MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

turtlemoose

Missbunbury forgetting what the doctor said, how do you feel about your baby? Is she alert when she's awake? Is she waking at regular intervals for feeding? How many wet and dirty nappies is she doing?

If you answer those for me, I can then give you a more specific response.

Also here is some really good reading ref weight gain and breastfed babies http://kellymom.com/health/growth/growthcharts/

turtlemoose

Oh and ref toys in cots, I was a good girl and had a no toys in the cot rule - suffocation was my worry! But now he sleeps with a muslin over his face *sigh* so I doubt a teddy is going to do any harm! So now Zed lives in there - a zebra, the very first thing OH and I bought for our bump

*Nutella*

missbunbury wrote: »

She gained 3.5oz in 6 days, this is not enough apparently, doc says "you must be doing something wrong" but has no interest in anything other than me giving her a bottle. So frustrated, I have literally fed her constantly for a week, haven't got dressed or done any housework or anything. He has made me promise to start expressing more milk and cup-feeding it to her but I can't see where I have the time, she feeds all the time so I would have to stop feeding her and express instead which seems counterintuitive.

Oh no I'm sure others on here will able to advice, but just wanted to send you a big ((hug)) and say that I think it's totally inappropriate for the doctor to tell you that you're doing something wrong - that's the last thing you need to hear as a new mother.

dizziblonde

*Nutella* wrote: »

:rotfl:Our collection grew too... Then she started moving down to the other end of the cot to play at 2am, and they now live in the toy box and on a shelf in her room The exceptions are her comforter, which lives in her arms when she sleeps, and a giant pink teddybear that was given to her by a relative. It doesn't fit in the toy box and is really ugly (but very soft, and she likes cuddling it), so it stays at the end of her cot so that I don't have to look at it

We have a LOT of toys at the top of the cot (including a 2 foot tall knitted clown gran made for him, a pink furry pig that oinks, umpteen teddies and assorted other characters) - she can't quite reach them all yet so it's fine, then I'll attempt to find somewhere else to put them I guess - she also has her bunny with dummy attached that she tends to sleep with on her head (she uses his ears as a blindfold - it's quite cute to watch) and the entire cast of Winnie the Pooh in the downstairs cot - Eeyore tends to get it when she wakes up from a nap and fancies flinging things around by their ears.

I don't tend to worry now I figure she's big enough and mobile enough to wriggle out of trouble - used to worry more when she was tiny, but then she was in with us anyway.

The 3 1/2 foot teddy bear doesn't fit in the cot, neither does the 3 foot Scooby Doo (got to love the random crap people buy you).

moneypenny21

Bamama - I've been a terrible mother and given babs a dummy early on (only a few mins at a time). She sucks her fingers & dries them out which is why !we gave her one. I feed her for 30-40 mins, change her and if she still cries I'll try her dummy fora few mins. 9 times out of 10 it settles her, the other time she is hungry and spits it out. Talking to some other BF mummies they put babies back on to comfort them for a few minutes. The last three evenings the dummy has been spat all night & she has fed all night which is fair enough but soooo many times in the dAy she just wants comfort. Equally when she starts faffing and feeding & dozing off, provided she has had a good 30 min feed !sometimes I change her, put her in her chair or pass her to daddy. She very rarely complains for more food, sometimes I think because I hold her she can smell the milk which makes her root for food. We've just started figuring out hungry cries too. She is putting loads of weight and if she genuinely cries for food of course I feed her but she definitely butts her head for a comfort suck sometimes rather than actual feeding. I know not everyone will agree with this tactic but as I've worked out so far it's whatever works for you and your baby!

Fluff - re positioning seems to have helped, hopefully it will continue to improve thanks for all the advice

moneypenny21

Miss Bunbury - I can't offer any advice other than big hugs and I'd speak to a breast feeding specialist rather than a doctor. My doctor friend told me before I started BF that you have to take growth charts with a pinch of salt most of the time when BF as they slow down and have growth spurts way more than bottlefed babies do (no idea if this is correct but she usually talks some sense). Don't feel forced into bottle feeding by the doctor if that isn't what you want. There is loads of help out there but the doctor probably isn't the best person to give that advice as mad as that sounds. Big hugs and chin up x

*Ro*

Just a quickie

Missbunbury - (( hugs ))

Sammie - yes , though I'd have to ask Scott what actually happens in the program as I only notice the theme tune lol!

Nutella & Gilly and all !!! virtual cake slices sent ! Nom !

Xx

*Ro*

Oh and Scott flings stuff out the pushchair too nutella :0

Re toys in cotbed he has buh (steiff bear) guh (knitted dog) and dino (jellycat dinosaur ) he flings them out quite often !

Aimless

fluffnutter wrote: »

What's people's stance on stuff in the cot? Since birth Freddie's had some tastefully arranged soft toys at the end of his cot. Inevitably, over time the number of these has grown. I went to put him down tonight and I could barely fight through the detritus of faux fur, plush bunnies, cot snakes, blankets, muslins, and Miffys. Now that he's mobile and interested enough to drag them around the cot, it's getting to the point where I struggle to find him when I go to feed him during the night

Is it all a bit much?

I'm a cot meanie, nothing he can chew on, climb on or tangle himself with, just a boy, a sleeping bag, and a sheet.

Today we have steps as opposed to a single step. He was almost running at one point because he had something I was about to confiscate, mostly he fell over though.

Aimless

Miss Bunbury, I second the advice to find a specialist before your stupid doctor beats all the confidence out of you! If your baby is happy, healthy and gaining, how can you be doing something wrong? Some babies grow faster than others, and some slower.