MOOLOO'S continuing saga Part 4

LV_Sue

Although I read your thread every day, I think this is the first time I've posted.

Do you have a Blue Badge Mooloo? If you do you should be able to have a designated disabled parking place outside your house. I know our Council will paint a space on the road outside your house. DH, who has a Blue Badge, hasn't applied to our Council as we have off street parking in the front garden which he usually uses. Our local Councillor keeps asking if DH would like to apply for a disabled parking space outside our house.

Savvy_sewing

LV_Sue wrote: »

Although I read your thread every day, I think this is the first time I've posted.

Do you have a Blue Badge Mooloo? If you do you should be able to have a designated disabled parking place outside your house. I know our Council will paint a space on the road outside your house. DH, who has a Blue Badge, hasn't applied to our Council as we have off street parking in the front garden which he usually uses. Our local Councillor keeps asking if DH would like to apply for a disabled parking space outside our house.

No I dont have a blue badge.

Would you believe that the council is now asking me to pay back the Kinship funding over payment of £1,377.99 yet are not paying me the Guardianship Allowance. That was what greeted me in todays post.
8 telephonecalls later, its we will see what is happening and can you call back in a few days when we have had time to investigate! ARGHHHHHH
I have told them (finally when i got my Social Worker) that I am not paying them back a single penny and that if they have overpaid me, (Which is £20.30 a week child benefit, they can claim it back over a spread of payments as my money has been spent or is ear marked for the holiday i am taking DGD on!).

Thank goodness I have had savings, until yet another debacle is sorted out.

Had a call from the Police about 30 minutes ago.
They are worried about the support the Social are supposed to be giving the twins, especially twin1 is not happening. That they police had to be called out to her flat again, due to an arguement with the Family from hell on her doorstep. A concerned neighbour has reported it.
This has set the housing off again, and the police are concerned.
I told the policeman that I am rather fed up. That the twins are not listening to me anymore, and infact are starting to lie to me, and are heading straight around to this family as soon as my back is turned.
(DGD told me that she had been taken to the house of the parents yesterday!).
Why is it, when I think that things are going to settle it all kicks off again.
I told him that I was ready to pack my bags and leave the area. Leaving them too it. Take DGD and just go away. Ofcourse I cannot do that, but you will get my drift. So fed up of it.
DS has just hung up on the phone on me, as I queried when he was coming home, and that there wasnt enough funds in the bank to pay the money out that he has on SO etc etc.
All I got was I will pay you back. I have had to transfer some of the funds from savings to make sure that I do not go overdrawn. So much for him earning his living, etc. He may be working in the pub more, but the money is gone before he will ever even get near home.
Apparantly he wants to come with me to the hairdressers on Wednesday, then on to sign on while I go to councilling. He plans to come home, but expects to be going back again to Towcester the same night???? Me think not!. Certainly I will not be the driver.
I feel like cancelling my appointments so that I dont need to go, and saying swivel to him. Maybe its just that I have had enough of today.
I did get a lift back from one of the Mums today, but the wet weather is getting to my bones, and I had wanted a rest today, but the diggers next door are too noisy so I havent had a sleep.
Look quite like a bunch of cowboys to me! I am always wary of white van man, and the ones that use the incorrect tools to do the job!. They smashed up the curb stones with a lump hammer after unsuccessfully trying to do it with the mini diggers bucket!.
What a shambles.
DGD is back from her visit to Banbury with Molly;s daughter. Time to get on and do the tea.

Tomorrow will be a better day!

Molly41

LV_Sue wrote: »

Although I read your thread every day, I think this is the first time I've posted.

Do you have a Blue Badge Mooloo? If you do you should be able to have a designated disabled parking place outside your house. I know our Council will paint a space on the road outside your house. DH, who has a Blue Badge, hasn't applied to our Council as we have off street parking in the front garden which he usually uses. Our local Councillor keeps asking if DH would like to apply for a disabled parking space outside our house.

A disabled parking space on a public highway can be used by anyone sporting a Blue Badge so would not be just for Mooloo's exclusive use. As the doctors is directly opposite it would probably be more difficult to park as it would reduce the flexibility.

Sorry to hear you are having difficulties with DGD's funding x

gizmo111

What do you mean they are not paying SG allowance - is this because they haven't completed the paperwork or because they are planning not to pay it.
I am guessing that they want the fostering payment back as they should have been paying SG not fostering so it is their error, they need to make the inernal adjustments to their acounts. It is not the CB as the amount they are trying to reclaim would be for about 66 weeks and you haven't had the SG that long.

Savvy_Sue

Molly41 wrote: »

A disabled parking space on a public highway can be used by anyone sporting a Blue Badge so would not be just for Mooloo's exclusive use. As the doctors is directly opposite it would probably be more difficult to park as it would reduce the flexibility.

