MOOLOO'S continuing saga Part 4

Savvy_sewing

Well the car insurance has been paid, it turned out to be £303.99 after the fact that my mileage has gone up, and that I wanted to have a replacement car cover immediately. But it could be worse I suppose.
I ordered my Euro's as well. Probably not the cheapest way of doing it, but I just wanted to have it done before the rest of the money disappears into the living pot while I await my money from Social.
I babysat DGD2 today. DGD1 went to her Mum for the morning. So I had lunch with my eldest before collecting her.
We were going to go and see Molly with her Birthday gifts but alas she is unwell and unable to receive visitors. Its her Birthday tomorrow. Hopefully she will be better for the day.
I have been doing more washing for Twin2, to catch up on the 2 year pile! But its raining on and off, so getting it dry is a bit more tricky. The tumble feature on my machine is not very efficient so try not to use it that way.
DGD is driving me nuts. Must be the school holiday syndrome that parents go through. I know there was a reason why I had her in school clubs last year.
Still waiting to hear if DS has the job with his dad's firm. If he does he better not let his dad down this time. He did before I am sure some of you will remember.
I am tired now, and will be glad of bedtime for both of us. Last night DGD was a real pain, and would not settle and let me have my bath in piece. I was more exhausted after it, becuase of dealing with her, then I was before I went in. Normally I am revieved.
The neighbours are being pains about the parking outside, and driving me to feel villanous. But whats the point? I will just smile sweetly and have to park across the road in the bus stop. ( And hope that a bomb drops on them from upon high!!!).
Tomorrow I will be going into town again afterall, as DS needs a lift into sign on, and I need to pick up a fabric order I placed last week. (Only a few £ for some pink polycotton, to finish a dress I am making for the girls. Or should I say dresses.)l
Twin2 has asked me to take her to a LAC review about the boys. We have to go to Corby so I will need to find child care for DGD and find out where we are to go, and how to get there.
Then the next day, I have the new Social worker for her coming out to do her assessment. All systems go for Twin1's assessment package. She will start receiving her carers 10 hours a week from next week. Thank goodness. That should help no end and I cannot actually believe that its going to happen, after all these years of trying to get them help.
DS wants to stay in Towcester again, so it may be promising if there hasnt been any problems with him being there lately. We will contact the housing and see if they will allow it on a more permanant basis. It would mean twin2 will have someone with her and leaves her less vunerable, and he will be able to get to and from the job if he gets it. It will also leave me with a spare room to sew from again, although I will also end up with the room tax when it comes in. But I will just have to swallow that if I want to have the spare room back. We will see what transpires.
Had a text from my parents today. All well in France, but heavy rains there as well. My Brother and his partner are off out there today with a van load of stuff, ready for thier complete move at the end of the month. I wonder if this will actually lead to my parents deciding to move out there permanantly, with both my brother and my sister out there.
Time to do the tea.

Molly41

Sorry Moo x

Savvy_sewing

Molly41 wrote: »

Sorry Moo x

Oh you don't have to be Sorry, you can't help being unwell. You must take care and get well soon. Biggest of Hugs. Sent you a PM> xx

Savvy_sewing

Well I am not sure what my day will bring today. All the plans have been rather mixed up. Such is life.
Currently DGD is watching the opening ceremony from the Olympics AGAIN. We are at the Rowan Atkinson bit.
I have had to use the tumble facility on the washing to get it dry, as the rain has been steady most of the night. I had left a load on the line in the end. Stuff on the airer nearly dry. But have a basket full that I want to take back this morning.
I am taking DS to sign on after all, but have not got any councilling today. He is on his holidays. So have a less stressful start to my day.
No rushing-yet. Didnt book the hairdressers so I will have to see if I can get in another day. Will just have to make do with trying to do it myself after a shower.
Still no sign on the money front. But at least the savings have covered all the things I had to pay out. But the coffers are just about on Zero now. Savings wise its gone, and the main account is also running very low. Luckily I have an overddraft facility. But didnt want to use it. Never have before and didnt want to get into that slide ever again.
I am trying not to stress but obviously its high on my priority list to have sorted out. Sooner rather then later, I can feel that the stresses are higher, I can feel a tighter chest, shoulders and am trying desperately to ease my shoulders etc as soon as I notice. I have noticed my health is starting to slide, and I feel so much more agitation all over again.
Right off for a shower, the hot water on them helps for a start.

