Christmas "get if off your chest" thread.

beachbeth

madvixen wrote: »

All round to mine for turkey curry tonight????:rotfl:

I'd love to! I'd would help with the washing up and even bring something for pudding and a bottle of something nice too! Sounds lovely.

flowertotmum

Barneysmom wrote: »

Look, what's the point of having all this bad stuff inside and not letting them out?

This is a rant.

Right, Christmas Eve my sis came with her hubby, and 3 children.
I did a stew and dumplings which they ate, some strawberry milk shakes for the kids, then rice pudding and custard.

So that's 5 plus hubby and me.


Today I had DD and boyfriend, mom and dad, plus 2 friends with their son.
I did a big buffet, roast beef, roast pork, turkey, pork pie, salad, baked spuds with garlic butter, roast veg, etc etc 2 different desserts, drinks.

So that's 9 plus hubby and me.

How many people offered to help lay the table, or help clear it after?
None. Not a flipping one of the bone idle lot. Didn't even put a plate by the sink.
Meanwhile there's me and my seriously ill hubby chasing round and waiting on them like a pair of feccin idiots.

Never again.

Pah.
Tomorrow DH's dad's coming.
Wednesday my br his wife and their 3 boys are coming.
Plus another 2 friends.

We'll see who helps.

Good lord hun..i am mad on your behalf..i have a list of rules in my kitchen,printed in huge letters..
If i cook it and you eat it then you wash it and put away.
If i am cooking your meals the please help me out and set the table.
When meal is finished please put your own dishes and plates near the sink please..
etc it goes on
Hubby did it for me as i actually had a melt down one year,cooking lunch for 14 and then not even getting to sit and enjoy it as i was fetching this and that and ended up with all the kids at my end of the table for some reason...and then they all left the table looking like a bloody bomb had gone off and retreated to my living room only to destroy that room too..no offer of help was forthcoming from anyone.
I did it all and then took a bottle of pop(i don't drink) and sat on doorstep plotting my revenge..
What did i do..nothing..as in i refused point blank to make the evening tea and any drinks.as it would be me that did it all..and if the !!!!!!!!!!s wanted to eat then they could !!!! off elsewhere..all said in a loud voice whilst febreezing the living room that they were sat in..needless to say they left and haven't been back..bliss..
you need to state clearly that you want and expect some help with clearing away and maybe it will happen..hope it does there is nothing worse than being taken for granted and no thanks forthcoming..
love
ftm

Turtle

Dear lord some of these people are horrendous :mad:. We had a really nice couple of days in the main. Had the parents round to ours for dinner yesterday (another full Christmas dinner) and it was the first time they'd all seen our new kitchen. My mum and dad said how lovely they thought it was, OH mum started saying 'Why haven't you done XXX yet?' she doesn't get that we both work full time and have sports clubs, friends etc to see, then she said 'I'll keep my mouth shut today' no, keep it shut EVERYDAY. The woman really makes me want to scream :eek::eek::eek: (but that's not restricted to Christmas )

Odette

Every year at xmas my Dad throws some kind of wobbly. Now I am older I spend xmas alternately with OH family or mine. I was looking forward to this year with my family as you do, but after what unfolded on xmas day this year, I much prefer an xmas with my OH family which is sad IMHO
This year because my Mum bought him one clothing item that didnt fit (this was after a massive xmas dinner, we opened our presents in the afternoon) he thought it right to make mean comments about everything he got. Me and mum even bought him a kindle and after he had settled down in the evening I tried to help him set it up, even then he started moaning about it so I just left him to it.

catch_me_if_you_can

madvixen wrote: »

All round to mine for turkey curry tonight????:rotfl:

I'll bring some champagne. And a variety of savoury nibbles.

KxMx

ab.da54 wrote: »

I do think the key is in doing something different yourself, KxMx, rather than maybe thinking others will invite you.

It sounds as though you have some ill health, but, hopefully, doing something such as volunteering, will give you a christmas you enjoy.

It doesn't have to be the same every year. I hope next year's is a better one for you.

Yes I quite agree; but it hasn't been possible thus far. Every xmas I am single, every xmas I am living at home still, every xmas I have no car (neither Mum or I drive) and the buses stop for over 48 hours (nothing xmas eve from 6pm to the 27th).

