MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

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Fredula wrote: »

I'm not getting on very well being a parent. I love my baby to bits but sometimes when he cries I feel like I could just throw him across the room - obviously I wouldn't...but I get annoyed. And I feel like everybody else gets to enjoy my baby and I don't because in the day when it's my turn to look after him I have to do all the other stuff so I rarely get time to sit down and talk to him, especially when he's awake. And on a weekend we're over his Nanny's (we live with my parents in the week and OH's parents on the weekend) and obviously they like to have lots of cuddles because they haven't seen him for a week. I feel like I hardly talk to my baby, and other people seem to talk loads to him. I don't feel like I've bonded with him and I found it really difficult to hear his Nan (MIL) say that she did skin to skin with him when she looked after him for the night a couple of weeks ago, because I don't even do that and that's what mothers should do, not grandparents (Imo). He's a lovely baby, but I just don't feel like he's mine.

Sadly, that's how being a Mummy works, he's definitely yours! Mummies do the feeding, the cleaning up, and so on, and everyone else gets to play. Daddy got the first laugh, lanky teen gets huge beaming smiles, I get thrown up on.

If you're worried about not talking to him enough, just chat away while you're doing other jobs. It doesn't have to be anything exciting, I just do a running commentary... "shall we put your trousers on , ooh, blue trousers! And some socks, one sock,. two socks". In fact, I remember one day when lanky teen had just started school, I found myself in the supermarket saying "shall we get some cheese, oh yes, I think we'll get some cheese", and suddenly realised I was alone! We also have chats where I repeat his baby noises back to him.. "oh, agooo, aglooooo". I must look like a mad lady.

On the skin to skin front, do you wash him in a baby bath? You could try (carefully!) getting in the big bath with him instead, then you can have cuddles and bathtime at once.

P.s. you're just getting to the stage where they begin being more interesting, laughing, making noises, playing... It does get more fun when they can respond more.

*Ro*

Hello all!

Fredula- first of all that is hard living with parents.
There have been quite a few moments of just wanting family time with our LO as have had lots of visitors and one relative in particular gets upset as says we don't visit enough etc but it's tiring isn't it !
I think as mummies we do get the nasty bits as well as good things. I have turned nappy changing time into chat time with LO and if he responds I bring his hands together and give an enthusiastic yeah!!! Regardless of what noise he makes! And a kiss etc it makes him and me feel good. In the morning one of the two times he will take boob now, I lay him next to me on bed to feed and then feed him bottle on a cushion. It's a nicer way to start the day. As for mil having skin to skin :eek: it's a bit weird but think she's reminiscing about her mummy years and pretending yours is hers sort of thing, kind of creepy but just about ok :rotfl: if you want to talk to your baby you can just try and do it during ordinary everyday things and if you can get others to help u a bit all the better. By the way he is yours as you made him and once he is more vocal he will give you his mummy approval x also if you feel that the frustration you feel is more than just a bit of frustration then don't be afraid to ask for help if you are feeling down xx also hope that you do ask for help with things ie housework so that you can say 'no I'm feeding him etc' to parents and chat to LO then.
Ps just looked at your signature, seems like you have a lot going this year and you are VIP you know so take care of yourself xx

camNolliesMUMMY

News flash lost some more water with poo init came in and I was 4cms laughing it all off with my mum, partner n staff.
Went into my own room an hour later was 6cms got on my front kneeling contractions got really strong within 10 mins and started pushing 2hrs and I had baby oliver 8lb 8.5 born at 1:59pm this afternoon and I'm already on my way home.

glimmerofhope

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camNolliesMUMMY wrote: »

News flash lost some more water with poo init came in and I was 4cms laughing it all off with my mum, partner n staff.
Went into my own room an hour later was 6cms got on my front kneeling contractions got really strong within 10 mins and started pushing 2hrs and I had baby oliver 8lb 8.5 born at 1:59pm this afternoon and I'm already on my way home.

Congratulations on the safe and quick arrival of Oliver

Kira000

Ro, I know how you feel. My DH is working alot now, so during the week, i have LO 24/7 as well cos he leaves before i get up, and comes home after Cj is in bed, and is sleeping in the spare room cos his snoring is so bad. Its lovely having the time with her, but being on duty by myself is exhausting and relentless!

*Ro*

camNolliesMUMMY wrote: »

News flash lost some more water with poo init came in and I was 4cms laughing it all off with my mum, partner n staff.
Went into my own room an hour later was 6cms got on my front kneeling contractions got really strong within 10 mins and started pushing 2hrs and I had baby oliver 8lb 8.5 born at 1:59pm this afternoon and I'm already on my way home.

Congratulations!!:j well done and lovely name too x

*Ro*

Kira000 wrote: »

Ro, I know how you feel. My DH is working alot now, so during the week, i have LO 24/7 as well cos he leaves before i get up, and comes home after Cj is in bed, and is sleeping in the spare room cos his snoring is so bad. Its lovely having the time with her, but being on duty by myself is exhausting and relentless!

Thankfully the 24/7 thing is temporary must be so hard for you though. Keep thinking that for those bringing up baby by themselves must be so so hard, I couldn't do it, hubby has been great. I think I am lucky as I know some don't have a maternal side. It sounds a bit like ships that pass for you but the main thing is that it is temporary as things will change over time.

Kira000

*Ro* wrote: »

Thankfully the 24/7 thing is temporary must be so hard for you though. Keep thinking that for those bringing up baby by themselves must be so so hard, I couldn't do it, hubby has been great. I think I am lucky as I know some don't have a maternal side. It sounds a bit like ships that pass for you but the main thing is that it is temporary as things will change over time.

What makes it worse is that the less time Dh spends with her in the week, the more CJ cries when i try and get him to take her at the weekend. And the more she cries for him, the less he wants to take her cos it upsets him and he feels crap, and vicious cycle continues. If i'm lucky Dh will change 3- 4 nappies and take her for one hour long walk over a weekend. He used to be able to bring her down and look after her for an hour in the mornings so i could lie in a little, but now she just cries at him till i rescue them.
I'm hoping that she will gradually allow us to move her bedtime a little later, so he sees her in the evenings sometimes, and she gets used to him again, but at the moment, she refuses to move it more than a few minutes later than going upstairs for 5.15! Set in her ways, is our wee lassie!

*Ro*

Apparently these are American pictures, words fail......

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2124473/Worlds-worst-parents-pictures.html