MOOLOO'S continuing saga Part 4

Savvy_sewing

I have as you say been there with him too many times. I havent even shed a tear over him this time. Just got angry, and a little frustrated that he is blaming me and accusing me of actions that I have not done. All in his mind. (Must have been more damaged goods then I had realised - its always the same thing wiith him, twisting my words and then telling me I am treating him like a mug! Haha.

I have said enough is enough and that for sake of DGD I have to stick to that becuase he will never ever change and I am too tired of it all.

This weekend Biggest has decided to go to Dorset to be with her cousin and her family so that changes my plans for the weekend, but I dont blame her for wanting to get away. Leaves him time to clear his stuff out and go to his mums.

minimoneysaver

I wonder what your BF's issue is? Last time a 'condition' of you getting back together was that you didn't write about him on here and kept that side of your life private. As far as I've seen, you've kept your side of the bargain, as the only time you have mentioned him is to say that you are off to see him or something similar.
He is not being fair to you or your DGD. She (and you) need stability..... Funny enough, you sound like you provide good company for each other. Is he after a friendship or a relationship?

Savvy_sewing

The issue is that I am still in communication with my Ex Husband, and have helped him recently since his heart attack to sort out his finances and to help him arrange to move to his Dads. Because of this he has decided that something must have been going on all these years (it hasnt), and that there must be things that I do not tell him. he then sees this as me lying. I would love to have told him every day what I did/do, except as what ever I say we only end up communicating during the week with the text or skypetext (he doesnt have a camera on his laptop) then there is bound to be something here or there that I find insignificant, or have forgotten about at the weekend. So becuase of that it has to be something devious and against him.
He thinks that I am treating him as a mug.
Ha-
Thats the stupidest part of it all.
I have adored him, faults and all, and put up with all the moods, the tooing and froing for 8 years. (minus 3 days.- tomorrow was to be the anniversary). I even bought him some gifts associated with the anniversary. A special Salt Grinder, as the Anniversary is Salt in the UK listings, although it is bronze in the american. But I cannot afford one of those. I also ordered an ornament that matches in with previous ones that I bought him on anniversaries. It took me ages to seek that one out! Thats just to name a couple of the things that I had got him.
I had even arranged for dGD to be looked after by her Mum here at my house so we could go out for the evening.
Well thats all out of the window now.
I shall just have to have a salt grinder myself!

I really have got to the stage that if he thinks that I am such aliar then I do not want to know him! Liar by omission I hasten to add. He has no "evidence" of me doing any wrongs of course, as its all in his mind. he really is rather screwed up, and I have been as patient as I can, and tried so hard to do what he wanted.
It all kicked off when i said that the divorce was going to take 4-6 months. He was the one that wanted me to get the divorce sorted out for godsake.
Well Here I am, I am talking about him, and to be honest I do not care one blooming jot!

Its Carnival Day here in the town, but as the weather is not so clemant I didnt rush to go.
I am awaiting the arrival of my new (2nd hand) bedroom furniture and had to do a massive sort out, move around and clear up over the last 24 hours!. I am exhausted.
As I dont have a soul to help me, I have had to tidy up DS's room, put his sofa bed back up, move his desk etc, and drag the old chest of drawers out of my room into his. Except to do that I had to clear up the room to get into it. 7 pint glasses, various cans, bottles and bits of rubbish around, along with two armfuls of dirty washing.
I wouldnt have done it except I needed the space.
I sorted out 5 bags of things for the charity and thats in the boot of my car out of the way ready to drop off when i can.
I have cleared up the sitting room (90%) just incase they will not take the furniture up the stairs for me, and I may need to have it crowded into the sittingroom for a few days till DS gets back. (Then he will have to help me or he wont be able to get into his room! ).
I still have a pile of stuff thats ended up on the diningtable in the corner of the room, but I have stopped for some Lunch, and to sit on the chair with my heatpad as I have pushed my body to its limits and just beyond really.
Washing is on as well. So its been a bit of a springclean kind of morning. Its time for me to take my tablets. Or it will be at 2pm so I may as well go and get them while I think about it.
DGD is playing well, and watching the Disney channel inbetween things.
I just wish I still had some energy to do her room.! its a dumping ground at the moment!.
Her bed keeps collapsing so I have bought some duct tape, and I am hoping to get in there and to stick the wooden slats down into place so that they do not move and keep slipping off of the metal rail that they are supposed to stay on.
I still have one last piece of bunting to do, so that I actually have some around my house. I had hoped to do that before today but its just not happened.
The Jubilee Party in the street is on Monday, from 6 of us, there is now only going to be 2 of us!. Although Molly's daughter was going to come and join us so I wont feel quite so stupid out there amongst all the neighbours.
Tablet time.

