MOOLOO'S continuing saga Part 4

duchy

I think you've hit the nail on the head Mooloo with ""without having to disappear for weekends". If you felt that way the relationship may very well have run its course. "For everything there is a season" and all that.

If a relationship isn't making your life better then you probably don't need it but it's hard sometimes reaching that point-so have a hug xx

Savvy_sewing

Well I got through the "anniversary" without shedding a tear. I kept as busy as I could, but I did have a few sad moments. I went to bed around 8 exhausted.
DGD decided we had to be up by around 7.30. But I am still a bit slow as the tablets need to kick in, and joints are not too brilliant. I have the heatpad on the small of my back at the moment.
Left arm is the main problem, but I expected that having done so much physical work in the last 3 or 4 days. Pushing myself above and beyond the normal peramiters.
I havent heard anything from anyone this weekend. Except twin1 cancelling coming over yesterday. Which was just as well really as I couldnt be bothered to drive.
The bunting down the street seems to mostly have come down, which is such a shame. The weather has not been that good to us. I wonder if they will be able to salvedge any of it? All that work, but appart from anythingelse it had looked so good the other day and had added to the carnival atmosphere around town.
Another day to start slowly, and once I am moving a bit, just plod on.
Re BF, I am just trying to look at the so called good points, or the possibilites ahead for me, and not think of the goodbits/etc from the past. Its not easy, I keep finding my mind wondering etc, but am pulling myself around and getting back to the present and future in a different way.
I know its not going to be easy, and I will wobble but at least I am trying hard not to be devistated.

Savvy_sewing

I am hoping to relax this evening and watch the concert on BBC.
DGD has been a bit of a madam, and has gone to bed without her bath, or pudding. I have told her I had enough of her disobeying me, and being rude, so put her up to bed. I can hear her moving around but she hasnt ventured out of her room yet. We will see.
I havent heard anything from BF, although my heart did a flutter when I saw his computer sign into Skpe, however he didnt try to communicate. Mind you why should he?
Its going to take me a while to stop looking at the phone for text messages, and its been difficult to stop sending any as well, but I have managed it.
Concert time.

Savvy_sewing

Well the wine and the chocolate went down well with the concert.
I managed to get through without breaking down, although there was a lump in my throat when Paul Mcartney sang Live and Let Die. It was a song that I associate with our growing up in Cyprus- where I met BF. But I got through it.
Today is our street party, so I hope that the sun will come out as it did last night.
I have to get on as we are supposed to be setting up soon, and I am still in my dressinggown.
Been contacted by another Granny in a pickle with the grandchild and SS. So have spent a bit of time reading and replying.
Starting to feel like all my trials and tribulations have given me some insight into helping others anyway.
Got to fly, have a good day everyone.

Toomuchdebt

Delete him from skype.

Savvy_sewing

Toomuchdebt wrote: »

Delete him from skype.

I think that may be a good idea. I will get my son to do it when he comes home today.
We did end up exchanging a few texts yesterday, purely cos apparantly I rang him during the party. (PHone in my pocket) and he text to tell me. So I appologiesed.
A few other insignificant texts passed. Like I will do his daughters cushions and then post. Then it was Dont bother. etc etc.

Anyway, I got through it. Signed out and said bye.
Not heard anythingelse.
Did think it was rather incredible that one of the texts said that he was there if I needed a shoulder or an ear!. Ha, thats a laugh. It wasnt available when I needed it before, often.

Right we are running late. Have the hairdressers this morning, and need to pick up twin1 as getting hers done too.

The party was good, but we got rather cold and wet in the end.
Bunting was put back up, and looked magnificent.
Hope we get some good pictures.
Its nearly down now, as the lorries have been coming down the street, and I saw one going off with a piece attatched to his roof!

