Frump to Fab - Summer Solstice Sizzler

lessonlearned

podperson wrote: »

Morning all,


It's strange about the 'boys being boys' theory, I think it is true in that certain boys will be laddish no matter what. I know one of my cousins had quite strict ideas about how she wanted to raise her son - she hates violence etc and was set on how he wasn't allowed toy guns or any kind of 'violent' toy. By the time he was 4 he was running round the house with an empty loo roll pretending it was a gun and with sound effects included :rotfl: ,

That brought back memories.

I didn't want my boys to have guns or war toys. They made guns out of Lego and yes, provided their own "sound effects", they then graduated on to hand grenades, tanks, you name it all made from Lego.:rotfl:

Male machismo will find a way. You can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear.:o

I did try and redress the balance and bought them a teaset so we could play tea parties - this was ok as long as I "bribed" them with cakes and biscuits.

LameWolf

It's a good point about screen time - Mr LW is an IT professional; thankfully, his employers are pretty good about letting the guys get up from their seats every so often; they take it in turns to do the tea-tray, and Mr LW himself leaves the office and has a walk outside mid-morning and mid-afternoon (this is when he calls home to ensure I'm OK);) Also, from what he tells me, they have a good working atmosphere in there, iyswim, which makes a lot of difference.

But certainly, when I was working, we were expected to drink our coffee with one hand and be inputting data with the other, and woe betide you if you got caught looking out of the window!:eek: And I have not-so-fond memories of sitting in my thick coat and boots at my desk and still shivering, because the air-con made it so bloomin' cold in there.:cool:

LL best of luck with the Fang Farrier; I have to visit the optician tomorrow, which I'm not looking forward to as I dislike having anyone other than Mr LW have physical contact with me. Still, needs must - they check my eyes once a year, because I'm on Plaquenil.

lessonlearned

maman wrote: »

On the fabbing front I've been lazy today.

I had my eye appointment and all is well, optician said there's even an improvement so that's great. I go to this particular optician because he can do a glaucoma test with coloured eye drops rather than that puff of air thing. However because of the drops, my eyes turn greeny-yellow for an hour or so:eek: and always smudge my mascara. So I didn't bother making up my eyes and didn't bother for the rest of the day.:o

I did a bit of shopping while I was out including a mooch around the CSs. I now have another velvet skirt. This one is Monsoon in a black and cream pattern with a deep black hem. It's knee length and lined. I also got a cream pashmina (John Lewis own brand). A bit more expensive than my £1 bargains last week but still very cheap for the quality.

We also built on the jasmine I was given yesterday and booked flights to Turkey for 10 days in June. So I'll get to smell it in situ!:) Also planning Brittany for a week (to celebrate SILs big birthday) in April/May. It's good to have somethig to look forward to.

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Maman - I hate the puffa test for glaucoma - opticians get quite cross with me because I flinch so much they can't get accurate readings. Can I ask you what kind of eyedrops they use - I would probably get on better with those.

CS skirt sounds gorgeous.

I had a lovely jasmine outside but the frost killed it, you've reminded me I think I will replace it this year. Going to redo my garden and make it even more low maintenance. I need to keep it easy to manage - Anno Domini is definitely catching up with me.:rotfl:

Brittany and Turkey sounds good - I might be going to Spain in April - fingers crossed. I'm also planning a trip to Devon soon. Watch this space:D

lessonlearned

LameWolf wrote: »

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LL best of luck with the Fang Farrier;:

Not hear that one before. :rotfl::rotfl:

Not too bad today, just a little filling - no drilling required.

lizzie157

Well just knew it wouldn't last- repeat I WILL NOT let it get me down. Just as I was feeling better my partner has had his incapacity benefit stopped - don't want to go into on here but something to with ESA etc. No warning he went to get his cash and none there :eek: :mad: . Needless to say I' ve spent the last 2 days phoning to try and sort it but no one seems to know whats going on and the DSS are useless. :mad: So for now we have to survive on just over £100 for the 4 of us and for how long we don't know.
As you can imagine the choc and biccys have taken a hit and I'm not feeling the best just now - trying not to get too disheartened but its hard. I do not want to be on benefits but aside from having 3 cleaning jobs there's nothing I'm qualified for ( perhaps not even cleaning since you need NVQ this and that in some cases), which is why I intended to do voluntary work. If I go down the get a job now route I'll still have to claim top up benefits - and that,s if I can get a job since it seems to go from bad to worse.

Anyway amidst it all I have managed to dye my hair but nothing else as been in all day trying to stem the stressed out feelings.
Soothing bath later and hopefully I'll be able to get some rest to carry on fighting to sort it out.

fedupandskint

Fabness today - fitted pencil skirt with heels for work with a bright orange jumper top - nice! When I bought this skirt it barely fit me 6yrs ago - now it fits. Woo hoo!

