MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

turtlemoose

GRRRR want to just have a rant that the CSA are a bunch of w*nkers. My partner basically got lied to by one of their advisors and has taken his paternity leave (at statutory) because they said his payment would be adjusted to take in to account that it is statutory, and in the eyes of the CSA statutory paternity pay does not count as earnings. Now we are being told by them that their advisor made a mistake and that isn't true, so now it won't be reduced.

I'm furious, because he wouldn't have taken his paternity leave if we knew this was the case, because we cannot afford the drop with me also being on statutory. We literally live with zero spending money - our only non-essential is Sky which we pay £60 a month for - that's it, every other penny is accounted for, and we live very strictly with no luxury items or even really 'fun' items.

I'm so angry, and now we will probably be forced to use a credit card to get through the month, which means interest charges. It won't be for a huge amount (couple of hundred) but it's enough and it just makes me so mad that they can give us the wrong advice and then we are affected financially and they can just say "oh well we got it wrong, oops". Not even a damn apology!

sunshine_1988

Oh turtlemoose, you are right they do seem like a bunch of beeps from what you have written. Is there any complaints process? Hugs to you hun x

Gilly - another one lol?! Out of interest, if others are planning on more than 1 child, what age gap do you all want?

Aiden is still being a bit mardy, think he is tired again...back later x

janninew

Is MSE playing up, I couldn't log in again yesterday, it getting giving me an error message! Its very annoying when you have lots to say and it meant I had no excuse but to get on with housework! Need to read back now, its been busy the past few days on here!

Been to open Poppy's first bank account this morning, she's richer than me now! :rotfl:

Aimless

Turtlemoose, official complaint, with a copy sent to your MP too. They can sometimes make compensation payments for their screwups. Not much, but better than nothing.

Bluebell1000

Turtlemoose, definitely look up their complaints process, that's rubbish!

I think we were considering a 18 month - 2 year age gap but that will depend on finances and if we can afford childcare for a second one.

I found another box in the cupboard with clothes in, that random people have given us, and there was a stack of 6-9 vests and lots of other bits including a couple of sleepsuits, so we might be ok for clothes now

Lirin

Not really commented as nothing has happened! Rose is getting looked after by MIL, and I'm finishing work....

It's strange being back, I do miss her, and I'm trying not to come across as a bad parent here, but the relief in being away from her is nice too. I don't mean in a bad way- she is a lot of work, I'm constantly moving and doing stuff, and she's getting a little bit loud! Excited little squeals and squawks every few seconds.... Sometimes, coming to work is a nice respite from that as well as a chance to have adult conversation! I love Rose, and do wish I was at home- but it is nice to break the pattern from time to time.

Turtlemoose, complain, def.

Gillyx, thanks!

Age gap- prob best soon before I change my mind. Though when I've saved up a bit more. The preg, great. Labour, ok. Aftermath- don't mind 'convienantly' forgetting that bit and hoping it never happens again.

turtlemoose

Yes we will be complaining, just wanted to GRR about it! I put a LOT of time and effort in to not being angry about the stupid ex (she causes a lot of hassle), and I am often peacekeeper getting OH to calm down when she's pulled her latest stunt....but today just pushed my buttons and I went mad at OH about it so we then had an argument...doh!!

sunshine, I am with gilly on wanting another baby like...now! Well not the baby part, but pregnant now so that there'd only be 10 months between them...that'd be lovely! But midwife said you should wait 12 months after a section so I think my OH is relieved he has a medical reason to refuse to impregnate me LOL!

I'd love all the puke/poo/dribble/sleepness nights over in one block of time, rather than waiting until the first is past all that then starting all over again...madness!!

mozzyc

Sorry, haven't read back yet, but............

Ergh! Just made dinner for myself, hubby and his sister. She finishes, puts plate and glass in sink (which I'd filled with hot soapy water ready!), and goes upstairs to watch tv. !!!!!!!!!!!! Am I alone in thinking you say thanks and wash your own bloody dish!!!! Evenings are the only time I have !!!!!!! Said to hubby I'm really disappointed, it doesn't take much to have manners.
She gets up at 11am, potters round here eating chocolate and reading magazines, goes to bed from 3pm-6pm, gets up, eats dinner, and goes up early to watch movies. I thought she was here to visit, help out and bond with Charlie. She talks to him, and is generally a pleasant person, but didn't pick him up or hold him once today.

Grrrr, anyway, sorry about the rant, but I just don't have the time to clean up after anyone else at the moment. I'm also tired but don't have the luxury to sleep all day!

And breathe............... xxx

sunshine_1988

Hi Mozzy!!

No, your not alone in thinking that I would expect that too. Poor you, its not on for her to treat your home like that, especially when you have a baby!! How much longer is she with you for? Hope she helps you out a bit more.

Turtlemoose, Lirin - I would prob like a 2 year gap I think. Although will also have to look at finances etc

xx

Gillyx

You know what to do in future Mozzy. I hate people like that. Do they do it in there own house? :eek: