Email/phone agreement by a Hypnotherapist

Whittleme

paddyrg wrote: »

To allow for the vagueries of the post, I would personally suggest 14 days from receipt (send it signed-for or special delivery so you can start the clock), which would be enough time to receive the letter, decide whether or not to start court action, and respond.

Does anyone know how quickly the court will process papers? If anyone knows, that would be really helpful. In case it takes 3 weeks or something, it may be worth rephrasing things slightly along the lines of "should you choose to sue through the courts, please send formal notice of your intention and copies of any evidence which you propose to present within 14 days of receipt of this letter". Maybe something sort of a bit like that - no point setting a cut off date if the courts are processing slowly, as no matter how slowly the process the paperwork, you still have to respond once they do! An excellent point I shall look into that, cheers paddyrg!

You have a great way of thinking paddyrg, I'm sure I will get most if not all the angles covered from all your help, paddyrg and all the other MSE posters! Many many thanks!

Whittleme

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

If that's true and she charges £4500 per course, her accounts that are available from Companies House (for £1) will show you if she's doing that well....

Good thinking scheming_gypsy, thanks!

I'll have to find which business account she has me under as I've since found out she has a few. I could look at all of them I suppose...

But she is VAT registered, well I think she is as the invoice had a VAT number on it and you have to be earning over £73K to be VAT registered.

£73K per year plus is a pretty darn good living if you ask me!

scheming_gypsy

I think if you earn over 73k a year you have to be registered, but you can be registered (optional) if you earn less... could be talking out of my arse though

Whittleme

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

I think if you earn over 73k a year you have to be registered, but you can be registered (optional) if you earn less... LOL @ could be talking out of my arse though

I don't know, if anyone does please post, it would be interesting to know.

scheming_gypsy

Aye i was right .. http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/vat/start/register/when-to-register.htm

Whittleme

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

Aye i was right .. http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/vat/start/register/when-to-register.htm

Smarty pants

Good night scheming_gypsy, I'm off to bed! Thank you again for all your input x

unholyangel

Remember, turnover and what the owner earns arent necessarily the same thing

regency_man

What is interesting about these NLP/hypnosis things is that it can all be learned from a book, the techniques (if you can call them that) are actually incredibly simple, anyone can learn them in a few days. They key to make NLP work is that the person has to BELIEVE it will work. Therefore saying you are the best in the business and that you have a 99% success rate etc is not just advertising, it is also part of making the person believe that the hypnotist/NLP practitioner is somehow 'powerful' and can change you.

You'll see whenever Derren Brown (TV guy) does one of his NLP exercises he starts with a big group and whittles it down to a few people who he freely admits are the people who are most suggestible.

I've been told by an NLP 'practitioner' we met though work training that I am 'unhypnotisable', I'm simply too cynical and logical minded. So instead they spent the time teaching me some basic techniques (anchoring, pattern interrupts etc). Now if I ever tried those basic techniques back on them or on people at work who went on the same course, they would never work, because they know what I am trying to do and the mind defends against it. However when I slightly embellished the truth and told my friends in the pub that I had been fully trained as an NLP practitioner and could change parts of their life if they wanted, they ate it up. A couple asked me to work with their daughter who was very clever but had severe exam nerves which caused her to panic and not perform. So I did an hour with her, anchoring calm feelings to the exam scenario and a few other tricks. Sure enough, after her next exam I got lovely thankyou note from her saying it had all worked, she didn't feel nervous at all in the exam and was sure she'd done really well. So I wrote them an invoice for £500 - joking of course, I would never charge a friend for that.

Anyway, the best thing that the NLP guys taught me were that you are entirely in control of your own feelings. Easy one to try right now, if you are feeling a little sad or upset, just stop, stare at these words and say to yourself several times 'I am happy' and you'll find yourself cracking a smile and thinking a bit more positively.

So, anyway, I wish you the best of luck with your situation, this woman won't get any more money out of you. Don't fall for the hype again, NLP is someone else trying to change your behaviour, but you can also change your own behaviour - you just have to believe that you can.

Whittleme

unholyangel wrote: »

Remember, turnover and what the owner earns arent necessarily the same thing

This is very true unholyangel! x

I think I took her at her everyword as she seemed to understand where I was coming from and sounded like she could really help me get my life back on track. So I thought she has obviously helped plenty of others too, and again she may have but she is more about the money than actually being caring enough to genuinly wanting to help them.

Whittleme

regency_man wrote: »

What is interesting about these NLP/hypnosis things is that it can all be learned from a book, the techniques (if you can call them that) are actually incredibly simple, anyone can learn them in a few days. They key to make NLP work is that the person has to BELIEVE it will work. Therefore saying you are the best in the business and that you have a 99% success rate etc is not just advertising, it is also part of making the person believe that the hypnotist/NLP practitioner is somehow 'powerful' and can change you.

You'll see whenever Derren Brown (TV guy) does one of his NLP exercises he starts with a big group and whittles it down to a few people who he freely admits are the people who are most suggestible.

I've been told by an NLP 'practitioner' we met though work training that I am 'unhypnotisable', I'm simply too cynical and logical minded. So instead they spent the time teaching me some basic techniques (anchoring, pattern interrupts etc). Now if I ever tried those basic techniques back on them or on people at work who went on the same course, they would never work, because they know what I am trying to do and the mind defends against it. However when I slightly embellished the truth and told my friends in the pub that I had been fully trained as an NLP practitioner and could change parts of their life if they wanted, they ate it up. A couple asked me to work with their daughter who was very clever but had severe exam nerves which caused her to panic and not perform. So I did an hour with her, anchoring calm feelings to the exam scenario and a few other tricks. Sure enough, after her next exam I got lovely thankyou note from her saying it had all worked, she didn't feel nervous at all in the exam and was sure she'd done really well. So I wrote them an invoice for £500 - joking of course, I would never charge a friend for that.

Anyway, the best thing that the NLP guys taught me were that you are entirely in control of your own feelings. Easy one to try right now, if you are feeling a little sad or upset, just stop, stare at these words and say to yourself several times 'I am happy' and you'll find yourself cracking a smile and thinking a bit more positively.

So, anyway, I wish you the best of luck with your situation, this woman won't get any more money out of you. Don't fall for the hype again, NLP is someone else trying to change your behaviour, but you can also change your own behaviour - you just have to believe that you can.

Thank you for your lovely post regency_man!

I have come to realise from reading yours and all the other posts, that the answers are within me already and I need to believe in me to change me.

It was sheer desparation that led me down the Hypnosis path, I didn't want a quick fix like surgery, or a crash diet, I knew the problem was in my head but I thought I needed someone else to unlock the problem, but I do know now I will be able to do it myself with a little help and peer support from genuine people who aren't just after making a quick buck and take advantage of me.

I am so delighted to find that there are so many people out there who are willing to give their time up to help and advise a completely stranger who has asked for their help. Things happen for a reason and perhaps this is the way I had to learn this lesson, to finally believe in me. Thank you.