here we go again - another christmas another fake pearl necklace!

dobs

My oh just doesn't 'do' presents, if i do get something for my birthday say, i will get it passed to me unwrapped or in a carrier bag lol. This year for xmas because we got a little puppy at the beginning of december he said that she was my present, so i said fine but thought i would get some little thing on the day. Xmas eve he went to asda to get our neighbour a boc of chocs and came back with two more boxes, one of which he chucked at me and said ' these were on offer so you can have them for xmas' - expected me to wrap it up myself and open it again the next day! He had a bike for xmas but i did get him a few little bits but i swear its because he can't be bothered, i have never seen him wrap a present up for anyone in the 17 yrs we've been married!

catch_me_if_you_can

jojo_2012 wrote: »

I on the other hand got nothing from the boyfriend will have to spoil myself instead.

Me either. From anyone. Well, apart from my Secret Santa from work...

I'm getting myself a Kindle and some diamond earrings.

adamantine

i got practically nothing this year. a £10 dressing gown and a book that i already have.

you need to spell it out that you do not nor will you ever like pearl necklaces. at least he cared enough tp try. my family certainly didnt bother to even think about me after everything i do for them.

Mojisola

dobs wrote: »

My oh just doesn't 'do' presents, if i do get something for my birthday say, i will get it passed to me unwrapped or in a carrier bag lol. This year for xmas because we got a little puppy at the beginning of december he said that she was my present, so i said fine but thought i would get some little thing on the day. Xmas eve he went to asda to get our neighbour a boc of chocs and came back with two more boxes, one of which he chucked at me and said ' these were on offer so you can have them for xmas' - expected me to wrap it up myself and open it again the next day! He had a bike for xmas but i did get him a few little bits but i swear its because he can't be bothered, i have never seen him wrap a present up for anyone in the 17 yrs we've been married!

Why do you still buy presents for him?

balletshoes

catch_me_if_you_can wrote: »

I'm getting myself a Kindle and some diamond earrings.

thats the way to do it :T!

maman

mrcow wrote: »

But I do object to my OH buying me unwanted/ridiculous stuff where effectively the money has come out of our overall household budget (so effectively I'm paying for it).

We aren't scrooges (honest:D) but DH and I agreed that we weren't going to buy each other presents any more. We are (fortunately) in the position where we can buy whatever we want/need for ourselves so any gifts would just be 'stuff' which we both hate just bought for appearances sake. Same goes for all the rest of the family except a few young children and some tokens for a few friends. We decided between us a few years ago.

So, it's hard for me to empathise with OP for being disappointed with her present(s). I can sympathise as it must be really hard if there's something you'd really like and rely on Christmas gifts for a few nice treats. However, I think the hardest thing to accept must be that you have a partner who seems to care so little about things that are important to you. Hopefully he has lots of other good points to make up for it?:)

mrcow

maman wrote: »

However, I think the hardest thing to accept must be that you have a partner who seems to care so little about things that are important to you. Hopefully he has lots of other good points to make up for it?:)

He is the kindest, most thoughful person I have ever met in my life. I don't know anyone (and I mean anyone) who has a single bad word to say about him.

He puts me first in everything he does - including all the little day to day things, even when I'm throwing a strop. I always tell him that he's lucky to have me, but I know it's the other way round

We've been together for 17 years now - and he does put a lot of thought into presents - I guess we've been together for so long that there are bound to have been some howlers over the years.

I can't moan this year however as I got some lovely, thoughtful presents including a ring which is so beautiful I cried when I opened it. He doesn't always get it wrong.

notakid

maman wrote: »

However, I think the hardest thing to accept must be that you have a partner who seems to care so little about things that are important to you. Hopefully he has lots of other good points to make up for it?:)

I posted my husband buys awful presents, and I know its down to a lack of interest, he just can't be bothered and hates shopping but that is who he is, he was like that when I met him, why should he change?

However I know that anytime of the year I can buy whatever I like I have no limitations imposed on me.

Its not important issue, more of an annoyance. Women tend to like buying presents, are a natural at it you could say, when others show no interest in something that seems such a basic task you get peeved. Its not a big deal, but a moan is always useful!:p

adelight

meritaten wrote: »

my OHs idea of a romantic break is a week in a caravan in Pembroke out of season (ie cold wet and boring)! I just take lots of books and warm clothes and am perfectly content!

Honestly that is pretty much mine and oh's idea of a perfect holiday, well, maybe a shed rather than a caravan but somewhere cold, wet and outdoors! We were gutted when I couldn't get time off in jan as we can't have our dream holiday breaking our necks climbing icy scottish mountains

My OH won't choose presents for me but I like him to have to give it some thought so I gave him a list of a few things to pick one off (this is what his family do) and he bought them all! He tends to go for the approach of buying everything he can think of and hoping some of it is right, I tend to help with his family presents because of this otherwise he'll end up buying someone the same book with different covers.

sassyblue

I don't understand why people flamed you last year!

I have to give hubby a list of things l like and have seen in magaznes so he can chose from them, otherwise there's no telling what l'd end up with.

/Some men you just have to spell it right out to!