*Robin*

Mooloo wrote: »

As I dont have a soul to help me, I have had to tidy up DS's room, put his sofa bed back up, move his desk etc, and drag the old chest of drawers out of my room into his. Except to do that I had to clear up the room to get into it. 7 pint glasses, various cans, bottles and bits of rubbish around, along with two armfuls of dirty washing.
I wouldnt have done it except I needed the space.

I would have piled all the rubbish, used plates/glasses, dirty clothes etc onto his bed and left it!

Savvy_sewing

Well what a day.
I had the place sorted as best I could. The delivery of my furniture came. They had to dismantle the wardrobe before they could get it in. I helped as much as I could and brought bits and pieces of it in.
I did ask them if I gave them £20 could they re build it but I got told that they couldnt.
So I thought I would have to wait until DS came home.
I sat at the sewing machine to finish off the bunting when there was a knock on the door asking if i had 12 foot of bunting left, as I was still at a long stretch of bunting I finished it while they were here. So we all went for a walk with along the street to see how far all my bunting had gone. I was/am amazed. It looks good. Its going so far up the street as well.
Then I got a call from one of the workers from the Charity, and he actually came out this evening in his own time and fixed up my wardrobe for the price of a cup of coffee.
I am really very lucky.
I havent heard a thing from the BF, but dont think I will anyway.
I now have a bit of shuffling to do in the bedroom with the furniture, but can now see a bedroom for once and not just he dumping ground.

I am in a lot of pain, the muscles are all in spasm at the moment, and its not going to be easy to sleep tonight, but I feel as if I have achieved so much today with all the sorting/tidying and of course still keep DGD amused, fed etc.
she is at the stage where she is starting to dress her self. Alas its a concoction of things and today she was in her trousers but her top was a PJ top. But at least she tried so I didnt change it, ( we were only at home), as she was doing so well.
Molly's daughter popped by to see we were OK.
Molly has gone away for the weekend. I hope that she is well enough to enjoy the time away from the children, but I know she will still worrry about them.
I worry about her.
Wonders will never cease, I have not heard a thing from the twins wanting anything at all.

Now its so late, I am surprised that I am still up. Although I suppose its the pain thats doing it.

I must go and take a photo of the street with all the bunting stretching across the roads from lampost to lampost etc zigzagging all the way up and down it.
I was stopped and thanked by people on the street for it today, which made me blush, but also feel proud that I had done it.
Also that has introduced me to near neighbours as well. although there was so many of them,I am not sure I could remember names. I am not good with names at the best of times.

Bed is calling.

Savvy_Sue

*Robin* wrote: »

I would have piled all the rubbish, used plates/glasses, dirty clothes etc onto his bed and left it!

So would I. And a repeat performance would lead to a system where he had ONE set of everything for his use, and ONLY that set to be removed to his bedroom.

But moving on, I'm so glad that you've met some more neighbours, and hope that you will make some really good local friends, and was so glad to hear you'd had help with the bedroom furniture.

As for the b/f, honestly sounds as if you are well shot. Is there any chance of changing your phone number?

