Frump to Fab - Summer Solstice Sizzler

Willow92

LL - I cried at your post and LW - hope you got your letter posted oh and here's a *hug*

evilsquid1603

LL and LW, I hope you are both feeling better now. I hope one day I can show even half the courage and bravery you both do every day.


Got my rejection email from the place on Monday. Not in the slightest bit surprised! Only got "I'm sure you understand we have a lot of applications and we based the decision on who we thought would best fit in here". Suppose "I think your so called law degree is a joke!" wouldnt be as professional in writing :rotfl:

They did at least add that they thought I was a very strong candidate for a training contract elsewhere though so at least that's something positive.

WelshWoofer

LoneWolf and LL - thank you for both sharing your personal and private feelings - you have all of our support and best wishes. Wolfy - I think you're an exceptionally brave and honest person and can see just from your writing what your OH sees in you. And just think, dogs are a brilliant judge of character - your little house guests are obviously very happy when they visit, sometimes actions speak very much louder than words (even woofy words!).

Picked up the new car - still smells of new car, that will last about two days before it looks like a mobile park thanks to the fluffy terror.

Not much else to report today - just another day at work - can't believe its only another 12 working days for me until the Easter holidays:jand then a lovely 2 weeks off.
I'm going to get my clothes ready for the weekend away tonight - I have quite a few newish things that should have an outing and will try to look my best. Saying that, I should have a mini grooming session tonight too - bath, toenails and face scrub (pity the hoover doesn't do liposuction:o)

findingmyway_2

Morning everyone!

Lesson Learned and LameWolf, your posts brought a tear to my eye. I desperately want that love that you have with your OH's. LameWolf, I know you mentioned that you are scared everyday that he will come to his "senses" but just the way you speak about him, and how incredible he is towards you indicates that is not going to happen. He cherishes you as much you cherish him.

I am making an effort to get out and about, and see my friends, but I have also been feeling rather low recently. I just can't seem to shake the feelings of rejection from my ex. I feel like its one step forward 10 steps back. Unfortunately my friends haven't been all that supportive so I find myself sneaking off to the bathroom to have a little cry because they can't seem to understand why I'm finding it so hard.

Tonight I am going to come home, have a lovely long shower, make use of my body scrubs, maybe a face mask, repaint my nails and watch some mind numbing TV I think.

Evilsquid, I know you weren't expecting to get the job, but its still annoying and rude that because of their ignorance you were likely sidelined. At least they thought of you for another area though. So you must have made a good impression.

Lamewolf, did you get the letter posted?

LessonLearned, I hope you have a fabulous time im Devon. Just relax and take some time to yourself and to reboot.

Podperson, congratulations on the inches lost. That is fantastic. :T

Everhopeful, I hope you are feeling a bit more positive today?

Have a good day everyone.

Savvy_sewing

For some reason I stopped following at Christmas, but something today made me search you out. So I have 3 months to read? Not sure I will manage that one, but I will try and remember some of the points that we used last year, and get myself back into the groove.
Especially important to make myself look and feel good, as yet another break up with the longdistance partnership I have been in. But this time I am determind to move on, not to harp about the past and to embrace the future. What ever that may be bringing me.
I realised that I dont do any of my old routines anymore, and until I went to court on Tuesday, I hadnt worn any make up since my holidays in September!. Not good. Have the stuff I might as well start to use it.
Back to lurk and catch up by a bit of skim reading.

bratz81

LL - I went to Totnes once to visit a friend who was doing work experience there. It's a lovely place I hope you have a great time!

LW - your post rang a few bells for me as well. Not on the illness side of things, but on the insecurity side of things and thinking one day your OH will wake up and realise he can do better. I think that all the time too.
I'm not as bad as I used to be, I am a tiny bit more confident and trying to improve but I still see myself as fat, ugly, stupid, useless - all those words my mother used to fling at me every day. It's a hard place to get out of and I really hope we can both pull ourselves out and learn to love ourselves.

LameWolf

findingmyway wrote: »

Lamewolf, did you get the letter posted?

Yes I did, thanks.:o I was quite shaky by the time I got back, and the whole time I was praying to any deity in earshot that I wouldn't meet anyone; specially neighbour "E" who always wants to stop and chat and is impossible to get away from - she "trapped" Mr LW outside in the drive once, and I had to ring his phone and say dinner was ready, to rescue him!:rotfl:

I have another letter to go today; this one has to go from a box at a Post Office, the nearest is three quarters of a mile. Luckily Mr LW is working from home on early shift today, so when he finishes at 14:30, we shall go together; I've worked out the route on the map, using the Redways (MK cycle paths) but I know my propensity for getting lost, so I'll make some notes as we go, for if/when I have to do it alone.;)

bratz81 wrote: »

LW - your post rang a few bells for me as well. Not on the illness side of things, but on the insecurity side of things and thinking one day your OH will wake up and realise he can do better. I think that all the time too.
I'm not as bad as I used to be, I am a tiny bit more confident and trying to improve but I still see myself as fat, ugly, stupid, useless - all those words my mother used to fling at me every day. It's a hard place to get out of and I really hope we can both pull ourselves out and learn to love ourselves.

