Tis the season to be jolly, tra la la la la, la la la la. (changed title)

Person_one

Is your son an adult?

If he is then he needs to stand up to his dad and tell him to return the Xbox and give the cash to you. He wanted son to get an xbox and he wanted to pay for it, that will still be the end result.

Your son needs to tell his dad that its disrespectful to HIM to treat his mother so callously and ask him what kind of example he thinks he's setting.

rising_from_the_ashes

Awwwww hun, I'd be absolutely livid too so rant away ....

I'd see if ex can take his back and give you the money but, if not, I guess it's try to flog it somewhere for as much as poss.

Edinburghlass_2

Twanger wrote: »

Not me, I love a good rant.



Duck's harris is what you're looking for I believe.

I would tell the son who is collecting the xbox to leave it there and get their dad to take it back, then hand over the cash as originally agreed, if he's already collected it then it should be taken back to dads unopened!

I'd go with this option if you can.

Her son, although an adult, has learning difficulties so I doubt it will be possible for him to explain anything to his Dad.

Meantime, put it out of your mind, open that bottle and I hope you all have a lovely Christmas and we'll be thinking of you.

jojo_2012_2

I think you should sell the xbox that comes back with middle son. Maybe write him a letter to tell him how many quid short you are of the original £200. Not that it'll do much good he's probably having a good laugh at your expense (literally).

Invest some of the money in a DIY voodoo kits and jam pins in it's kneecaps. I'm sure it won't be the first or last time you'll be fuming from this man.

zzzLazyDaisy

Many many years ago the exact same thing happened to me.

My ex agreed to give me the money for a sinclair spectrum computer for my 7 year old (anyone remember them?). He wasn't going to come down until after Christmas though, so we agreed I would buy it and he would give me the money when he saw us. So child gets his computer for christmas, but I wasn't techie so a friends had already had it out of the box and set it up so it was ready to go on Christmas day. But then Ex sees it cheaper, buys it himself and tells me to take the one I bought back to the shop which was already wrapped up under the tree.

So how do I tell child that Daddy's present has mysteriously disappeared? And anyway, the thing had been interfered with by then.

Result? Dad took his back, got his money back and only gave me that amount as a contribution because 'that's all he should have paid for it'. So I ended up subsidising his present, which as a single parent, I really couldn't afford.

That was 42 years ago.

I don't bear grudges, honestly

aliasojo

Thank you all for your comments and advice.

Apologies for the rant, it was a kneejerk reaction to something that had just happened and I was a bit worried about the money thing. I'm sure it will all work out.

E....no alcohol has been consumed. Yet. Son still hasn't arrived and I wont open anything until the brood are all home. Have the 'Mum' head on at the moment.

Not sure what's gone on but son only got on the road a while ago so not sure what the hold up was. Maybe he was trying to flog the xbox on the street first.

Happy Christmas all. :beer:

euronorris

robpw2 wrote: »

trade in at game or something what i mean not cash converters

She'd probably get more on Ebay. They don't give you the best prices on those places as they need to sell them on for a profit, but still be less than brand new price.

dirtysexymonkey

Person_one wrote: »

Is your son an adult?

If he is then he needs to stand up to his dad and tell him to return the Xbox and give the cash to you. He wanted son to get an xbox and he wanted to pay for it, that will still be the end result.

Your son needs to tell his dad that its disrespectful to HIM to treat his mother so callously and ask him what kind of example he thinks he's setting.

why should the son do anything of the sort? its not his dad thats at fault here - its the op.

i know you like to blame men for everything but in this case the son asked for an xbox, and he received one from the person he asked. if the op wanted to muscle in and take some of the credit away from her ex (and by her bitterness and anger it's clear that this was really the case), then she alone is responsible.

the op thought that the cash had been handed over and without checking with anyone (not even her son!) she went out and bought an xbox. she had no idea if her son or her ex had already bought an xbox with the money. so obviously she didnt feel comfortable with the idea that her son was given the present that he wanted, a 'main present' from the ex that she hates so much.

on what basis do you think that the ex has treated the op 'callously'? how has he been 'disrespectful'? its nothing to do with the op! she stuck her oar in without checking and shes blaming him when she should be blaming herself.

C_Mababejive

As tight as a Ducks &rse..

Bronnie

..........whilst it's meant best for the kids, it's actually dad's responsibility to ensure his pressie is there for Christmas Day (or birthdays). In fact this time he managed it! If he didn't then so be it. Your kids will form their own judgements in time.

Time (especially after 15 years) to detach oneself from this. Don't get yourself involved. You take care of your side and stop propping up what is his parental responsibility.

Hope you manage to resolve matters ...all the best :xmassmile
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