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Triangle wrote: »

Have a question about his bedtime routine if anyone could help that would be great. He has a bath about 7pm every night and then a feed. He sometimes then has a small top up and then some wakey time but settles to sleep about 9pm downstairs with us in his carry cot pram or moses basket if we have brought that down. We take him upstairs at 11pm and give him final bottle and for the last week he has then slept through until between 5am and 7am. My question is - do you think that I should now be taking him upstairs to sleep at 9pm rather than keeping him downstairs? We have a baby mointor and live in a small house anyway, but I'm sure I read in one of those baby books babies should be in same room (upstairs or downstairs) for first 12 weeks? I think I might be getting too caught up on what the books say though - as someone very rightly pointed out regarding advice, he is my baby so I should follow my own instincts but would be great to hear what others do

Many congratulations Dizzi! xx

I vaguely remember reading something about the cot death risk being slightly less if they're around other people when sleeping, it's probably only by tiny fractions though? Maybe that's why the book recommended it? Mine is generally wherever I am. He doesn't sleep much in the evening anyway, but if he does sleep he's not bothered by noise.

Sammie_03

Thanks sunshine I'll keep an eye out for it!! We took ds1 to see the tweenies live at Butlins when he was little, he gets embarrassed when he sees the pics now!!

Gilly - we didn't have any plans for the weekend until 10 mind ago when we got invited to a BBQ this afternoon :j

Xx

Gillyx

Age gaps, we thought maybe trying come December, but it's just too soon for us. I would love another one soon, but I want more time with Aaron just me and him. So I'm thinking maybe starting to try in about a years time

sunshine_1988

Im not sure re age gaps, Aiden will be at nursery in November when I return to work so to have another one would really cripple us financially. I would have to give up work, which I wouldn't want to do ideally. Plus we want to buy a bigger house ideally before we have another.

I would like a 2-3 year age gap, so will have to see what the future holds!!

Just got back from town, we went for a walk in the park and for lunch and I spent some of my birthday cash on some new tops and jumper

No plans for the rest of the day really. xx

Sammie_03

I want another but I just have to convince dp!! Ideally I would like another in a few years. There is a 6 year gap between Noah and ds2 do I would like Noah to have a brother/sister closer to his age like ds1 and ds2. When Noah is 5 ds1 will be 13 and ds2 11 so they might not want to play the same things as Noah if you know what I mean.

Right off to cut the front lawn...........................
Xx

katiechoc_2

I think I'd only want another once George is at school, really don't think I'd cope with two tiny ones at home together. There's 4 years between me and my bro which I think was ok.

Re bedtime routines - since he was about 8-9 weeks we've changed, put pjs on and fed at about 7pm and put him down in the bedroom. We only live in a tiny 1 bed flat so can hear him easily and we just look in on him periodically. It's made a big difference since we started doing that, having a couple of hours of "grown up" time.

I'm shattered, George was up at 3, 4, 5 and 7 this morning. Early night for me tonight!

turtlemoose

Katie how do you get George to feed at a set time for your bedtime routine? Reuben will only feed when HE wants to, if I try to get him to at any other time he just won't open his mouth

We've just got back from a day out at Bridgnorth, the weather was lovely. We went to a pub for lunch (a rare treat) and they had some folk musicians playing, a storyteller, and a real ale festival. Had a sneaky :beer: while Reuben snoozed in his sling.....and even OH had a go at carrying him in it :T

Hope everyone else has managed to do something nice with this weather

Oh and I'd happily have another baby any day, sadly having had a section and finances mean we will have to wait a while yet

fluffnutter

turtlemoose wrote: »

Katie glad he's enjoying bath time now. I haven't had mine wee in the bath yet (I'm sure it's inevitable), but he did once poop in the towel as I was drying him afterwards...gross!!

Re BFing, it's just so hard as I constantly feel like I'm justifying it. OH and MIL think he should be sleeping through by now (eg 10-6). He simply cannot go that long without being hungry....he isn't always consistent but roughly does 10-2, feed, 2.45-4.45, feed, 5.30-7.00 feed, then we tend to have a morning nap together from about 7.45 - 10 if we are not going out. During the day he will go up to 3hrs between feeds, but evenings (about 6pm-9pm) he pretty much constantly wants milk- as little as a half hour gap! From what I've read online, all of the above is ok...but I often doubt myself and wonder if I'm doing the right thing. OH's older son (FF) apparently slept through from 6 weeks blah blah blah ....just makes me feel inadequate and worry that I'm somehow stopping my son getting as much sleep as he could have.

You could be describing Freddie's routine - it's that similar. BF can be so hard, can't it? I'm constantly beset by anxiety about whether he's getting enough, whether his patterns are normal and when things will change. If he feeds a lot, I feel exhausted. If he doesn't, I panic!

Only now at five weeks do I feel I'm cracking it. He had a tongue-tie that caused problems. Luckily it was sorted when he was 5 days old, but 5 days of poor latching was enough to trash my nipples and I had to express on and off for a week or so on one side because it was just too painful. Also when my milk came in, my boobs were like overinflated enormous balloons for a few days and he found it difficult to latch on because he kept bouncing off.

But... it's the best thing for bonding in the world. I can totally see why people give up but I'm really pleased we've persevered. Sometimes when I look down at him nuzzling away I burst into tears. Which is fine until they drip on his head - then I tell myself to get a grip

Gillyx

My boy was FF from 4 weeks (due to intolerances) and he only started sleeping through last week at 27 weeks. Before that he was around 14 weeks when he started doing 7-4 so FF doesnt mean theyl sleep through xx

dizziblonde

Erin's slept through from about 13 weeks - she gets a bit restless in the middle of the night, but it's not hunger (she was less and less interested in a feed that time of the night - she's just like me in that she naturally becomes more awake at that point in the night), it's wanting a cuddle - since she's in the cot with the side off up against our bed (they're the same height so it works well) I just pull her across for a cuddle and she dozes back off.

With bedtime routines she's well grotty after about 5pm - so we tend to bath her and give her a bottle about 6ish, bit of a cuddle and we're trying to add in a bedtime story but often forget - we draw the curtains and make the house a bit darker/quieter for her and she goes to sleep in her carrycot downstairs for the first part of the evening (otherwise it's hours sat in the bedroom putting dummies back in), then we feed her and do her nappy when we go up at 10/10.30ish and take her upstairs with us... I'm not happy having her upstairs on her own as of yet with how the layout of our house is and there are evenings she can be a pain in the bum to settle - tonight though she's out for the count and it's 6.45!

Yes I am aware that I'm a jammy cow!