MOOLOO'S continuing saga Part 4

Molly41

That is brilliant. Now you will be eligible for full housing benefit and council tax credit - I think that is what Eager Elephant said? (please correct me if Im wrong?)

Savvy_sewing

Yes thats what I thought. However of course now that DS is home it means that I am not. I have to pay a part of it. However at the moment, I am still in 'discussions' with the council, as they are still getting my claim wrong. Now they say that it has been changed and that I will get £94.27 worth of housing benefit. (Minus the £10.46 repayments from all the changes that I owe). Then she said, oh, I am not sure now. Went away and has had to review again. Will get back to me!. I give up.
I have also got to fill in a completely new form for the council Tax benefit, and that means producing all the paperwork all over again for that one. Currently they are charging me £118.00 a month for the Council Tax and say that I wasnt entitled to it until now. So again its produce the paperwork all over again. I will need more ink in my printer to print off the bank statements all over again, and have to take in the Special Guardianship Order, Birth Certificates, my Childbenefit Number, etc etc etc etc etc etc.........
ARGH!!!!!
I have Councilling today. I think I will probably explode with all of this soon.
DS is not actually pulling his weight at the moment. and ddriving me nuts.! Awake all night on the Xbox, and then asleep most of the day. Jobs I am asking him to do are not being done without me standing over him. So it looks like we will have to have words today.

Florenceem

Mooloo wrote: »

Yes thats what I thought. However of course now that DS is home it means that I am not. I have to pay a part of it. However at the moment, I am still in 'discussions' with the council, as they are still getting my claim wrong. Now they say that it has been changed and that I will get £94.27 worth of housing benefit. (Minus the £10.46 repayments from all the changes that I owe). Then she said, oh, I am not sure now. Went away and has had to review again. Will get back to me!. I give up.
I have also got to fill in a completely new form for the council Tax benefit, and that means producing all the paperwork all over again for that one. Currently they are charging me £118.00 a month for the Council Tax and say that I wasnt entitled to it until now. So again its produce the paperwork all over again. I will need more ink in my printer to print off the bank statements all over again, and have to take in the Special Guardianship Order, Birth Certificates, my Childbenefit Number, etc etc etc etc etc etc.........
ARGH!!!!!
I have Councilling today. I think I will probably explode with all of this soon.
DS is not actually pulling his weight at the moment. and ddriving me nuts.! Awake all night on the Xbox, and then asleep most of the day. Jobs I am asking him to do are not being done without me standing over him. So it looks like we will have to have words today.

I wouldn't let him get away with not pulling his weight. You need to be firm - stick to the house rules or find somewhere else to live. jmho.

Savvy_sewing

If he could have found somewhere else to live he wouldnt be here now. Alas. He has to try and save for a deposit, except that will never happen on the money he is on, and the way he buys snack foods etc and Xbox bills! But at least I am not paying any of that out of my money. Just wish the casual work would be more permanant and that would help him. (not me though, as what ever he does earn has to be scrutinized for my rent/tax benefits!).
Wish i was healthier. So I could go to work again, and get out of this rut of benefits.
Just back from town. Councilling and a bit of shopping. Looking for gift for BF as its coming up to our 8 years together on Sunday, we call it our anniversary. Its Salt or Bronze. So I bought a nice Salt grinder for him, and a slate for writing messages on!. Bit beizarre I know but they use DGD's magnetic board to leave messages so I thought the slate might be of use. may be a bit girlie, but then I am so what does he expect! (Well he doesnt expect anything.)
No post, no bills, nothing new from anyone today. For a change.

Savvy_sewing

went to see the solicitors about my divorce (only waited 8 years!). Started the ball rolling there. Feel a bit mean as the Ex is just out of hospital yeterday, (his birthday) from having an ICD unit fitted in his chest to stop the cause of his heart attacks. So not the best time. Luckily its only a formality and he knows that its going to happen.
Finding the right timing is not easy when life is so hectic.
Once again Biggest of Mooloo's BF is having a wobbly.! So been a shoulder to lean on today after the solicitors.
Its one of those things that we cannot really advise on except to say I will be there for her as best as I can, etc. At least we went through all the financial positions etc last time so she is aware of where she stands. IF he follows through and disappears on her. Bless its still not nice when your madly inlove with someone and they mess you about. lets face it, thats exactly what I keep going through with my BF. Only thing is that now, I am aware that the future is not going to happen the way I had wished/expected and that all I have is all that I am going to get.
She is due to go on holiday (one of the same ones that I just went on), with him in 2 weeks time. So I said that I would go with her if she wanted to still go and he has disappeared off to his Mum's.