Savvy_sewing

I have woken up rather jaded today. An accumulation of doing too much, and lack of sleep. I kept waking up, and then at around 6 this morning, the vehicles in the street started to move and that was it.
Twin 1 has just rang asking for some money to get home from this job training that she is doing.! Great she needs nearly £40 for the next 4 days worth of buses. She only gets about 12 hours worth of work so she will not get much out of any wages. Will I actually see any of it back? No. Do I have that kind of spare money. No not really,. It will have to come out of the savings of DGD, her own daughters funds. EEK. I am so fed up of the Bank of Mum. But feel terriblyguiltyif I dont actually help.

thorsoak

Mooloo wrote: »

I have woken up rather jaded today. An accumulation of doing too much, and lack of sleep. I kept waking up, and then at around 6 this morning, the vehicles in the street started to move and that was it.
Twin 1 has just rang asking for some money to get home from this job training that she is doing.! Great she needs nearly £40 for the next 4 days worth of buses. She only gets about 12 hours worth of work so she will not get much out of any wages. Will I actually see any of it back? No. Do I have that kind of spare money. No not really,. It will have to come out of the savings of DGD, her own daughters funds. EEK. I am so fed up of the Bank of Mum. But feel terriblyguiltyif I dont actually help.

Mooloo - she should be able to claim travel costs from the job training surely! It would be worth a couple of phone calls to find out.

Savvy_sewing

thorsoak wrote: »

Mooloo - she should be able to claim travel costs from the job training surely! It would be worth a couple of phone calls to find out.

Thanks I will try and find out.
I have been trying to relax this weekend and to enjoy the lovely weather that we have had.
Friday was a busy full on day with the Children for the whole day. Biggest of Mooloo had gone to a theme park for the day with her friends. I had the baby until the Dad was finished work, then took her to his place for the weekend before I could go home. With a hectic dash to pick up DS and to get him and his friend, (and the lawn mower) back to Towcester intime for him to do some work in the pub. I wish that he had more than one shift, sometimes two as then he would not have to keep going to sign on. Same as twin1, she wont be doing enough hours to not sign on, but the money they have is altered etc, due to the income. Which is only fair, but of course will leave them no better off. Just hopefully a job will give them self esteem and more hours may follow.

I have had to chase and chase the Social Services and I have had a standard reply from my complaint saying that I should get a result by the 5th September.
I have replied that thats not good enough and I want it investigating properly.
I have emailed the 2 Social Workers and one department head, today, asking for an urgent meeting to be held and to give me my funding etc etc. I have told them what position it has left me in, and how it has built on my stress levels, and that this has impounded on my sleep, and health again.
That I will now be seeking legal advise as i feel that this has gone on long enough.
I know that my Solicitor isnt about this morning but i will be calling her later today. I could do with finding out her email address and sending a complaint by email. I find it easier to write an email then a letter. Dont know why.

DGD has been up to her usual tomboy antics, and I am worried that she may have ADHD and Dyspraxia like her mother. She is never stopped. From the moment she gets up to the time she goes to bed, she is "bouncing" off of everything. the bruises up her shins are terrible. She has an Accident with a drink or a plate, ever single day, at least once. she is clumsy and the proverbial bull in a china shop. Or the whirling of a tasmanian devil may be more appropriate.
I fear that she has the same as the twins and the thought of dealing with it all over again is scaring me. I am trying not to be negative, but keeping positive and saying that I can handle it, can sometimes be thought more in fear, then in belief!.

Time to get on. Jobs to do.
The sewing list is growing, and the hand sewing patchwork is growing too.
The machine work still needs to be caught up though. I have projects that I want to tackle, if only my energy was not focused on the Social.
This week, tomorrow I am taking twin2 to the LAC review for the boys. It will be a very emotional day as its held in the Nursery that the boys are in, and she may not be able to see them. To go so close will break her heart.
I am concerned for her mental health over the boys as it is. I have been doing the washing all week to catch up on the mountain that was in her kitchen. You would have to see to believe it, and amongst it all is a large selection of the boys clothes and bedding etc. These things should not be around 2 years later!.
I fear that she has not faced up to things after all. She thinks that they will still come back to her. But she forgets that they will not need their baby clothes!. I have suggested that if she wants to keep thier things, then she should box them up and put them in the attic, that its not good for them to be around all the time. But we will see.
The battle to get her help is the uppermost focus now. Twin1's help should be starting this week.
I have a meeting on Wednesday about twin2 and to get her assessed. As she is in reciept of DLA unlike her sister it should be easier. Well I hope so.
I want to relax more, and to try and enjoy my time with DGD and not have to stress over the mothers.

