Frump to Fab - Summer Solstice Sizzler

bratz81

morning all - I wasn't on over the weekend or yesterday as it was St Patrick's day and the rugby was on so obviously I had to celebrate

Am not shattered though, due to lack of sleep from partying and lack of sleep from worrying so am off to get the biggest cup of coffee I can find!

Rosetta92

:wave: Hello everyone,

I've had my operation and am now working on a fabulous recovery. Thanks to this thread I put some thought into hospital preparations and was able to entertain visitors from my bed without feeling ashamed of my nightwear :rotfl:

I've been lurking for a couple of days, but not posting as its hard to string sentences together through the painkiller fog. Congratulations on all the hard work, you are all making good progress - even if you don't always believe it yourselves.

Fabbing for this week will include taking care of the random scratches and bruises picked up during surgery, and breaking out some really cheery nail varnish. Can't quite reach my toes yet, but will have fab fingers to fly over the keyboard as I type

Keep up the good progress everyone

adelight

Rosetta glad your op went well and you are recovering in style
WW i had "soft water" hair after spending this weekend in Birmingham. I think I prefer having softer hair, I've given up on making it look thick or volumised and just style it to emphasize the shiny softness. I'm considering trying to rinse my hair with filtered water to see if it has the same effect!!
skymist i love moving so true and a nice article i have a little tattoo which is a saying about always moving forward, not basking in your success or dwelling in failure for too long.
fedupandskint your running is impressive and inspiring


It's dissertation central here, feel like my brain is about to slide out my nostrils! There will be a short break tonight so I can complete an online OU assignment.
The weekend with family was lovely, really nice to see all my family for my Nan's birthday. My cousin tried explaining slimming world and it seemed so complicated, so much to remember! I wish I'd stayed a few more days but I'll be there again soon enough. I feel all refreshed and full of motivation for work and simple fab things now
I've brought back my burt's bees no nasties hair products and will persevere with them, even if it takes forever to get my hair feeling clean! I'm washing my hair every 2-3 days again, I'd started doing it almost everyday because of my busy schedule. I'm trying to do my bit for the drought too so I will only be having proper baths/showers on the days I wash my hair and on the in between days I'll have a sink wash (iykwim? they're pretty good imo!) or lather up with wet hands and soap and rinse off quickly in a 60 second shower. I don't actually use much water as it is so I can't make much improvement. I wish my housemates would make an effort but they are still washing up with running water and won't reduce their 15 minute showers. Lately I have been fantasizing even more than usual about allotments, solar panels and using bath water to flush the loo :rotfl:

WelshWoofer

Just written a nice long post and its disappeared! GRRR:mad:

Not a lot to report really - just work and woffling on.:o
The Dove shampoo is still working well - not quite as fab as when in Wales with the soft water but a big improvement all the same. I've made more of an effort to eat healthily this week too - made sandwiches and fruit for work and made proper teas and tried not to eat rubbish between meals. Tonight was veggie sausages, homemade mash and peas - quite nice actually.
I've remembered to take my vitamins too so I should be bursting with health anytime soon!

Had an infuriating email form exOH too - won't go into the details but lets just say that I haven't made a mistake making him the ex!;)
Onwards and upwards!

My mini aims for the next few weeks (from now until the end of the Easter school holidays) are to lose half a stone by being sensible and to start looking into getting the living room decorated and to do something to the front garden to tidy it up a bit. A little fab project for me, the house and the garden!

podperson

Morning all,

Sky - you were fine hun, was nice to have a chat Could definately use a bit of the Motivation this week though.

LW - crystals sound really pretty, hope they do some good x

Bratz - hope you've recovered today

Rosetta - glad the op went ok and you're on the recovery road x

adelight - glad you had a nice weekend, good luck with the assignments!

