MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

Sammie_03

Ohh a meet at ikea sounds great!! But I do tend to get lost once inside there!!

I think the school run was too much for Noah today as he is asleep again already!!

Enjoy your last day of maternity leave sunshine.

Xx

*Nutella*

Turtle, moving sounds stressful, but I bet it'll be fab once you've settled into your new place

Sunshine, enjoy your last day of mat leave - hope Aiden has another good day at nursery (and that he enjoyed his lie in!).

turtlemoose

fluff sounds like youve hit the wonderful 4 month sleep regression. Sorry to report it lasted nearly 3 weeks here...but then suddenly 1 night he went back to good sleeping. Although of course now that's gone out the window!

I am going to BLW too (much to the horror of all around me! Bit like BFing for more than 6 months which im also doing!). I've done a first aid course, have learnt CPR on babies/children, one more session next week which deals with choking - so i'll be prepared!

Sitting unaided though - do they mean 100% sitting on their own? Reu can sit in a highchair comfortably, or will hold himself sitting upright on your lap for a long time, but sit him on the floor and he leans forward until he can eat the carpet....not sure if that counts as sitting lol

*Nutella*

Turtle, what you're describing definitely sounds like sitting! As long as he can sit up straight in a highchair you'll be fine with weaning. Sounds like Reuben is at the same stage as my LO - she can sit unaided on the floor for a few seconds, but topples over fairly quickly (and she too leans forward), so I tend to sit behind her when we're playing. She's absolutely fine with eating in a highchair though.

*Nutella*

I need some advice on night feeds please... My LO still wakes twice a night crying for a feed (she's FF), and I don't really believe that she needs it anymore - 90% of the time it's not hunger, it's comfort, habit and wanting a cuddle. The reason I believe this is that whenever she sleeps in our bed (which she does occasionally if she's not well or struggles a lot to settle), she sleeps through. Last night being a case in point - she was a bit miserable due to her tummy situation and just kept crying, so I put her in the bed with me, and she slept from 10.30pm until 5.30am. She NEVER does that in her own bed.

So - how to get rid of at least one night feed without upsetting her too much? I've tried sips of water, cuddles (without actually picking her up), stroking her hair, putting the dummy back in, turning her over (she likes sleeping on her side), singing, talking to her very quietly, switching on Ewan... I've also tried leaving her for a couple of minutes to see if she manages to go back to sleep, but she never does and just keeps crying. I read somewhere that you could try to gradually reduce the amount of milk given so that eventually they learn not to bother - I'm not sure that would work, but two nights ago I gave her 90ml rather than her usual 180ml and she didn't complain and didn't wake up any earlier, so again - I don't believe it's hunger...

*Nutella*

sammy_wheeler wrote: »

hiya can i jump in for a little bit not yet ttc (january) - but just wanted to know if anyone had done the nct antenatal classes?

plus- did anyone have a water birth? i love the idea of this thanks!

Hi Sammy, sorry been meaning to reply for a while!

NCT - we didn't due to the cost. I'd say things to consider in addition to cost are:

1) The quality and quantity of your free local NHS classes (I had 3 classes x 2 hours + a breastfeeding workshop, and found them really useful). NHS classes seem to vary a lot by area - ask around where you live to find out what they're like. Even if you do NCT classes I'd still do the NHS ones as they're specific to the hospital where you'll be giving birth - this is useful as they will tell you about what to expect there.

2) Whether you already have a support network where you live, including other mums-to-be. Everyone I know who's done NCT classes now have a network of other mum friends with young babies, and value this a lot. The social aspect seems to be a key reason why people do the NCT classes.

3) Whether your OH is interested in antenatal classes. My OH wasn't, so NCT wasn't really an option as they're quite couple-focused. My NHS classes were 80% women by themselves.

Water birth - I had my heart set on one, and instead ended up with induction, every labour-related drug known to womankind and eventually a c-section. On the plus side, I was able to return my bikini to Bravissimo and get a £50 refund! :money: But - I was totally fine with the way things turned out, and it was soooo worth it My advice would be to explore water births further if you're interested in having one, and check if your local hospital does tours of the maternity ward and/or water birth talks, but whether or not you can actually have one will depend on how your pregnancy progresses (you need to be classified as low risk etc.) and of course what happens once you go into labour. Keep an open mind - you might change your mind once you're in the midst of it all (for me, an epidural was the best thing ever - at that point I couldn't have cared less about water!) or the pool might be in use already or something might happen that makes it impossible (I know someone whose labour progressed so quickly they didn't have time to fill the pool!). Do have a sense of what you want and research all your available options, don't get too fixated on one option and instead remain open-minded about it all. Whatever happens, you'll have your beautiful baby at the end of it, and at that point you probably won't care about how he/she got there

Good luck!

*Nutella*

...Uhm, can you tell my little girl is having a longer-than-usual nap?... :rotfl: I promise I will go away now!

Gillyx

Nutella, r.e the nightfeeds, I'd say the best thing to do would be go cold turkey, it will not be pleasant and you will be knackered, but I'd say after a few days of not getting milk she'l realise that's normal now and milk is for daytime only.

You could try dropping to 4 oz then 3oz then 2oz then 1oz as I've heard that works too. At least if you get it sorted now it'l be better for when you're back at work x

sunshine_1988

*Nutella* wrote: »

I need some advice on night feeds please... My LO still wakes twice a night crying for a feed (she's FF), and I don't really believe that she needs it anymore - 90% of the time it's not hunger, it's comfort, habit and wanting a cuddle. The reason I believe this is that whenever she sleeps in our bed (which she does occasionally if she's not well or struggles a lot to settle), she sleeps through. Last night being a case in point - she was a bit miserable due to her tummy situation and just kept crying, so I put her in the bed with me, and she slept from 10.30pm until 5.30am. She NEVER does that in her own bed.

So - how to get rid of at least one night feed without upsetting her too much? I've tried sips of water, cuddles (without actually picking her up), stroking her hair, putting the dummy back in, turning her over (she likes sleeping on her side), singing, talking to her very quietly, switching on Ewan... I've also tried leaving her for a couple of minutes to see if she manages to go back to sleep, but she never does and just keeps crying. I read somewhere that you could try to gradually reduce the amount of milk given so that eventually they learn not to bother - I'm not sure that would work, but two nights ago I gave her 90ml rather than her usual 180ml and she didn't complain and didn't wake up any earlier, so again - I don't believe it's hunger...

Hmmm, maybe place your nightie or pillowcase under her sheet, she may smell yout scent and the familiarity of your bed and settle off?

Aiden sleeps with a muslin cloth that he cuddles, he has to hold on to it otherwise he wont settle. He kind of clasps it in his hand and if he loses it rolls abou until he can find it. Does she have a little comforter or anything?

X

jediquigley

Aww the comforter idea sounds cute. Cutting down on milk sounds like. Good idea Nutella. It's so difficult to know what to do as you don't want to make the situation worth,

Sympathy to fluff and turtle with the poor sleepers, Niall is the same t the mo and after 2 wakes I take him into bed with me and in a haze let him feed when he wants.

On a positive note his first daytime nap has increased to one and a half hours.

Mil is looking after Niall for a couple of houses this afternoon while I do food shop and have. Look around some shops.

Time for some old me thinks,

Laura