Frump to Fab - Summer Solstice Sizzler

bratz81

willow - that nail art looks great!

I was off work yesterday so didn't do much fabbing of myself to start with, I fabbed the house from top to bottom. It's sparkling now I did fab myself later on as h2b asked could we have 2 friends round last night, they're best mates but like a married couple so we thought to have a double date to tease them.
So for fun I lit candles all around the room, made a lovely 3 course meal and dressed up a little. Was lovely but after the meal they decided to play their RPG game and I was banished upstairs h2b asked would I mind and he's been so stressed I said no it was ok but I secretly did mind. Plus he didn't even get me a card or anything and I got him one so a bit down in the dumps today

podperson

Morning all,

Sorry Willow, didn't realise you were in a studio flat, how rude though that you go round to see him and he's basically ignoring you - so glad your night turned out better in the end though

LW - glad you managed to get the hair done -isn't your OH a sweetheart? I love Terry Pratchett too, OH will get annoyed when I'm reading one of his books cause I'll be giggling away to myself Hope you had a nice meal.

Carmen - I am just the same with the camera, I used to do photography more seriously (went to uni etc for it) and while am happy on that side of the camera then hate being on the other side - I can't think of one picture that's ever been taken of me that I like, which is perhaps a little sad I'm slightly dreading them filming our concert in April as I have to be in front of the camera.

Maman - you're making me feel a little guilty, really need to sort out my wardrobes but not very motivated to do it. Hope your meal went well and what a lovely gift from your hubby, I love things where some real thought has gone into them.

LL - have to agree with the hairdressers, I used to go to a friend of mine who had their own place and would do it really cheap for me but was never really 100% happy with it - it was nice but not amazing or anything - but I didn't like to say anything as he was a friend and would usually give me a discount. The best cut I ever had done was at a more expensive salon I treated myself to - I'm sure there are great hairdressers at cheaper salons it's just trying to find them!

Sezza - oh dear! Not what you had in mind for the day I'm sure, hope he's ok x

Maisie - how lovely of your OH, hope you had a nice night - and sounds like you're getting very organised with the fabbing

Bratz - glad you had a nice meal but little annoying of them to exclude you afterwards :mad:

Anyway am a little annoyed today, fell out with OH this morning and has just put me in a crabby mood. Have been running round for him all week, the thing on Sat, helped him with his presentation, gave him money to buy a new hard drive yesterday - he does really need it but it's not like I have a lot of money spare so will have to scrimp on other things now. But I ask him if he could go to the post office for me today (it's about 2 streets away but I leave for work before it opens and I have to dash home to catch it before it closes and carry the parcels round with me all day) and he starts pulling his face and complaining he has loads on. Can't be bothered arguing so I say fine, I'll do it. Then he goes, 'oh, don't forget so-and-so is coming round tonight' - this is the annoying guy from a few weeks ago who showed up at 11.30, drank everyone else's beer and borrowed my dvd without asking me. OH had said he might be coming earlier in the week but then said he probably wasn't now as he was going to a gig tonight so would be late. Anyway, I must have pulled a face because he started stressing at me about how I don't like them and am being unfair and he never has people round anyway (which is ridiculous as he has people round all the time and I never say anything about it!).
So am in a stressed mood at work now and will probably just sit in my room all night as I really can't be bothered talking to OH or being nice to this guy now (if he even shows up before about 11pm, which I doubt). :mad:
Sorry for the rant, hope everyone else is having a better day x

fedupandskint

Totally pigged on a box of chocolates, one glass of wine and feel awful todat with an upset stomach and sore throat. Really hope I'm not coming down with any thing

LameWolf

Podperson hide all your precious DVDs!! Fwiw, I think you're perfectly justified to be wossnamed off. I hope this evening isn't too bad for you.

