sister doesnt want her child HELP!!

nats3006

am not too bad thanks dlb thanks for your concern. if you have msn or email i could swap if you want will keep you updated on the crazy lifestyle.
nats
x

november

nats3006 wrote:

yeah but if you read it says unless u are the parent or a close relative which i dont think we could get any closer to him maybe im reading it wrong but thats the way i see it??

I've just read them also and it says

What does the law say?
The private fostering law applies to anyone looking after a child who is not the child’s mother, father, grandparent, brother, sister, uncle or aunt

So in this case it isn't private fostering as you are the child's aunt and your mother his grandparent like with the OP who looks after her sister's son. So it doesn't come under private fostering so you don't have to let social services know.

Best wishes and good luck. He's lucky to have you to step in if his mother feels unable to bring him up and I agree that children need someone to love them and that someone who does is much better than a mother who unfortunately is unable to.

Shanes_Angel

dlb wrote:

Hiya.
I too have my sisters child living with me( hes on the bottom right on my picture), he is 10 in june and has lived with me since he was 18 months old.( i like you was only 21 at the time)
My sister too didnt want him, and was messed up on drugs at the time, my mum started off by having him but couldnt cope, so he came to live with me at 18 months.
I had help from my health visitor, but i never got in touch with social services as the health visitor adviced us that we could do it within a family arrangment.
He belived me and my husband to be his mum and dad until june last year when we decided to tell him the truth.Which he took unbelivavle well.
We had his name changed to my married name with my sisters permission and had all child benifit signed into my name, also i claim csa of my sister and his real dad.Once you have child benifit in your name you can add him to tax credit claims ect or whatever benifit you are on.

It has been hard as i already had 2 boys before he came to live with us but i now have 3 sons and a dd in my eyes.
School and doctors know of the situation, and i am lucky enough to still get on with my sister (who has since had another son!!) and my ds2 (nephew) gets on with her too.
If you want to ask me anything else please pm me.
Donna
x

dlb You are one in a million! He's a very lucky boy to have you!
Hugs to nats3006 Hope everything works out for you all!

nats3006

Hi again all just an update, nephew is doing well at his new school i am doing ok taking him and picking him up!! rang social services they dont need to be involved as it is a family member who will be taking the role of the guardian, got everything sorted now
thanks to everyone who replied and helped out
*hugs*
nats :T

mae

Oh I'm so pleased for you all I hope he continues to grow from his experinces in a positive way and realises that although his mum has done this he is still a very luckiy little boy.
Well done

pinky8

Nats,

I am really pleased that everything is sorted out now

Your nephew is a very lucky boy to have such a caring aunty and granny

Take care and Well Done!!!

xxx

Horasio

nats3006 wrote: »

well as i already said in title my sister has now decided after 5 and a half years she no longer wants her son i know she is the worst mother that could ever walk the planet doing that to her child she just feels that she cant and doesnt love him and she blames his father as she was with him for 7 years and he never beat her just kept her from going out all the time and basically just made her life hell her words not mine! she has now decided that she no longer wants anything to do with him, he see's his dad every sunday and he isnt very reliable always turning up late if he turns up at all and she rang him yesterday and said she doesnt want him anymore and the dad said neither does he so its a case were my mum has said she would look after him she is 44 and is on anti depressants due to the way that my sister has treated her the past year but she is very capable of looking after him as she has done for the past year but my sister living with them. i was just wondering because both of his parents agree to this how would she go about getting him legally and be his guardian.
sorry for the long post and before anyone tells me how bad she is i already know and she really wont listen to a word anybody says she really doesnt like her son and she has already disappeared a few times abroad over the past year and stayed for months at a time without even a thought for her son.
any advice would be greatly appreciated
thanks in advance
nats
xx

She must be really cut up about how she feels.

Is she depressed?

Kimberley

I feel sorry for the young boy, he's old enough to know "mummy" is not looking after him no more "mummy doesn't love me". She should be ashamed of herself, he never asked to be born and she is very selfish, it doesn't matter what some of you say, giving up your child just because you don't want him is unforgivable. He could grow up having mental problems and could scar for life :rolleyes:

Justie

nats3006 wrote: »

Hi again all just an update, nephew is doing well at his new school i am doing ok taking him and picking him up!! rang social services they dont need to be involved as it is a family member who will be taking the role of the guardian, got everything sorted now
thanks to everyone who replied and helped out
*hugs*
nats :T

really good to hear that! :T

quietheart

nats3006 wrote: »

Hi again all just an update, nephew is doing well at his new school i am doing ok taking him and picking him up!! rang social services they dont need to be involved as it is a family member who will be taking the role of the guardian, got everything sorted now
thanks to everyone who replied and helped out
*hugs*
nats :T

I read your post for the first time today with tears streaming down my face thinking about that poor boy (the same age as my son) being rejected. Now I've come to your update I now see him as a really lucky little boy. You and your mum give me faith in human nature. Give yourselves a pat on the back!
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