Last night around 2.30am, there was an almighty crash and my wardrobe finally broke! So today I have looked in a recycling shop and purchased another wardrobe and chests of drawers set. Not mega cheap, £190 with delivery. But it seems to be quite a good and sturdy one. Only snags are that its all coming on Saturday afternoon, and i have no men/able bodies around to help me clear out my other stuff and help to get the newer set up the stairs and into the bedroom. I may have to cover the stuff with the ground sheet and leave it outside until they are around.! The delivery is only to the door. Health and Safety reasons apparantly.
Tomorrow is my time for babysitting my other granddaughter, and DGD1 has a party at school. So a lot of running around.
I am now so tired and sore that the thought of it all to do is rather scarey, however if I am too sore then I am too sore, and I have to stop, rest, put the heat pad on, let the tablets work, and wait till I am ready. Annoying but thats the way it goes.
No post today either.

floss2

Mooloo, why not ask the delivery guys if they will bring it upstairs for you on Saturday? It may cost you £10 beer money though!

Savvy_sewing

floss2 wrote: »

Mooloo, why not ask the delivery guys if they will bring it upstairs for you on Saturday? It may cost you £10 beer money though!

I will ask them, but I will not hold my breath, as there was a sign about it being a health and safety issue. Mind you I have public liability insurance here, due to employing a carer so I may say that they will be covered under that one? We will see.
Although I dont think the wardrobe will go up my stairs until it has been dismantled and rebuit as there is a kind in the stairs at the top.

I need to find some energy to get me out of this chair, and away from the heatpad and upstairs to sort my clothes out. There are so many of them., I am a horder, and I buy far too many from the charity shops etc. However I can never say I dont have anything to wear!!!!
DGD is not in the bath yet. Must get moving and do that. She has had her dinner. Mine is in the slow cooker as I had a late lunch at 4pm. So I am not hungry yet.
We have to be up and away early in the morning for Babysitting. So it looks like my house will be a bit of a mess for a few more days! Oh well, I will just have to learn to live with it. Turn a blind eye so to speak. Which is not easy as its been getting to me a lot lately.

Savvy_sewing

Well BF had mentioned that he was going to come by as he was working late and on his own. So I did a quick tidy up downstairs, and started to do some work in my bedroom, but then he text, we had crossed texts and he was already at home, so he was too tired to come over. He had driven some 400 miles yesterday so I didnt blame him. But it had got me up and moving and once DGD was in bed I started to rejig my bedroom. Overdid it of course, but it had to be started. Only got today/tomorrow morning before the new furniture arrives.
Alas BF is not now going to be able to come over by the looks of it, so I may have furniture in my front room for a few days! Not ideal for the bank holiday weekend.
Looks like by going for my divorce, I stirred up yet another hornets nest of feelings and emotions within him, and he is on his back foot once more. With sunday being our 8th 'anniversary', it doesnt bode well. For he got in a strop last night and has said his 'goodbye' again. All in texting of course.
Got rather sick of all of this the last time, and so unless there is a minor miracle and he says to me in the next 24 hours that he didnt mean it, and appologies it, looks like we are over all over again. Except if we are, and its not just a silly misunderstanding, then I am not going to be going back again. I have revisited this relationship so many times over the last 8 years, and I am really upset that the same issues are being dragged up time and time again.
I am still dry eyed, and rather sort of "here we go again" then upset. Maybe it will get to me later today, it was around midnight when he stopped his texting with his Goodbye. I have to get on and finish my cup of tea, get dressed and get DGD up. And be gone in 30 minutes at the latest.

My ESA is in. For 2 weeks worth of funds. So I am happy. 10% is already in my savings pot. I will have enough to pay the rent this week, and hopefully the council will finally sort the benefits out and I can work on a new budget and move forward from today.

Ha two moveing forwards and I have only been up 45 minutes!

Eager_Elephant

WooHoo to ESA going in :T

BooHoo to (ex)BF - he seems to be a very complex creature :rotfl:

I can really see the similarities between you and Biggest - such a shame that you have both chosen men that can't deal with their emotions very well.:eek:

I hope you can both sort something out so you are both happy.

Errata

Sorry to hear the BF has dumped you yet again, and yet again hasn't the guts to do it to your face but hides behind a txt.
I've lost count now of the number of times he's dumped you whilst you've been posting on MSE, but TBH if you continue to let him get away with treating you with contempt I think he'll continue to do so.
Sorry if this makes tough reading for you, it's just how I see your situation.