Savvy_sewing

It was not DS's fault I did his room. He would have eventually done it, like all teenagers you have to lean on them. But while he was away, I needed to put the other furniture in there. So it was my choice. He will have to help me to remove it all when he gets back.

Re the BF, I havent heard anything, and I doubt that I will this time around. Even if I do. as its only ever text messages. I can just ignore them should they ever pester me. I nolonger have the skype on my computer as soon as I fire it up and havent for some time.
I don't think that I will need to change my number, and I hope not as I had only just ordered some business cards and sticky labels and I cannot afford to waste those if I can help it. Obviously if things did get bad then I would consider it.
Today will be the sadest/hardest day to get through, as it was the day we were due to celebrate.
Ha.
I have a lot of jobs to do around the place, sorting my clothes back into the new furniture, and DGD's room needs sorting as its again one without a floor!
Unfortunately this heavy rain that we had in the night, seems to have brought some of the bunting down, and the rest looks rather like a bit of a damp squid. It looked so good yesterday. I knew I should have taken a picture then, and had it to keep as a record of the amount I had managed to sew in so short a time really.!

It will be a slow start to the day. A very slow one, as I am in rather a lot of pain. My fault of course, pushing my body to its limits yesterday.
I will have to tumble dry a few things or we will have wet stuff everywhere, and as I dont have the heating on, there is little point of putting it on the radiators.

Savvy_sewing

I have been trying to keep my mind busy. The body is a bit behind after all I did yesterday. But I have managed a few 10 minutes sessions in the bedroom, putting clothes away in the wardrobe and cupboards. Been putting like with like, so I can see exactly how much of anything I have. But it will take time to do, as the arm is not good.
The weather has not helped lift the spirits, but I suppose I cannot be upbeat all the time, or it would not be natural.
Time for tea, and hopefully DGD will have a reasonably early night as she was yawning a few minutes ago.

minimoneysaver

From memory, didn't (ex) BF call it all off before something special last time? Is there a pattern?
How nice of that charity man to come back to your place and help you out. There are still some fantastic people left on the planet!
Think nice thoughts of that amazing man and forget the people who don't bring anything positive to your life. x

Savvy_sewing

My Birthday was ruined the year before last. We have had some rather wobbly moments often near birthdays/anniversary/valentines/christmas etc over the times, but sometimes it was me calling the halt. Except I wasnt strong enough too walk away completely. However I hope that I will this time. Its just too destructive. Luckily for me I have been going to councilling for a while now, and I am much stronger then I was the last time around. I now know that I will manage quit well without him thankyou, and that if I am not destined to have a partner, then so be it. I am going to be able to concentrate on things here in my home and garden, and not keep having to disappear off for the weekend. Its not going to be easy though. I feel rather low today. But thinking as positively as I can. No tears. Sadness yes, but no tears. I dont intend to get all red eyed and miserable, its not a good look! I have been there far too often.
I am so fed up of the things that have continued to be thrown back at me, no matter what I try to do to assure him. So there it is. Be strong and be determind to make the best of things here.
At least I have a roof over my head, I have a warm house now, and with the new furniture, I am going to be able to make my room that sanctuary I wanted. Even if one corner has to have the sewing in it.
I can spend time in the garden when the weather is more clemant and get things sorted out eventually. Luckily the benefits should be sorted soon. As the income ones are, now its just the housing and council tax to sort. I will go on Wednesday with that to them. I also need to take the papers to the solicitors for the divorce. having said that, there is no real rush to do that now, as BF has gone by the wayside. But I suppose it will be a good thing to wipe the slate clean on all of the men in my life!.
With the bunting going up, I met a few more of the people in the street, and if the rain stays off on Tuesday lunchtime we will meet a few more I hope. As they are aware that it was me who sewed the bunting, it could be an opportune time to start to take in sewing again. Make some pin money maybe. But then that may mess my money up again? Depends how much I do i suppose. Just keep tabs and declare it later.
Time to get DGD ready for bed. I am hoping that she will sleep well and soon, so I can.