor had any financial responsibility, so once the first old had gone the second one deteriorated, I was pretty much in ownership and control of the card within a week or two. The old had never used plastic (not even debit cards) and worked solely on cash.

Then the old deteriorated so rapidly (almost overnight) that what they might buy or spend was never an issue.

I have complete financial responsibility for all the cards and all the cheque books and I sort it all out. All the old needs to know is "have as many biscuits as you want, the dinners here are free so you enjoy them"

I have official PoA (took 5 months from start to end to get it in my hand - and even then banks make you do more !!!! to use that), but I had actual carte blanche right back to just before the first old died, with all PIns/cards meekly handed over.

I've let the old keep a couple of shiny £1 coins in their purse and they're happy.... they have nowhere to spend them, so two £1 coins is good for the year.

michaels

I wonder how I can persuade the DW that I need to take all her cards away too....

neverdespairgirl

SingleSue wrote: »

I'm with you there, I have just spent the last week doing the same with youngest.....and then I got the cold and still feel eugh today and I had the major asthma attack last night, so role reversal a little with youngest having to rush to get my puffers out.

michaels wrote: »

Hopefully the calpol and puffer will gets us through the night ok but his pathetic little cough is so heart-rending. With all 3 DKs having coughs and colds this week and thus me having severly broken nights it has felt like a very long week.

Are you all feeling a bit better now? I hope so.

It's so horrible when your children are ill, and you can't just make them better. Isaac generally enjoys rude health (he's only ever taken antibiotics once, for example) but he suffered quite badly from reflux as a baby, and ended up in UCH with a drip in his head when he was 4 weeks old, and that was terrifying.