here we go again - another christmas another fake pearl necklace!

aliasojo

meritaten wrote: »

er - I wont say what I think about 2 month old babies having their ears pierced cos thier mums think it makes them look cute!
Just wondered what it had to do with fake pearl necklaces and people not giving thier spouses appropriate gifts.
perhaps this post was meant for another thread on the best christmas present?

I thought the fab comments were sarcasm and she was writing about how the gift wasn't appropriate?

meritaten

alias - there wasnt enough info in the post really.............was it sarcasm? sorry, but I missed that!
if carrieanne was really saying that some twit had bought her two month old daughter hooped earrings for pierced ears - why on earth didnt she say so?
I would totally agree with it being an inappropriate gift (unless they were family heirlooms gifted to her by a terminally ill relative)!

The_Ubiquitous_Mrs_Smith

My husband never wants anything, thinks Christmas and birthdays are all about pointless consumerism and finds shopping really stressful. He gets worried he'll mess up so would rather avoid the whole thing and not get anything.

The thing is, the actual present genuingly doesn't matter. He could get me something completely "wrong" but as long as he had put effort into it I would appreciate it.

It does hurt when he can't be bothered. I did have a big strop with him after he failed to make an effort for my birthday again this year and made it very clear he had better get me something real and sparkly for Christmas. I got a necklace. Not something I would have picked but lovely the nonetheless and better because he chose it.

I don't really get the people who specify exactly what they want. Surely if you're going to do that you may as well just ask for the money, or just buy it yourself. A strong nudge in the right direction is one thing (and something I've decided I'm going to have to do each year) but the point of receiving gifts is about the giver making an effort? If they can't be bothered to make the effort I'd rather they didn't bother at all than buy a specified item if that makes sense.

meritaten

The_Ubiquitous_Mrs_Smith wrote: »

My husband never wants anything, thinks Christmas and birthdays are all about pointless consumerism and finds shopping really stressful. He gets worried he'll mess up so would rather avoid the whole thing and not get anything.

The thing is, the actual present genuingly doesn't matter. He could get me something completely "wrong" but as long as he had put effort into it I would appreciate it.

It does hurt when he can't be bothered. I did have a big strop with him after he failed to make an effort for my birthday again this year and made it very clear he had better get me something real and sparkly for Christmas. I got a necklace. Not something I would have picked but lovely the nonetheless and better because he chose it.

I don't really get the people who specify exactly what they want. Surely if you're going to do that you may as well just ask for the money, or just buy it yourself. A strong nudge in the right direction is one thing (and something I've decided I'm going to have to do each year) but the point of receiving gifts is about the giver making an effort? If they can't be bothered to make the effort I'd rather they didn't bother at all than buy a specified item if that makes sense.

I see what you mean - but in this case its about an inept OH who cannot take a hint! or even being told what it is that would please me...........not to mention buying me items I positively dislike - when I make a point of saying throughout the year 'I dont like FAKE pearls'!

Lotus-eater

meritaten wrote: »

I see what you mean - but in this case its about an inept OH who cannot take a hint! or even being told what it is that would please me...........not to mention buying me items I positively dislike - when I make a point of saying throughout the year 'I dont like FAKE pearls'!

I think it's not that complicated tbh.

Just make it very clear to your OH, " I don't like fake pearls", "I want a real pearl necklace"

Then just relax and wait for it

meritaten

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I think it's not that complicated tbh.

Just make it very clear to your OH, " I don't like fake pearls", "I want a real pearl necklace"



Then just relax and wait for it

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Now what do you think I have been saying to my OH for the last 30odd years??????????????
Do you really think I have led him up the garden path by admiring fake pearl necklaces - when every time we look in jewellers - after admiring the Emeralds Diamonds and Rubies I usually point out a lovely large pearl pendant?
relax and wait eh? That will be bluddy long wait then!:)

Ive given up now! you know what? I dont care if he ever buys me another gift..............Like another poster I think I would rather have nothing than these 'insults' he keeps getting me!

aliasojo

Just a thought Meritaten but does he know he's buying fakes? I'm not sure my OH would know the difference and he would likely think real pearls came in a range of prices from £2.99 to £299.

Lotus-eater

meritaten wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Now what do you think I have been saying to my OH for the last 30odd years??????????????

Then I think he must be a little slow, I wouldn't make my OH wait for long after a invitation like that

Maybe a trade...... you can give me as many pearl necklaces as you like, as long as I get a proper one that comes from oysters

I haven't even had a drink tonight, just feeling frisky

Artytarty

Alisojo, that's exactly what I was thinking! So mnay normal men just wouldnt know the difference.
I would not be a bit surprised if the husband in question thought he was doing the right thing only to get it hopelessly wrong yet again.
I'm sure he isnt doing it on purpose.

Spendless

meritaten wrote: »

alias - there wasnt enough info in the post really.............was it sarcasm? sorry, but I missed that!
if carrieanne was really saying that some twit had bought her two month old daughter hooped earrings for pierced ears - why on earth didnt she say so?
I would totally agree with it being an inappropriate gift (unless they were family heirlooms gifted to her by a terminally ill relative)!

She put it in bold at the top in the title bar 'my daughter's 'fab' present. I missed it initially.