We have a pal of Mr LW's coming tonight, too - but it's just "A", who visits us roughly once a fortnight (we've been having him over since his divorce, to get him out of his four walls) and he's a good guest, only drinks his share of the cider, and goes home at a reasonable hour.;)

I even have some warpaint on today!!:eek: Had my pic taken with Dylan; he's a beautiful dog - brindled greyhound, and we managed to get him to stand still, and I knelt beside him with one arm round him and one of my walking sticks in the other hand, like a stave, so I hope it looks ok.:o

Am I the only person who actually dislikes applying make-up, btw?:o

podperson

Thanks LW - tbh if I wasn't already a bit peeved at him I would probably be ok - that and the fact that he'd said earlier he probably wasn't going to be coming now as he had to go a gig somewhere else so would be 'late'. If he shows up at like midnight or something and they are sat up being noisy for hours while I'm trying to sleep then it's not going to go well for them!! :rotfl:

adelight

willow your nails look brill and good job OH spent some time with you not the games in the end! Men are slow, you will probably need to tell him that you don't like him playing it while you're there and you enjoy doing things together. What does he do during the day? Can't he play games then?

fedupandskint ((hugs))

maman how nice of dh!

LL thank you, I am currently using a jojoba and argan oil blend for moisturising and topical vitamin c but desperately need to find something with spf that i can tolerate. I know I need to go through the ingredients of products that cause problems and identify some things to stay away from but it's just finding the time gah.
A better hairdresser sounds like a good investment. Get a nice cut and a cheap trim for maintenance.

LW i kinda hate it too, i just try to do it as quickly as possible whilst doing other stuff like eating or listening to tv. I just can't do one thing at a time, especially not stand in front of a mirror!

bratz ((hugs)) ask him for some "us" time? tell him you want him to make you a nice meal for a stay at home date


I stayed at OH's last night but didn't do anything special, he's having a tough time atm and just needed company. If I'm honest I'm extremely lucky as he does lovely things for me all the time, I get flowers and surprises all the time and of course I'm nice to him too and we don't take it for granted
Caught 100000 trains back this morning and the Doc just booked me an appointment for blood tests for all sorts, so waste of time this morning really. I have loads of junk to do today and need to hunt out some motivation to get it all done! Must finish a job app, post office, bank, ucl app, dissertation work, ou assignment. I quite fancy a hair mask and some yoga as my fabbing for today, er and maybe a nail varnish touch up as I'm looking a bit chipped.

Willow92

He doesn't have a job at the moment. He is looking but since he has no experience and no GCSE's (he's currently on a course to get some, that's where he is now) it's a lot harder for him to find a job than me and it took me a year.

Thanks everyone for the compliments nailwise, I ended up doing my thumbs again coz a gem fell off. I painted them white again then put a heart sticker on then filled the middle of the heart with red nail varnish. And on my ring fingers I stuck another heart sticker on, painted a layer of black crackle effect then peeled the sticker off so there's a white heart shape on both nails. It looks better than I described it, honest

lessonlearned

Hi Everyone

I'm following Maman's lead - well done on the wardrobe sort out - I have decided that Operation Get Organised also means a massive declutter.

I have waaay too much stuff and I really can't be bothered with car boots anymore - far too much effort for such small rewards. You can't do them by yourself and I can't really expect DS2 to want to do many - he works long hard hours as it is.

So - here's the plan - I will keep the best - things that I really like, the rest can go. Anything that is worth selling will go to auction, the rest I will use to "Pay It Forward", charity shops, free cycle etc.

I did make a start on this last autumn but then OH got worse and I had no time. So now just a few items a day.

This morning, after my compulsory 1 hr desk sorting and shredding I went to physio and on the way back dropped two bags at the YMCA. Only another 100 or so to go. Talk about elephants.:rotfl::rotfl: I reckon I could get rid of about 50% of my possessions and not even miss them.:o

Sorry to hear some of the relationship woes some of you are struggling with at the moment. I'm with Maman on this - I agree that too much time on electronic media is not good for anyone. Yes I know it makes me sound like an old fuddy duddy - frankly I don't care. I think Maman and I are on to something here.

I really don't think it's healthy to spend hours on end staring at screens, whether it's playing games, internet, or TV. When my boys were small computer and TV time was strictly rationed. Even now if I think DS2 is overdoing it I will try and encourage him to do something else.

Electronic media is great - it's a window on the world - especially for the sick or housebound - but it's no substitute for RL and human interaction. Sorry if I upset anyone but I just don't think it's healthy either physically or mentally.

When DS2 was small he would go white and have a nasty migraine headache if he spent too long on the computer.