Savvy_sewing

Gosh its a muggy day today.
It tried to rain a few minutes ago, so I ran out to the washing! Yep I actually managed to break into a little run!. How much better am I!!!
Brought the washing in, then the dam rain stopped again. But my arm is not as good, I dont want to stretch it anyfurther, I have done quite a bit of driving today, and its never good after that.
I managed to do my food shopping, from Aldi in Towcester while Molly's daughter kept an eye on DGD for me. I am sure the shop would have cost more If she had been with me. It usually does.
I did purchase some school shorts and swimming costume with the shopping, and an animal repelant for my front garden. Next doors cat is continually using my front as a loo, never mind bringing dead animals to the door step. All with in £41 so I am pleased with that. Although I couldnt put it on a CC, had to use what was in the bank. Which is touch and go for using the overdraft, but thats just the way it will have to be at the moment.
My thoughts should be running to the housework around me again. But I am rather pooped now!. Cup of tea and a biscuit perhaps will get me going again.
Keep checking my emails to see if the council have responded but not yet.
Took the last of the washing that I had done for Twin2 back to her as well. I didnt bring anymore back, as I want to concentrate on ours now. But she still seems to have a mountain.
DS was still there, and was not inclined to come home. So I am leaving him to it.
Saves me on food and electric afterall.
Molly's daughter is going to look after DGD tomorrow for me while I take twin2 to her LAC review. Then on Wednesday DGD will have to go to her mums for a few hours.
I have misplaced my mobile phone which is a bit stupid of me, and I think I left it on silent! Oh well thats the way it goes.
It will turn up eventually.

Savvy_sewing

Lost my post! so annoying.
The funding is still not appearing in the bank.
The credit card went out already today, (usually goes out on the 16th so I was not expecting the balance of £19.58!). So its into overdraft we go today, as the food shopping of yesterday is to go out today/tomorrow still.
There are also DD's due out tomorrow.
My Child Tax credits of £60.95 will not cover those.
Am really fed up.
The nerves are a bit raw this morning. Was up at 6am. Least last nights washing up has been done, and now the kitchen looks much better after yesterdays purge. The deepfat fryer was the killer, that took ages to do, and was hard going on my arms. Feeling it in the neck and left arm today.
Got to go to Corby today. Not looking forward to it. Never been there, and relying on the Sat nav to get us where we are to go.
Molly's daughter will have DGD for me.
Eldest rang last night. She is concerned as her tenancy runs out in September, and she has not been told if she can renew it just under her name now that her partner has gone. They wanted a guarantor, and she hasnt got one.
God help us, I hope that she will not end up on the homeless pile as well. Can I take much more of all of this? I suppose I have to.
Where was I when the lifes issues were handed out? must have been the first in the queue.

Savvy_sewing

Having a bit of a bad day. Went to the LAC review about the boys. Was good to hear that they are well and happy, but was also heart wrenching at the same time.
Twin2 was very emotional and at one stage I also broke down in tears. She was allowed to see a glympse of DGS1 at play in the sandpark area of the playgroup. We only saw him from a window as they didnt want him to see us for obvious reasons.
But god it tore at both of our hearts.
Apparantly there are new Adoptive Parents up for approval panel in september. The others had withdrawn. (Dont know why).
DGS1 has some behavioural and developmental issues, which we already knew about, and had informed them off in the beginning. His banging/drumming is still a trait of his actions.
DGS2 is happy, bright and on target for a child of his age. (now2).
The foster mother showed some pictures of the boys at wicksteed park on Friday. So that was lovely.
The socialworker has been told to hurry up and sort out the Life Story books, which 2 years ago were supposed to have been done!.
incompetent lot. But I am not surprised.

I am bone weiry.
Going to take a book into the garden, a cup of tea, and sit on the swing seat.