Christmas "get if off your chest" thread.

KxMx

Bennifred wrote: »

Would it be possible for you both to go away for a couple of days over Christmas, to a hotel or something, so that you aren't just at home resenting the rest of your family?

It's something we've thought of but we don't have the money and right now I am not well enough to consider any kind of holiday. I hope that will change but i've been hoping that for a few years now so I won't hold my breath. Also Mum finishes work xmas eve so not practical even if we did have the money.

And to be honest winter would not be my time of choice to travel, as there is a much higher chance of the weather disrupting public transport this time of year, which is the way we would have to do it.

I think volunteering next year is the way to go even if I am no better I should be able to find something I can manage. Alternatively we are thinking of xmas lunch at a local hotel if we can afford it; and if I am able to eat it by then as for the last 2 years not been able to have an xmas dinner. Even that though has problems as you can't book taxis for xmas as they don't know in advance how many drivers will be out, so you would have to ring up on the day and chance that you won't have a 2 hour wait when you want to go home etc.

elsien

*LolaB* wrote: »

Aaahhhh, feel a bit better now for getting it off my chest, even if I am overeacting/being too sensitive

I don't think you're being too sensitive, more like the both of you are frazzled with lots on your plate. However much you want to help your mum out, you still have your own life to get on with. We all need time to ourselves once in a while, whatever else is going on, without having to feel guilty about it.

YORKSHIRELASS

Thanks for the comments. I need to forget it, Mum has always enjoyed Christmas with us, I know she has. As hubby wisely says it was a real novelty for her to go away and spend Christmas with someone else and she was just a bit carried away by it all.

And LolaB I understand how you feel, its easy to let it all get to you, especially at Christmas. You deserve a big pat on the back for what you have done, especially if you are in early pregnancy and I am sure your Mum does appreciate it.

beachbeth

*LolaB* wrote: »

I'm maybe a little oversensitive/hormonal about this but I'm in the early stages of pregnancy, completely worn out & struggling with morning (allday) sickness, mum knows & is thrilled but still gets mardy with me if I can't drop everything & be at her beck & call.

Aaahhhh, feel a bit better now for getting it off my chest, even if I am overeacting/being too sensitive

I can identify with you. My mum has been like this in the past. I never minded helping her out or giving lifts etc but she sometimes made me feel as though I was expected to drop everything in order to pop to the shops for her or give her a lift. I had a job, 2 kids and a home to look after as well as ill health and it really got to me sometimes that she just didn't realise how tired I was. She would be in the town herself, forget to get something and when she realised when she got home would just ring me to ask me to go get it for her. She can't drive but my dad can. However, I think it was easier to ask me.

Barneysmom

Phew!
I just read all the way through this thread and I'm worn out!

Some things have shocked me, some things 'Yep, yep I know what you mean' and others have had me close to tears.

One thing's for sure Christmas is never boring.

It does us good to have a good old moan about family, especially here where it's (just about) confidential.

I've learned stuff from this, but I know that by next Christmas i will have forgotten it, or I'll think 'Well it wasn't that bad..............'

esmf73

Hi, I too have had a christmas from hell - ended up with DS1 (71/2 yrs autism) giving me a fat lip yesterday - grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

Anyway, have decided that enough is enough and that in 2012 I will save some money each week for us to have a different christmas. Whether we go to a hotel or I buy everything ready made from M&S or I decide to book myself into a spa from Boxing day onwards, I will not have another christmas like this. I will change it!

elliebellie

have to say most of my xmas was lovely, with one major exception, my complete pain the a$*e stepfather, who for some reason believes that contrary to all evidence, the planet revolves around him!!

He walks in the house, starts talking AT me about an operation he having in new year, no mention of the fact that my dad died last week, apparently cos it doesn't involve him, it doesn't matter and isn't worth mentioning!!

Parked himself in living room, and didn't move all day, except to complain that the food he requested wasn't delivered to him quick enough. He bullies my mum, puts her down all the time and if I say anything to him that he considers out of order, will have a go at her when they get home. He blatantly favours one of my cousins over the other, they only little and haven't picked up on it......yet.

He has fallen out with mum's sister and doesn't consider her part of the family, and she shouldn't be invited to any family gathering, i mean !!!!!!??? Who the hell does he think he is? :mad::mad:

This is just a snippet of his behaviour, there is so much more about him and his vile attitude i could write about, but in some ways I feel I am wasting my own time and energy writing about him - IFYKWIM! so will try and focus on the good stuff with rest of my family

Linda32

Kili wrote: »

Just to let you all know, Amazon agreed to the exchange through Tesco (after OH had to call various different people lol) so I now have a working Kindle that he will not be allowed to even breathe on!!!

(and yes, he's being extra nice at present!)

Hi, Sorry for butting in everyone, as I'm very fortunate that I can't contribute one single thing to this thread. (We very nicely decline any offers of xmas invites, this year we were not asked)

But had to reply to Kili, We are so so pleased that the Kindle is being repaired. In fact I'm going to text the OH now to let him know :T

red_devil

YORKSHIRELASS wrote: »

I have kept this one to myself so will now have a little moan. My Mum always comes to us for Christmas but this year was invited to another family member which was fine with me. I really missed her and rushed to the phone when it rang on Christmas Day hoping it would be her.

She then told me that she was having a fantastic time, in fact she has had the best Christmas Day for 20 years. I bit my lip and just said oh thats nice when I was thinking that all the bl**dy Christmases with us cant have been that great then.

I am still upset about it now. Am I being too sensitive? I know Mum had had a few glasses of wine and didnt mean it how it sounded.

all you needed to say was so am i mum!

duchy

red_devil wrote: »

all you needed to say was so am i mum!

Ah but you only think of those responses when it's too late :rotfl:

Kind of reminds me of my late uncle. He lived with us for a year and every Friday night my Mum would cook fish . He'd *always* say "Lovely fish" and then go off for five minutes about how "No-one cooks fish as well as Anne (his sister) does". My Mum used to sit and stew . He had NO idea how tactless he was -eventually my Mum saw the funny side and it became a family joke between me my parents and my brother but I to this day don't know how she didn't clock him one.