When my OH was first symptomatic I asked his neurologist if his long career in IT was a contributory factor. I know an awful lot of IT people who have developed neurological conditions in middle age.

Don't forget I'm talking about my OH spending 10 to 12 hours a day over a 30 year period, at a time when computers were not subject to the same stringent health and safety restrictions now in place.

The neurologist looked at me and was very embarrassed to have to tell me "Unfortunately I cannot answer you because there has been no research into long term use of electronic media". He then went on to say "However, I fear you may be right and what we are starting to see is just the tip of the iceberg. Many of my colleagues are starting to think along the same lines".

Just my opinion - take it or leave it - but I would try and encourage your partners to spend a little less time staring at screens and a bit more getting out and about.

Anyway time for lunch and a nap, dinner and then off to see OH tonight.

Happy Fabbing

Carmen

Good afternoon ladies and lurkers

(((Pod))) so sorry your day started badly! As the song says " things can only get better" Bon courage
Many years ago my O/H used to make an issue's like that umtil one day I sat down with him and pointed out a few home truths and he has been an angel since Don't get me wrong he is the kindest sweetest person but, he has a pessamistic gene that fires up sometimes :eek: When I think that might happen my approach is " think about what I am going to say before you answer" This has also helped me in my outlook, not that I'm admmitting to ever being wrong
I'm sure the video of your concert will be good, unless it just focuses on you.....just kidding Is it an Easter concert?

Adelight, I hope the blood tests will get to the bottom of your allergies?

LW, I do like to put on make up albeit simple but, usually only happens when I go out. Not sure if that is the lazy or frugal side of me I would really like to find a lipstick colour that suits me and stays on for more than 1 hour, any suggestions? I used to wear deep reds then pinky mauves but now my lips are thinner (old agw) I need a paler shade. I don't like the kind that leave a flat stain on the lips, I don't call that long lasting :rotfl:

Sparkles, remember to just draw a line under and start again. I used to crave chocolate once a month!

FMWay, skin does get very dry at this time of year, I have yet to find a moisturiser than works well. I can only suggest drink plenty (non alcoholic) which I find hard to do at this time of year!

Twinnie, stop me if I have said this before;) When I decided waist length silver hair was not a good look for my age,a few regrets since seeing that site. Anyway, O/H insisted "if I must get it cut" then I had to go to one of the top hairdressers in our area. Not only did I come out lighter in the head O/H was £100 lighter in pocket! It was done very well and thinking back maybe worth the money hmmm. The cheaper hairdressers can be good if you find the right one. I alternate between two so that it does not start to look samey, I wonder if hairdressers see white/silver hair and see granny/blue rinse :rotfl: No offence intended. I am a grandma, I am not trying to hold back the inevitable but, I do want my hair style to portray my fun/funky side, Hip clothes, no not mutton, and granny hair is not a good look :rotfl: Waffle waffle!

I had a lovely day yesterday and to top it all I had an extra surprise. The neighbour (he and his wife are in their 80's)bought us a bunch of roses and a bottle of wine. I teased O/H that I had another valentine but it was just to say thank you for getting their shopping during the bad weather.

At last the roads are clear of snow so tomorrow I'm off to the hairdressers, the wurzzle gummidge look does not suit me either.

((Bratz)) I hope you feel better today?

Willow, maybe a few ground rules are needed for your nights with bf? Making a cake together is a great idea, how did it turn out? Love the nail art

Need to press the submit button before I lose this post :eek:

podperson

Thanks Carmen, may need you to come round and get him told for me I'm just not good at having things out with him without it turning into a full scale argument - eg if I start saying that I've done a lot to help him out lately (meaning it might be nice if he helped me as well!) he'll just get defensive and say that it's not like I have to etc - well no I don't but I see trying to make someone's life a bit easier as part of being in a relationship and so I get annoyed when he complains about being asked to do a really small favour. I think tbh he just likes to moan so maybe I should just say 'do this', ignore the face-pulling and then say thanks after :rotfl:

Lol, I am so hoping the video doesn't focus on me but I'm going to be the only one on stage that everyone in the crew knows so am worried they are going to end up subconsciously going to me :eek: It's around Easter but apart from that not really Easter-related - we're doing movie soundtracks