Savvy_sewing

The council have sent me yet another revised calculation to my benefits. I give up!. At least they are giving me a bit more, but I am still being stopped some money. However it is much less, but I have also got a deduction of £10.46 to pay back overpayments, and £12.41? becuase DS lives at home.
The council Tax I have to re-apply for, as I wasnt getting it.
Well yesterday, I had my hair done, so I picked up twin1, and DGD and we all had our hair done. That took up the morning. But Twin1 came back with us, and I was able to have a rest in the afternoon.
I also have been a bit of a hermit, up in my new vamped bedroom, with the laptop, and catching up on the Iplayer with a few episodes of Silk.
Still hiding up here, but about to go down, as I really want some breakfast, i am starving!.
Today I take twin1 back home, and think I am supposed to be collecting DS back.
I hear that he has spent most of, if not all of the extra money that he had earned helping over the bank holiday, on his girlfriend.! Argh. She is so demanding and high maintenance girl! and I am annoyed that he is not saving for his deposit, considering he is always going on about moving up there to Scotland. Priorities.
Biggest is also rather struggling with her chap going, and its important to get through to her that she mustnt let her current rented house go, or she will voluntarily be making herself homeless and then she would not be entitled to any help.
Alas the emergency funds I had persuaded her to have, has been dipped into and is nearly all gone.
I am not going to be able to fund her next move. I only just managed to save my money, and will need to still build my savings as I will be needing to replace the car sooner rather then later, before it becomes too old, and a money pit.
Right time to get on.
(p.s. I deleted BF from my contacts on my mobile and on Skype) then I cannot contact him if I feel down, or anything.
I still feel awful, but I am doing my best to keep strong and not to let it get to me.

Eager_Elephant

Mooloo wrote: »

The council have sent me yet another revised calculation to my benefits. I give up!. At least they are giving me a bit more, but I am still being stopped some money. However it is much less, but I have also got a deduction of £10.46 to pay back overpayments, and £12.41? becuase DS lives at home.

If DS is under 25 and on JSA(contribution based) or over 25 on JSA then the deduction is £11.45 per week but if you have some rent free weeks they add this to the calculation hence the higher amount.

if you don't get rent free weeks then you will need to query this with them.

Also check if DS does get JSA (contribution based) because from what we know from your diary I don't think he has had a steady job for a long time so should be on income based.

If DS is not on anything so no income they will still deduct £11.45 (or an equivalent) so make sure he has claimed something.

Can you check the award letter and see what figures they have put in for DS?

If you are not sure let me know.

geminilady

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

If DS is under 25 and on JSA(contribution based) or over 25 on JSA then the deduction is £11.45 per week but if you have some rent free weeks they add this to the calculation hence the higher amount.

if you don't get rent free weeks then you will need to query this with them.

Also check if DS does get JSA (contribution based) because from what we know from your diary I don't think he has had a steady job for a long time so should be on income based.

If DS is not on anything so no income they will still deduct £11.45 (or an equivalent) so make sure he has claimed something.

Can you check the award letter and see what figures they have put in for DS?

If you are not sure let me know.

hope you don't mind me butting in but i have two sons at home and just been made redundant will they deduct double?

Savvy_sewing

Hi, I cant get him to realise how serious it is to sign on! Yesterday his girlfriend was going back to Scotland, and although I gave him the bus money, he didnt go! So I am rather mad with him today, and told him that it will affect my housing etc and that I am fed up. Wether it fell on deaf ears or not who knows.
I have been to take twin1 home, via shopping at aldi. Added it up as we went along, and just tipped the £30 mark. Thats got to feed her for the next two weeks.
I gave her ideas of what to do, and how to do it and made sure there was enough main meals in there. But it will be an effort, as she doesnt keep enough money in the bank to do things, and this week she is paying her phone bill, some £57 so as she hadnt budgeted, she didnt leave herself much to live on. Electric etc all still to be paid.
Twin2 had to go to a jobcentre interview thing, and ended having to give her £8 as I didnt have the time to go in the opposite direction.
DS is sorting his room out, now that he is back, and we have had to put some of the furniture on the stairs and in the bottom of DGD's room, until we can get them across to the girls.
I have managed a little sewing today, but not as much as I would like. Still trying to find where I put things with all the moving around. But I will get there.
I am pleased with the way the bedroom is coming together, and that I have a restful room now. The sewing side is in the corner, and eventually I will get a curtain from Ikia or somewhere that will come from a rail on the ceiling, and partition it all off for me.
One step at a time, my spending for this month is out really. The wardrobes need to be paid for. Put them on the credit card, but will clear the card with my savings when the bill comes in.