Little stressed this week, OH came to choir last night to do some prep for the show filming - which was good but we normally finish at 9.30 and we ended up there until 10pm while he went over some things with her at the end. Then we still had to get home, stopping at a shop on the way and he needed some bits, so didn't get home until after 10.30. Was just wanting to crawl into my bed with a book for an hour but my lovely kitty had decided to throw up in it - urgh! So was there changing the bed at nearly 11pm, not what I needed

Also loads of hassle with one of OH's friends who helped out on the filming - out of the blue the other day started on about how he hadn't got his money from the shoot and he needed it now. OH hasn't even got it yet and he thought they'd all agreed that it was going back into the pot to buy some equipment with. Anyway, ended up with this guy turning very nasty and personal and OH was rather upset about it, especially since some other friends there seemed to think he had a point.
When he got home I sat down and worked out the money minus the expenses and is basically no profit there, when I told the 'friend' this he said that I shouldn't be taking some of the expenses off as since we could use them again we should cover them while he got his share from the rest of it :eek: Really annoying, in the end we just said, fine we'll cover those expenses, sort him his 'share' when the money comes in and not bother asking him to do the next one if that's the attitude (I mean there were 7 of us on the shoot so even with us covering some of the expenses ourselves it worked out about £15 each, surely not worth all this nastiness when OH constantly helps them on their projects for free!). Anyway, we've decided it's not worth getting worked up over but not the best start to the week!

Not done much fabbing unfortunately, am hoping for a quiet, stress free night tonight to get some done then
Hope everyone has a good day x

lessonlearned

Hello Ladies

I'm back from my mini break in glorious Devon.

Had a lovely time with my friend and her family. As you know she lost her husband to cancer just before Christmas and I was unable to attend his funeral, so it was a bitter sweet time. We had some laughs and shared a few tears as we sat and reminisced over old times.

My friend is truly an inspiration though. She is coping well and is determined to rebuild her life - to live a good life in his memory.

Their daughter has set her wedding date for this year - well done daughter - so this gives my friend something nice to focus on in the coming months.

We had a lovely time on Saturday helping the daughter chose her wedding dress. She has chosen the most stunning gown and will look every inch the beautiful bride. It's so so sad that her darling father will not be able to give her away though.

My friend and I also spent many happy hours wandering around shops, markets, as well as up on the moors and on the beach walking the dog.

We also consumed our body weights in delicious meals, pasties and cream teas. :eek::eek: And why not - that's what holidays are for.:D

However, as yesterday was the Vernal Equinox and we are now technically past the half way mark it's time for me to get down to business.

So today did a stock up of healthy foods, lots of fruit and veg. Also picked up some nice t-shirts pink, pale blue, mid blue and lime green to revamp my spring wardrobe. At £3 a pop from ASDA - they hardly broke the bank.:rotfl:

So .......

I have been reading your posts and they are bit of a mixed bag. Hope those of you who are feeling a little low perk up soon. To those who are doing well - just keep at it.:rotfl:

WW - I just want to say :T:T:T:T on your "Life Revamp" - all that money conserving, personal fabbing, house fabbing, new car etc. You are doing so well - here's a huge pat on the back from me. You've obviously worked hard and you've every right to feel satisfaction with your success.

You are doing just what I am trying to achieve - a complete life change and turnaround. I'm getting there slowly but surely.

My mini break was great because as well as giving me a physical rest it also gave me some thinking and planning time. I've returned full of ideas, schemes and plans.

I know where I want to go now and, more to the point, just how I'm going to get there, and how I'm going to achieve my goals.

So it's shoulder to the wheel time, I'm going to really crack on.

This will mean a little less posting on here, a little less dilly-dallying and a bit more effort.

Don't worry I will still be around - just not posting every single day. I really need to get on with RL.

Skymist - some great "M's" there. Thank you so much for those.

Here's a few of mine .....

lessonlearned

Magic

Introduce a little magic into life and escape the mundane . Stop and look around occasionally - gaze at the sky, drink in the glories of nature, bask in the affection of loved ones, cook a special meal and serve with love and a beautifully set table. It's all free;).