That's a good point, plus I believe they will also look around at what other provision there is for disabled parking - they won't do a bay just because someone asks for it if there are already several others nearby.

Savvy_sewing

Gizmo, they continued to pay the Fostering instead of changing to the SGA. I worked out that at the moment, infact they still owe me£50.08 if they want to be exact!. The paperwork was done, or so the social workers say. (When I finally got hold of them) So they are sending an urgent request to the relevant department to see what is happening. But that doesnt exactly help me with no money coming in at the moment from them. But at least I can honestly say to them, that they can pay each other and I dont owe them anything.!
I am just so frustrated with the complete bungling idiots that this council seem to be. A complete comedy of errors from start to finish really.
I was upset yesterday, but today am feeling a bit more pragmatic. (I think thats the word). My funds are going to have to be shuffled around until they get sorted, and I will just live on the bottom line until they are sorted out I suppose.
Luckily I have the savings to fall back on to keep us going, but it wont go for long as we have a holiday booked and thats on the Credit Card, so will need to be paid off before Mid August.
I dont want any bank charges for the use of the card< I always pay it off completely so I dont get charges. I dont want credit for stretching the budget, I wanted to get my credit ratings back up since the bankruptcy in 2007.
Right I am really tired today. I spent so long on paperwork yesterday.
I have the washing on, and some on the line trying to get it dry while the sun is shining.
Now I will try and get back on track with the To Do list! mmmm

Re the car parking. The doctors do have thier own Disabled Parking spaces in thier own carpark, but there are no Disabled parking places on the road etc near my house. I would have to be parking on private property.
I fear that the space outside my home is now going to be a real premium space, and will not fit two vehicles anymore, as they have dropped the curb the complete width of thier front garden, which means that where there was space for 3 cars there, there is only space for one now. IF you park two small cars bumper to bumper you might squeese them in, but I think they would overshoot the ddropped curbs either side a little bit. As they are YUK neighbours on the other side, and go skits if we over park thiers its not going to be much fun.
Oh well, there is nothing I can do about it, as I do not have the funds to drop my own curb and put in a parking space. (Or I would). It would be cheaper on the car insurance etc, and the mirrors would not be at risk of being whipped off!.
Maybe its just another thing to save for, and grin and bare it until then.
I am trying to not worry. But as I am a worry wort, its not so easy.
I see things looming all the time. I suppose its from having such a probmatical road so far, I now try to sort the problems before they become much of one. I have to learn to not worry about it and just deal with it when it does happen. But thats so much easier said then done.

Savvy_sewing

Yeah the cheque for the Petrol bills from Mar/Apr has been paid. Put it in my building society today when I went to collect twin1.
The team leader rang me back about the funding. Apparantly the person who authorised it, didnt tell the MAP team, and so the payments were not started. This person has conveniently left the council now, so they are getting another person to authorise it again, and send the information to the MAP team.
If there is no sign of the funds tomorrow, I am to ring the social worker, to see where she is at, and if they do not have it in place then she will authorise an emergency payment to me, and they will have to sort it out at a later date she said.
Its still such a debacle really.
I had my massage today. I try to go once a month. It was the best one yet. Possibly as I was less tense then I have been in a while. The counciling the self help books etc have all helped me to improve my frame of mind so much.
Littlesportscar, the book you sent me was a very big turning point for me. Thankyou so very much.
Right I need to get DGD to bed etc. Correction her Mum needs to get her to bed, but I need to supervise and make sure that the teeth etc are done. Tomorrow I am babysitting for my other granddaughter, and Twin1 is going to take DGD to school for her school end of year party. I got her a new dress from the Preloved Baby shop in town yesterday. So she can enjoy herself.
I do have some new clothes on order for her, from H & M, which are due to come sometime in the next few days.
She has suddenly had a growth spurt and the clothes that she had for her birthday and Christmas are now only just fitting her.
I have used the money that was in the savings for her, and will replace it when we get the funding sorted back out.
Twin1 has a few problems again, and I have been liasing with the Bromford Support. They intended to back down from helping Twin1 as they say that she doesnt engage properly with them, and that I do it all anyway. I exaggerated some what, and with fingers crossed, I told them that I had intended to be moving away soon, moving on in my life, as I was not getting any younger, and my health was not good, and I had hoped that I could do so knowing that the girls were being helped and cared for. She has now promised to support twin1 until the Liveability charity takes over in the near future.
I do hope so.
They were aware that I already paid a lot of the bills for twin1. Along with the council bill that the bailiffs were set on her for.