Anyway I've totally overeaten all week with chocolate and more chocolate and cakes and more cakes. Think I'd better write this week off diet wise and start again next week and aim to knuckle down otherwise I'll be putting it back on again and there's no way I want to do that after all the hard work to get to here. Don't know what's caused it - run down? Fed up? Due on? Combination of all 3 - yup think it might be this one.

After giving myself a hard time over not going for a run last night after work, I got up early to fit on in before work, and it went great. Really pleased I did this as it cheered me up no end and even though I've eaten a lot today at least I went for a run. Hoping to go for another run tomorrow to keep me out in the fresh air and exercise and sort my mind out some more to cheer me up

Maisie_M

Another good night fabbing tonight. Cleared out all my cleansers, toners and moisturisers etc and binned a lot of them as I am sure some of them have been opened for more than a year. Have got new ones out of my stockpile and manged to do a facial when DS2 was in bed and OH had taken DS1 to his swimming lesson. Did a cleanse and tone then a facial scrub, topped off with beauty serum and moisturiser with some lip balm for good measure. Before I started my skin felt really dry and bumpy with hundereds of tiny lumps under the skin. It now feels fab. Will probably get a breakout of spots now as my skin will be in shock.:p

Sorry that some have been having problems with inconsiderate OH's.

Lizzie - can they just stop your OH's benefits without telling you, that's shocking. Hope you get something sorted.

Fedupandskint - congrats on your skirt feeling so good. Am hoping to have this happen to me once I start losing the weight as I have loads of clothes that are too tight but are really nice.

hope everyone else has had a good day fabbing.

Carmen

Evening all,
Just a quickie bed I hit the sack, cough syrup is making me sleepy Zzzzzz.
Had my hair done today and gave myself a papaya facial scrub, feeling goood, lovely to walk in the sunshine again after so long!

Pod, for better or worse but it's nice to have a vent on here sometimes Google 'Train your Man' some of it really works, trust me but it is tongue in cheek reading

Gooood Niiiiight
Caaaaamen ZZzzzzzzzzzzzzz xx

Hewie29

Hi all,

I've had a couple of days of soul searching.

Bit of background, I have battled with weight and body issues for most of my life, I am currently more than 5 stone overweight. To me that is one mammouth mountain to climb and in my head just too big a thing to even think about. But I do think about it all the time. I constantly think about food, from when I get up, saying I'm gonna be good today, to getting home from work and searching the cupboards and forgetting that I'm gonna be good. And stuffing anything that will go in my mouth to stop me being hungry before tea is ready half an hour later. Then still snack in the evening.

On Tuesday, I was sat watching the biggest loser and commenting to my husband about how well they had done and that some of the ladies were actually now not much heavier than I was. He asked me how I felt and I said that I felt like a failure. He asked what it would take for me to lose weight. Having been told by my doctor that i need to lose weight and also having broken two chairs at home, he said what was I waiting for 'a heart attack' before I did anything.

Instead of the understanding person he is, he kind of turned into the nasty guy and told me some home truths, that he was worried about me and possibly not living long enough to see the kids grow into adults and not being able to see any grandchildren. And it frustrated him that he could see how unhappy I am but that I don't do anything about it. I am happy he's said all this I needed it, everyone round me says you're fine just the way you are, but I'm not and I wish they would tell me the truth. I know that they don't want to hurt my feelings.

I have been going to ww on and off for nearly 3 years and feel such a failure as I'm now half a stone heavier than when I started.

I never seem to be able to finish anything that I start.

So, I am now trying my very hardest to eat healthy and take more exercise, (exercise being extra good for my depression as well, it always suprises me that I'm surprised how good I feel after I've done some exercise).

I know that I'm gonna have bad days and I have to accept these just as days and not weeks!!

I try to take good care of my outta self, I do a fair bit of fabbing, always wear makeup when out, I do my hair, and wear smartish clothes, but they are always the same style, ones that hide the fat.

I have 10 months before going on the holiday of our lifetime, belated treat for my 40th birthday, a trip to Florida Disney, and I know that I have to be fitter to be able to walk around there all day. I know that if I get my butt in gear I could make a huge difference in the way I look.

So sorry to waffle on, but wanted to get it down somewhere I could look back on.

And I'm just hoping that you will all be kind enough to follow me on my long hard but hopefully very rewarding journey.

Thanks Hewie xxx

LameWolf

Hi Hewie welcome.

I'm not an expert by any means, but the first thing that hit me from your post was maybe lessonlearned's elephant theory would help - if you have to eat an elephant, do it in small bites.

I lost two and a half stone (using the WiiFit);) and what I did was to set myself half-stone increments as targets to aim for (I'm still trying for the final half-stone, btw; that seems to elude me) and I wonder if that approach would help you, rather than looking at the 5-stone "mammoth mountain" as you say.:o

Today I have my own gremlin to deal with - we have to go into town this afternoon, so I'm going to have to face the mirror and bung some warpaint on.:D