Moaning Minnies

Joan Collins once said "Nobody likes a Moaning Minnie". So true. So boring. Keep your troubles to yourself, don't bore the pants off friends and families. When they ask how you are - smile and say "Fine, thank you and you?". Save your moans for your journal or diary.

It's OK to confide in those closest to you although even then we must not overwhelm them - they too have problems. Just don't bore the world to death. :rotfl:

Mothers

I was so sad to hear that so many of you have issues with your Mother. My parents were less than perfect but I learned long ago to cut them a little slack. They had me when they were young and inexperienced and whilst my father was still suffering badly from Post Traumatic Stress from his war time experiences. Yes, they made a hash of things and I had a sad and often lonely childhood. They didn't mean to make such a mess - they just didn't know any better.

Like the lines from the poem by Phillip Larkin

"Your parents f**k you up, they don't mean to but they do".

The reality is that for many of us - our mothers are likely to be the best friend we will ever have. Mothers will always be there for us and they will always fight our corner - to the bitter end if needs be.

If you've never had a child yourself you will never know just how difficult a job it is to be a parent. No-one teaches you how, you are just thrown in at the deep end and left to learn as you go along.

Some parents do a great job, most just muddle along as best as they can, some of course are a disaster.

Remember even if you think your Mother is a She Wolf - don't forget she gave you life. That alone is a cause of celebration. Pregnancy and childbirth are no bed of roses - it's not called Labour for nothing.;)

So...... your mother was the Devil Incarnate and your childhood was the pits - try and put it behind you. I say this in the nicest possible way "Get over it". If you can't then get professional help.

Be Magnimous. Forgive your mothers and move on.

Don't let a sad, lonely, unhappy childhood spoil the rest of your life. This is one set of emotional baggage that just needs to be jettisoned, otherwise you will always carry this with you and you will never find the true happiness we all deserve.

Molly41

I think easier said than done and I know Lame Wolf and I have had similar family experiences which have left very deep scars.

lessonlearned

Molly41 wrote: »

I think easier said than done and I know Lame Wolf and I have had similar family experiences which have left very deep scars.

I realise this and you have my deep sympathies. Unfortunately your cases are by no means unique. There are a lot of scarred, emotionally wounded people out there. I've seen how lives have been blighted.

However, I genuinely believe that with help, faith, courage and love, lives can be rebuilt. Forgiveness or at least letting go of the anger, hurt and bitterness, has to be part of the healing process.

If you cannot do it alone, then get help - your faith, your religion, psychotherapy - whatever it takes. Don't suffer for the rest of your life.

Savvy_sewing

Must confess to not having been reading the last few days. So much goes on and I dont have the time. Hope those who have been unwell are feeling better, etc and big hugs to those that need it.

I was at my councilling today. It always goes in a completely different direction then I am expecting it to go. The practical homework, if you like is to make time for me, and to book a massage as an essential rather then as a treat. So I will go ahead and do that I think. As its not an extortionate price, and I have a £5 voucher off from the pamper night at the nursery on Friday.
I have been cleansing more and remembering my moisturisers. I had a shower this morning to wash my hair, and did my defuzzing at the same time.
made an effort and put on a dress today.
Went into town for the councilling, and had to wait for 50 mins while Twin1 had hers, so I took DS's jacket back to the shop to be mended as the leather had torn. £20 for the repair!
Then as I was coming out I saw one of those pop up shops,and had a mooch, decided to be a bit naughty and spent £10 on a maxi dress. I know I could probably make one, but its finding the right fabrics to do so. I may use it as a template to make other at a later date if I like the wear/feel of it.
Now its where can i wear it, unless I am on holiday.?
Exhubby has invited me out for a drink one lunchtime. Could be interesting. (its not the BF that I just split up with after 8 years.).
Anyway we will see what transpires.