Twin2 has been on the phone in a state, the father of her first son has been to see the lad again, after 6 months of no contact, and us thinking that they had been adopted!. he posted on Facebook, and then his girlfriend started to bad mouth twin2 on Facebook and she was in a state. I calmed her down and told her to ignore the woman, and not to engage with her. Or him really. But understandably she wanted to see the pictures of her son.
I really do feel for her. She doesnt understand things much at all.
She has then rung back, saying that she cant get hold of her Dad who she was going to borrow a tent from, and some waterproofs as she is camping in silverstone while she does some car park work there again this weekend. She left the poles of my tent behind when she did the grandprix! Am not sure what I am expected to do about it all.
Time to get on.

Savvy_sewing

Its been one of those days today.
I was up and out by 7.10 this morning. Twin1 was here to take DGD to school etc for her graduation from Pre School. So sweet. THey made them Mortar board hats, and took thier picture with a scroll etc just like the big people. I have a lovely framed photo and a certificate etc. She also won a Gold Medal at PE!.
I felt so proud when I got home to see them all on the table. I will have to copy the picture so both her Mum and I can have it. Infact I think I will get a picture for my parents as well.
I babysat for DGD2. She was very good today. She was tired and slept for an hour. Gave me time to cut out a dress to make for her. Well part of it, as the pattern had a mistake and no measurements for the straps. I will have to see if I can find out or if not I will make up my own, but i will need to measure her when I get the main part of the dress sorted out.
After Biggest of Mooloo came home, we had a cuppa together, and she gave me my birthday cards and presents. so I have several now to open on Sunday.
I popped over to the hairddressers while I was over there, to have a couple of minutes on the sunbed thingy, and drop of a book for Biggest to give to her.
Twin1 was then on the phone wanting to know where I was. Came home and straight out again, to take her back to town. Went to twin2's to pick her up and go and get another tent. She wasnt ready so Twin1 and I went shopping. That meant I had her shopping in the back of my car, and so we had to go back and get twin2, go and empty the shopping, take the keys for Twin2's place to DS. He wasnt ready, so ended up clearing up his stuff, and then dropping him back at twin2's. Collected the camping gear etc, and then took her to Silverstone. Where the heavens opened and we got absolutely drenched putting up the tent!.
DGD1 was crying in the car cos she wanted to come out with us, then she wanted the loo. so I had to go to the loos at the other end of the silverstone site, before we came back.
I was drenched and only got home at 6.20!!
I have cooked frozen battered fish and chips for tea. Then we had a yoghurt and fruit for our pudding.
Now I need to get DGD to bed as its so late already. She is still eating her pudding at the moment.
I am very tired after all that running around and driving. So an early night tonight I think. Unless I get a second wind that is.

No funds in the bank, and ran out of time before I could contact them, so I will have to wait till Monday to organise any money now.
Oh well.
Time to get on. Night all.

Savvy_sewing

Well the sun is out today.
Bit or ironing and the like to be done. Just juggled the money around again. My savings are disappearing very fast what with the money going out for the clothes etc I ordered on line!.
I am really getting rather frustrated with myself, for overspending just at the same time as the funds have decreased!. EEK.
Back to some frugal living! You would think that I would learn by now.
Least I had some savings!.
Twin2 has had her shifts at the circuit changed so she is working this morning, 8am-8pm. But now I find that she has not sorted out her lift home. So I have asked Biggest of Mooloo to see if she can help, her, if not tonight, then perhaps twin2 can camp over and be collected tomorrow.
I have had a couple of surprise birthday cards in the post today.! I feel so very lucky, to have made so many friends when half the time I am sitting at a computer!.
My WI affiliated membership arrived today.
I have that magazine to browse through this weekend now.
Biggest of Mooloo is coming to visit this afternoon. Better get organised.

Savvy_sewing

Saturday afternoon went well. Had a BBQ in the garden, and the evening in front of the TV.
Biggest picked up twin2 for me, so I didnt have to do any further running around.
I had some lovely presents for my birthday. A new dinner service, new cutlery. Some shabby chic hearts for my walls, and a jewellry hanger, some lovely mice shaped soaps, two bottles of wine and a DVD to watch. Oh and some bikini bottoms and a bar of choccy. A have a mantlepiece full of cards too. So it was lovely.
(Alas my medicines chose my birthday to have another attack at my stomach, so I spent the day being sick, and in agony! not the way I had expected.)
But on the other hand it meant staying in the garden, and getting some sunshine instead. See every cloud has a silver lining.

The waterbill for twin1 has gone up,? From £15 a month to £45 this month and I didnt know anything about it, until the DD has gone out. Which has left me strapped for cash this week as I wasnt planning on that to happen. Really worried that I am so short of funds now, and the savings is about to be emptied for the holiday bill.
Not sure how I will continue to juggle if the Social dont get thier act together very, very soon.

Another day just staying in, as I have no energy, not having eaten at all since Saturday afternooon, and not having any tablets since yesterday morning, due to the war going on within so sto speak.