MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

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right me again, have now burnt hubbys bagguette for tomorrow lol

but more importantly as kandboys pointed out its easier to set up a group on facebook rather than a new page and its more private so if you pm me or kandboys or kira000 then we can add you .x


jenjade sorry to hear your having a bad night hun, wish i could pop over and help out but your no where near me if i remember rightly.,
you have 3 options right now the way i see it,

1 if you have tried everything then shove the hoover on for a couple of mins or some music or washing machine

2 keep trying to feed her

3 let her have a bit of formula and give both of you a chance to calm down.

hugs

hopefully some one else may have some more ideas

gizmodo_2

cloudberry45 wrote: »

Hi everyone, this thread is so good and I would love to join.

Baby Zak born 01/01/2012 7lb 4oz if someone can add to the list for me :-)

Im also really struggling with things atm. After having a dreadful first few days at home after the birth and having to go back into hospital as Zak was dehydrated/jaundiced I just felt like a total failure at bf. Got told so many different things by so many different midwives that I couldnt understand who to listen to. 1 midwife told me I should only be feeding him every 4 hours on the breast and to not do it anymore than that to prevent him from 'snacking'. When I told my local midwife that she couldnt believe another midwife would say that, she said I need to be feeding him on demand. Im still bf and he is 16 days old today but dont think I have actually gone a day where he hasnt also had expressed milk from a bottle or 1 bottle of formula.

Today it feels like he has been on me non-stop and never satisfied. Think the main reason im not happy feeding him solely from the breast is my worries from the first few days where we found out he was dehydrated and im scared it will happen again.

Also my husband is still off work but he starts back next week and im petrified about being on my own. Im struggling with not sleeping at night and have no idea how to get through a whole day and night on my own as its not fair on my husband to be up in the night with having to travel to work as well.

There are breastfeeding groups local to me but if im honest im scared to go - have no idea what to expect from it. And if im really honest I hate everything about breastfeeding but I know its best for Zak and me - and when its going well I dont mind it as I do feel close to him but part of me wants to quit and just give him a bottle. :-( Feeling very low and still cant manage a day without crying - thought by 16 days in I would be over this.

Tried searching for newbornmse but didnt come up in a search

(hugs) please go to the breastfeeding group. The first time will be scarey as you just don't know what to expect. I don't know what yours will be like, but I went to a breastfeeding group and it really got me through. At the one I went to it was like a drop in, so there was a 2 hour period where you just turned up anytime (ideally when baby is due for a feed). They didn't allow men in (I took OH the first time!) and I had to sit there and wait till DD was ready for food as there were about 8 other mums there the first time I went and only 2 people to help. So they helped the mums in order of who needed feeding first! Makes sense though

The lady then watched me latch DD on and then would try and teach me how to do a better way. They never did it for me (which is what the midwives always did), so it was better for learning.

The other thing is, it was drummed into me by the midwives that if it hurts the latch is wrong. It is so not true. Admittedly once I got help it hurt less, but it still hurt and the first 20 seconds were agony! But by 4 weeks I'd say it got noticeably better as my nipples toughened up and by 3 months it didn't hurt at all. And now at nearly 50 weeks I am sooooooooo glad I didn't give in. And trust me I nearly gave in so many times in the first 3 weeks.

I hope that gives you some hope. But ultimately the choice is down to you and it's really not worth being miserable about.

But please please at least give the breastfeeding group a shot.

Also don't worry about your OH going back to work, I found it much easier to get into a decent routine and you soon gain confidence

gizmodo_2

jenjade wrote: »

oh so close to tears now. ellie has fed off both sides and completely emptied them. then she threw up loads of yellow/ green phlem and all the milk. now she is screaming and rooting coz she has an empty belly. put the back on the boob but she just got cross.

any idea what to do???

I don't know about the yellow/green phlem

Remember your boobs are constantly producing milk as she is drinking...so you'll have some more for her soon.

I remember going through this when DD would seemingly throw up the entire feed, but the likelyhood is it's not the entire feed. I always fed her again after about 30minutes. Can you try just cuddling her for a bit? Do you wind when you change breasts?

jenjade

ok rocked her to sleep. boy was she upset.

mirror- washing machine is on due to her puking on us!!

welcome cloudyberry- dont get to hung up on breastfeeding. yes it is good for you and baby and you have done amazingly to feed for this long a;ready. do what you feel is best

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Its horrible when they do that jenjade, if you can get baby to latch on again then do as there is always milk being produced even if its only a little bit. Lots of walking, rocking and singing to see if it helps. Give a bottle of formula. Jacob could throw up 3 milk feeds in a row when he was tiny, i was always amazed how much vomit he could produce!

My local breastfeeding group is basically a coffee and cake meet up to chat with other mums. Its a social group with a breastfeeding counsellor and peer supporters who help if you have problems. If you are really worried about going to a group why dont you call a counsellor to see if they will visit you? I found mine through the nct.

jenjade

oh and my big tip for groups is first time go for the last 30 mins to test it out. i went to a group i wasnt comfortable in the other day and didnt feel i could leave without looking rude so had to stay for 2 hours. longest 2 hours of my life

gizmodo_2

Wonder_Womble wrote: »

How long does this bleeding after pregnancy go on for? LO will be 6 weeks on Wednesday and I am still bleeding, it seems to tail off and I think it is the end of it, and then it starts again

https://www.epigee.org/fetal/post_bleeding.html have a read of that. I don't want to scare monger, but I also don't want anyone else going through what I did. If I'd read that then I would have have gone running to the doctor...so you'll know. I didn't have heavy bleeding, but I still had bright red blood after 3 weeks and I was feeling so ill and run down and faint and couldn't walk very far.

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ooh jut remembered i should be getting ewan tommorrow or thurs hopefully, if you dont mind me asking those that have ewan ho much did you pay?

jenjade

i went to a breastfeeding group and it was lovely. loads of supportive workers etc

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ooh jut remembered i should be getting ewan tommorrow or thurs hopefully, if you dont mind me asking those that have ewan ho much did you pay?

eh? what's ewan?