Yep, not nice when the person who should be bolstering you up does their best to drag you down. Mine told me straight out I was an unwanted baby!:eek: Hey ho - tell you what, grab my paw, lets see if we can climb out of it together.;)

Today Mr LW wants us to go and see the John Carter film - he can get in free as my Carer; I suggested he go on his own (it'll cost the same as if we both go) but he's having none of it! Ah well, I guess I can sit through an hour and a half of pure hokum.:D I do need to visit Waitrose and Iceland while he's around to help with the wheelchair, though; also we need to get some more low-dose aspirin (he's taking these on Dr's advice) so we probably won't go to the cinema til this evening.
I am going to be sooooo exhausted tomorrow!:eek::D

podperson

Morning all,

LL - was welling up at your post as well, was beautiful and very honest. Hope you have a lovely break in Devon x

LW - will not even try to attempt something like what LL has said but I know when my OH was having quite bad problems he did say to me many times that I should leave him and that he couldn't understand why I was staying with him when he couldn't offer me anything and I was supporting us and coping with his problems. While, yes there might have been difficult times he is there for me as much I'm there for him, he will cheer me up, support me, believe in me and I can't imagine being with anyone else. I'm sure Mr LW feels just the same about you - he loves you because you are YOU, because you are unique and special and the only person he wants to be with, and therefore everything else can just be coped with x

evilsquid - sounds like the job might not been that great anyway, am sure things will be better for the next one x

Findingmyway - sorry your friends aren't being too supportive it's normal to need some time to come to terms with the end of a relationship, especially if it's a long term one but please try not to think it was because there was anything wrong with you - not being a perfect fit with one person isn't your fault. I do firmly believe that sometimes things have to end in order for new and better things to begin - it just might not be straight away, so just try and enjoy the stopgap for now

Mooloo - sorry about the breakup hun, sending you *hugs* and fabbing vibes

Bratz - am completely positive that you are none of those things! Just from your posts on here you are smart, articulate, creative, hold down a decent job, have lost weight, have an OH who loves you and wants to marry you - you get the idea So why on earth would you think you're lacking? x

Anyways, not got much done last night, managed healthy tea and no snacking but didn't get round to the exercising - have been trying to work on the script for the bbc competition, needs to be in by next week so ideally have to get it done by tomorrow night to post on Sat morning. Am not happy with it and am getting stick of messing with it now
OH is also annoying me a bit (and after I was saying how great he is above :rotfl:), he's getting stressed with filming and some mates who are just expecting him to give up all his free time and some other things - am sympathetic but all he did was moan and stress last night so really negative house and was not what I needed when trying to be creative and get my own stuff done - he hasn't asked once how it's going and then sulked this morning cause he asked if he could borrow my computer tonight so he could have the extra monitor for editing and I said no I needed it :mad:
Not much fabbing done, will see if I have time to do my nails tonight, looking a bit chipped already

WelshWoofer

Evening all!
Had a busy day sorting things out - cancelled the AA insurance as I have some with the new car (£50 refund), dropped the vet bill claim form in for what will hopefully be a £500 reimbursement, shuffled some money around as its payday and have squirrelled away £250 into various accounts towards the living room decoration and general savings, done the new car insurance and got the mothers day card and pressie and sister's birthday stuff ready to take - oh yeah, and I've been to work, taken the dog for two walks, had a bath and made some tea and washed up!

I wrestled with myself over tea - I really wanted a take away but settled for beans on toast in the interest of my expanding waist line and diminishing bank account - very saintly!:p

I feel a bit better about the money situation lately - I seem to be managing ok after the divorce and living within my means with the odd treat now and then. Things are better than I expected - I've managed to save some money, do some decoration that been paid for in cash and change the car - I'm actually quietly proud of myself - fabbing in a different way!

The next big house fabbing adventure is a complete redecoration of the living room - carpet, painting, curtains, soft furnishings and maybe even a new sofa. I've saved almost £1000 towards it so everything except the sofa is already taken care of financially. The old one is still ok (chocolate brown leather) but if I can afford it a new one would make me very happy;).

I've just realised how much I've woffled on - sorry!

Savvy_sewing

Granddaughter is not well, so we have stayed at home today. Only beauty thing I did was stick my moisturiser on this morning.
DGD has been playing with the tangle spray, so I have had my hair well and truely brushed by a 4 year old.
I managed to get a sleep this afternoon while my carer was here to look after DGD. I have been much better of late, and fear that I may loose my carer if I am not careful. But I know if I didnt have her help, then I would be worse again, and not able to manage. Catch 22 situation I suppose.
I am up very early tomorrow, and have to be out of the house by 7am to go and babysit my other grandduaghter while my daughter goes to work. Have to take DGD with me as she is not well, and cannot let her have her usual contact with her mother at the moment as Mum is in a "chaos space" at the moment.
But I am bringing Mum back here in the evening, and she can babysit while I go to a Pamper Night at the nursery. Have booked myself in for an arm/hand massage, for £5. Looking forward to that anyway.