Not sure what to make of it

Lotus-eater

balletshoes wrote: »

a pack of 10 cigs are around £4 aren't they, depending on the brand (my OH is trying to stop because they are getting so expensive).

Get him to try ecigs and this may help
http://allaboute-cigarettes.proboards.com/index.cgi

If he wants to stop, then this is the perfect time. If he can stop by himself or some other method then great. if he can't... try the above, you have nothing to lose.

*Louise*

Well, it's not really about the money is it?

It's the fact he is sneaking about, hiding things and not speaking to his wife about any problems he may be having.

That would hurt my feelings and would warrant a sit down and a chat about things to try and clear it up. Being understanding will go further in a relationship than flaring up and thinking of the other person as a thief.

Sambucus_Nigra

KiKi wrote: »

Dare I suggest you both behave like adults and sit down and have a sensible, considerate, calm conversation about it?

Hell no - let's start a thread on it and ask people we don't know to sit in judgement on people they don't know. Much better idea. :T:T:T

Sambucus_Nigra

KiKi wrote: »

tinkerbell...You try to understand what's going on, not chuck them out the house the first time they do something out of character.

Hell no - you do whatever W.H.A.T.E.V.E.R you can to bump up your post count, as the more 'controversial' you are, the more people argue with you and the more self satisfied you can be about how engaged you are in other people's lives without lifting a finger. :T:T:T

VitaK

bell12 wrote: »

Said he was skint - well he should have asked to borrow (hes knows I happily would) not go behind my back like that. Then found out about the fags. He says sorry etc etc and says in he does love me and hope I realise his good points outweigh the bad. Until this point I didn't think he had bad points.

A comment like that would make me go mental. If he got a clean track record, which it sounds like, I would not escalate this into something it isent. I would however be worried about him hidding the money jar. Sit down and talk about it.

I would be fuming if my wife said she would be home at 5pm and first turned up at 11.30pm without saying anything.

aliasojo

How long have you been together OP?

Jinx

Sounds like hes skint and a bit embarassed about it! A calm chat is called for.....(says the queen of rants lol) Maybe he overspent on your xmas pressies?? Def not a marriage breaker IMO. Lets face it, if you can break up over that then its not a marriage you are very committed to!

pinkclouds

bell12 wrote: »

Up until now I've trusted him 100% but I don't after this.. I'm shocked he could be so sneaky..why go behind my back....what else could I have missed? I'm asking myself what sort of man have I married.:( How could he be so untrustworthy

If he's never caused you any anxiety up till now then his behaviour is seriously out of character and you need to talk to him and find out what the problem is. Once you know the truth, then you may be able to understand and forgive/forget. It could be something totally trivial that merits your spousal support. Or it might not. But don't jump to conclusions - be brave and get the facts first. x

claire16c

bell12 wrote: »

Yesterday me and husband go to the petrol station, he pays for £5 petrol and says I owe him the money.

Tbh all I read was this and wondered if hes your husband or your mate.

Who owes their husband £5? Or 'lends' it in the first place.

Just odd.

peachyprice

balletshoes wrote: »

a pack of 10 cigs are around £4 aren't they, depending on the brand (my OH is trying to stop because they are getting so expensive).

I don't think they are, my OH pays £5.36 for 20.