So there has been and is no option right now but to spend xmas at home. There is no way for me to change those 3 factors. If I am not invited anywhere then I have to stay at home. The family at least used to pick us up Boxing Day (Nan's Birthday) and take us over to see them but that has all stopped in the last few years.

With the best will in the world there has been no way round this! It's not as simple as me making a change as I have no means to make it i'm afraid.

Hopefully next xmas I will be a bit better and I can find somewhere to volunteer that can pick me up and take me home.

sausagesandwich19

Kili wrote: »

Great thread, and just what I need......

I wanted a Kindle for Christmas, not a huge ask, but I know money is tight at the moment. Imagine my little face on Christmas morning when OH has bought me a kindle. I was over the moon. He tells me its a joint gift from him and our teenage children (who I believe have contributed £40 to this as that was the amount they spent on him).
I open a card from my Mum In Law and it's got £40 in! Great, I can buy a nice case to protect my pride and joy? Well no, because OH says he needs that money to pay towards the Kindle..... I'm a bit disheartened at this but I hand it over and work out that if the kids paid £40 and I just gave him £40 he paid £9.

Having spent 36 marvellous hours with my new toy happily reading I realise that there is a way you can put your own screen savers on and I mention this to OH. He has a look and says its complex. I tell him to leave it. He doesn't.

My beautiful new Kindle is now firmly bricked in a 'developer' screen which wont turn on or off. It can't go back because you aren't even supposed to access that menu apparently and OH can't fix it. I am gutted. Did he say sorry? Offer to replace it? Did he !!!!.

I have spent most of the night in floods of tears, he's not apologised and there is no way I can afford to replace it myself. I am gutted beyond belief.

Sorry but what a FING PIG THAT IS!!!!!!!!!!

Raksha

Arrgghh! I went shopping (to get some peace and quiet after OH got up) and when I came home, #2 son came out to help me put it away - OH started shouting at him to 'ask first!' When I asked what was up, he said he'd be brought up to 'ask first' I said that must be where we were going wrong, because I'd been brought up that if a job looked like it needed doing, then you do it....

Bennifred

KxMx wrote: »

Yes I quite agree; but it hasn't been possible thus far. Every xmas I am single, every xmas I am living at home still, every xmas I have no car (neither Mum or I drive) and the buses stop for over 48 hours (nothing xmas eve from 6pm to the 27th).

So there has been and is no option right now but to spend xmas at home. There is no way for me to change those 3 factors. If I am not invited anywhere then I have to stay at home. The family at least used to pick us up Boxing Day (Nan's Birthday) and take us over to see them but that has all stopped in the last few years.

With the best will in the world there has been no way round this! It's not as simple as me making a change as I have no means to make it i'm afraid.

Hopefully next xmas I will be a bit better and I can find somewhere to volunteer that can pick me up and take me home.

Would it be possible for you both to go away for a couple of days over Christmas, to a hotel or something, so that you aren't just at home resenting the rest of your family?

building_with_lego

Kili wrote: »

Great thread, and just what I need......

I wanted a Kindle for Christmas, not a huge ask, but I know money is tight at the moment. Imagine my little face on Christmas morning when OH has bought me a kindle. I was over the moon. He tells me its a joint gift from him and our teenage children (who I believe have contributed £40 to this as that was the amount they spent on him).
I open a card from my Mum In Law and it's got £40 in! Great, I can buy a nice case to protect my pride and joy? Well no, because OH says he needs that money to pay towards the Kindle..... I'm a bit disheartened at this but I hand it over and work out that if the kids paid £40 and I just gave him £40 he paid £9.

Having spent 36 marvellous hours with my new toy happily reading I realise that there is a way you can put your own screen savers on and I mention this to OH. He has a look and says its complex. I tell him to leave it. He doesn't.

My beautiful new Kindle is now firmly bricked in a 'developer' screen which wont turn on or off. It can't go back because you aren't even supposed to access that menu apparently and OH can't fix it. I am gutted. Did he say sorry? Offer to replace it? Did he !!!!.

I have spent most of the night in floods of tears, he's not apologised and there is no way I can afford to replace it myself. I am gutted beyond belief.

Kili have you tried to reset it? My OH has found this page about them. I assume you have but just in case...