MOOLOO'S continuing saga Part 4

Molly41

Oh sorry Moo - it must have been heart wrenching for you both xx

minimoneysaver

That sounds like a very distressing experience for you both. Big hugs. x

Savvy_sewing

Spent most of the rest of yesterday rather subdued. As it the fight in me had gone really.
No money again today. What a surprise.
Twin1 wanted money wired for food last night. I ended up cashing in my dad's £6 lottery ticket win, and going over with some food bought in the reduced section of Tesco, etc. It was after DGD had had her bath so I was not impressed
I wasnt home until around 9pm. Far too late for DGD really.
Busy Wednesday as usual.

Molly41

What on earth is the hold up with this funding? So stressful x
Any news via your solicitor ?

gizmo111

Mooloo wrote: »

Spent most of the rest of yesterday rather subdued. As it the fight in me had gone really.
No money again today. What a surprise.
Twin1 wanted money wired for food last night. I ended up cashing in my dad's £6 lottery ticket win, and going over with some food bought in the reduced section of Tesco, etc. It was after DGD had had her bath so I was not impressed
I wasnt home until around 9pm. Far too late for DGD really.
Busy Wednesday as usual.

Go to the SS office that is responsible for paying you with DGD - insist that they give you some money or you will be looking to have DGD accommodated as you can't afford her.

God I wish I lived nearer to help you call their bluff :mad:

powie69

Dear Mooloo,

I have been a reader of your thread for quite a while now, and it amazes me how you just get up and get on with everything that is thrown at you. I hope the grey clouds have a silver lining for you and your family soon.

I have also enjoyed seeing the things that you have made for granddaughter and others, and I have found a free pattern which may be of use to you.

http://www.annamariahorner.com/PaperFanDress.pdf

Savvy_sewing

Thanks for the pattern!. Its very similar to one of the outfits I had made for DGD last year. But this looks a little simpler.

Re the Social.
I went to the office yesterday and was given £100 to go and get the uniform for DGD. I was panicing as I hadnt got the stuff with the logos and we go away so soon.
They have traced the problem with my funding.
Apparantly the Chairperson from the panel who agreed the funding and the SGO didnt send off the correct paperwork with the authorisation for the funding. This said person has since left the Council.
Then although the paperwork that the social worker had filled in was correct, nobody was aware that the funding hadnt been authorised and set in motion until I shouted.
Then it was a case of trying to find someone who would authorise the funding.
This was FINALLY authorised yesterday. (or so they say), and that the funding will be sorted out for me before the Bank Holiday.
I have said that this is really not good enough, and that it has caused me a lot of stress.
That I want to have this sorted out sooner etc.

The social worker is trying to get me an advanced payment to cover me. But if the other workers efforts didnt get it. I do not have much hope.
As I was leaving she said that the head of the department wants to call me in to have a chat with me, to ask for my experiences through this SGO to see if there is anything they could learn from this,!
Ha, I laughed.
I said I have practically written a book about it all. You should have seen her face.

At least it means that today DGD and I can go down the town and get the uniform. If there is any left in her size. The only other place to buy the uniform had a closing date of the 31st July to put orders in.


When I first started along this road, I didnt think that I could carry on.
I didnt believe that I had the strength emotionally or physically to do the job but some how here i am.
Going to councilling has helped me no end. I do not believe the difference in myself since I started in January, to now.
I am much stronger, my inner strength has surprised me.
But I do get weary. I do get tearful and I do have those times where I think why me? But I have realised that putting myself in the victim situation has not helped me.
I cannot thank littlesportscar, enough for sending me Sue Jeffers book. I have mentioned it before.
As I was getting to the stage of no hope, she sent me that, and it has been my mini bible of late.
I feel the fear, but I carry on anyway.
I face the problems, I try and be practical about it.
Feeling the victim saps my strength.
Tackling the situation makes me feel more empowered? is that the right word?
I try and just have contingencies in place.
Learning to save 10% of my income every time it comes in, from what ever source, has given me the funds for emergencies.
OK it may have run out now, but it has buffered me, mostly so far.
I was able to insure the car, in one lump sum still for example.
I was able to still pay for the holiday. Even though I do not have much to spend on holiday, we are going on a half board basis, so we have arranged most things. Spending will not be as high out there.
When we get back this nightmare should be over.
We will have news of the boys adoption. Hopefully we will get a meeting with the new parents and that I hope will help us to deal with the loss, knowing who they have gone too.
DGD will be in her new school around the corner, and if my health continues on this path, I will be able to take a slow walk to school with her, which will save using the car.
When DGD goes to school full time, I will be able to indulge my passions and sew. Giving me up to 5 1/2 hours a day.
This will allow me to see if there is a demand out there for the kind of things that I want to make, and whether I can earn a little income and get myself fit for working full time in the work place.
So all of this has hope.
At least I believe that it does.
I dont doubt that there will be problelms, but at least there are a few good things coming.
Twin1 has a carer and yesterday she was granted funding from DLA. This means that I can stop paying her bills. Which will save me around £100 a month.
Twin2 appears to be elidgeable for the same care package, as far as the social worker yesterday said.
This means that both of them will get 10 hours worth of help a week.
To help them care for themselves and their environment and to budget better.
This will take away the demand on me, and the stress that I get into over the mess that they live in, or the fear of thier safety and thier health. Freeing me up to do the things I want to do, like building DGD and my future.
DS- cant really do much about him.
It appears that he has been given permisson from the housing to stay with twin2. Keeping the likes of the young girl out etc.
I dont doubt that he will get up to some mischief, but I cannot be responsible for him. He is an adult, be it an immature one at times.
I shall be getting his things organised. Correction, be getting him here to take his stuff away, and then I will be able to take that small room back and turn it into my work room, which was the plan in the beginning of the year.
This will then allow my bedroom to be my sanctuary of peace and quite again.

So I am as far as I am looking from her, on a Win win situation.
the finances are just the stumbling block at the moment.
And if push comes to shove, I will just have to use the Credit card that I have managed to get. Another sign that my bankruptcy days are well and truely behind me.

Oops bet this is a long post, and not the quick reply I was meaning to type.

Savvy_sewing

gizmo111 wrote: »

Go to the SS office that is responsible for paying you with DGD - insist that they give you some money or you will be looking to have DGD accommodated as you can't afford her.

God I wish I lived nearer to help you call their bluff :mad:

I wish that you lived nearer too! But then you wouldnt have been doing the same job, as you would have walked out of it long ago with thier idiotic behaviour!

floss2

Mooloo, if you & DGD are on half board, I would suggest that you have a big breakfast everyday and take a couple of bread rolls and some fruit from the breakfast buffet for your lunches

Savvy_sewing

Had an email from the PA to the Childrens services. Telling me my funding had been approved, and that they would be issuing my funds before the bank holiday. (So half way through the holidays).
Least its in writing that hits happening, as it was a copy of a letter that was coming in the post.
Also asking me to go in to speak to the boss, so they can see what lessons could be learnt from my experience!. mmmm where to begin.
Maybe just give them a link to this forum!