Tis the season to be jolly, tra la la la la, la la la la. (changed title)

dirtysexymonkey

Person_one wrote: »

Son got an Xbox, dad was previously willing to pay for said Xbox, he should just take the one he has back to the shop and give the money to the OP.

If he's got it for £160 then fair enough, the OP loses £40 as a result of poor communication, but its just mean to say 'too bad so sad.' Is he even going to get his son a present now?

hes got a present from his dad - the xbox that he collected last week.

its not the ex's fault that the op decided to buy the xbox without checking with anyone - its not his fault that the op decided to open the xbox that she bought (making it unreturnable) and giving the game that came with it to someone else. its not the ex's fault that the op didnt communicate.

he was asked for an xbox and an xbox was what he gave. the only person at fault here is the op.

and all the excuses of "i trusted him to give the cash" are ridiculous - especially when you were using that cash to get someone else a present (the game that came with the packaged xbox!)!

ab.da54

rizla01 wrote: »

Just a thought Aliasojo,

if the Xbox was BROKEN and DIDN't work (Wink, Wink), and you were forced to buy a new one to settle your disabled son (As he has a condition. etc etc) you might find that the original sellers might be lenient and refund you.

Nothing to lose but a bit of 'Face' but worth it.

Have you absolutely no morals?

I'm betting you're one of those people who think they are a law abiding citizen and yet, you think nothing of advising someone to damage a perfectly good item in order to get their money back.

You should be ashamed for having such thoughts.

No morals at all.

Disgraceful!

Person_one

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

your just making this up as you go along now!


for gods sake woman! your so blinded by your hatred of men that you cant see the wood for the trees!

Actually, it seems I got some details mixed up. That's interesting take on my motivations. :rotfl:

tescobabe69

I wonder why he left ?

Welshwoofs

The words 'storm' and 'teacup' spring to mind. Op - don't blame your ex, you screwed up taking it upon yourself to buy an Xbox just so your kid would have 'some thing to open' and not telling your ex what you were going to do. So...stick the spare Xbox on eBay and take it as a lesson learnt to communicate next time.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

tescobabe69 wrote: »

I wonder why he left ?

Surely that is irrelevant?

sealady

I'm with OP! As a mother we are instinctively trying to protect our kids from the useless fathers by making excuses and going out of our way financially in order so that they are not affected by their behaviour. And that is exactly what you did.

I am not a man hate by any means but what I have realised is that as soon as some men leave the family unit they seem to take on the I will have some responsibility when it suits them, where as a mother we are always responsible and therefore sometimes out of pocket just to ensure that our kids are not disappointed on Christmas day.

Some men play mind games just in order to get their own way or sometimes to show they care when it suits them. OP rant away we all have moments like this unfortunately we cannot ever understand these men.

seven-day-weekend

I don't see what the guy has done wrong, personally.

Stick the spare x-box on e-bay.

FBaby

Are you absolutely certain that it didn't all come down from a misunderstanding rather than your ex being an a**. Your son might have thought his dad said he was giving him the money when it wasn't what is dad said explicitly. Conversation could have gone along the line of:
- hey son, what would you like for Christmas this year, I got a bonus so got a bit more to offer this year
- I would love an x-box
- ok, great, I'll go and have a look, but I'm really busy this week, so if you are coming next week and I haven't got the chance to go and get one, I'll give you the cash instead
- brilliant thanks dad, I'll tell mum

-mum, dad is getting me an x-box but as he won't have time to go and get one, he said he would give me the cash.

The point is, a lot of anger comes out misdirected because people assume others have done things maliciously or carelessly, when actually, the whole confusion came from verbal misunderstanding.

In the end, you could have called your ex and confirmed about the cash, you took your son's word for it, and however unfortunate the outcome is, saying that you hate your ex for it is a bit dramatic.

DUTR

FBaby wrote: »

Are you absolutely certain that it didn't all come down from a misunderstanding rather than your ex being an a**. Your son might have thought his dad said he was giving him the money when it wasn't what is dad said explicitly. Conversation could have gone along the line of:
- hey son, what would you like for Christmas this year, I got a bonus so got a bit more to offer this year
- I would love an x-box
- ok, great, I'll go and have a look, but I'm really busy this week, so if you are coming next week and I haven't got the chance to go and get one, I'll give you the cash instead
- brilliant thanks dad, I'll tell mum

-mum, dad is getting me an x-box but as he won't have time to go and get one, he said he would give me the cash.

The point is, a lot of anger comes out misdirected because people assume others have done things maliciously or carelessly, when actually, the whole confusion came from verbal misunderstanding.

In the end, you could have called your ex and confirmed about the cash, you took your son's word for it, and however unfortunate the outcome is, saying that you hate your ex for it is a bit dramatic.

I agree, although the OP may really hate her ex, my mate was showing me a guilt trip text from his son's Mum, basically Mum had told the son that he can go on holiday with his two friends, however she failed to tell him that Dad was going to pay, you can imagine her dissapointment when he said he is not paying, as quite rightly he did not agree to pay and if was asked 1st would still have declined, so once again he is an athole, son cannot go on the trip because of dad, yet had dad paid, it would have been mum seen to be paying :eek: