Hows your wife ?

jamespir

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tescobabe69 wrote: »

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sassyblue

jamespir wrote: »

i techinically did start it cause i saw the other threads unfortunatly it seems some people have decided to get on their soapboxes

lol, well knock me sideways and call me Doris who'd have thunk it eh?

JC9297

tescobabe69 wrote: »

Lots of people seem to get married after doing all the things that marriage used to precede, my wife would'nt live with me until we were married, neither of us would have wanted any b@stard offsprings, had she moved in (my preferred option) and gone on to have kids outside of wedlock, getting married later would have been just odd & pointless.




Puts on flameproof testicle covers.

Rather contradictory post, you would have preferred her to move in but you say if she had agreed to move in and then got pregnant you never would have married her, although neither of you would have wanted the child as you would have been unmarried (I prefer not to use your outdated terminology).

By the way lots of women get pregnant whilst not living with their boyfriend, it's refraining from having sex with him that ensures that doesn't happen.

tescobabe69

JC9297 wrote: »

Rather contradictory post, you would have preferred her to move in but you say if she had agreed to move in and then got pregnant you never would have married her, although neither of you would have wanted the child as you would have been unmarried (I prefer not to use your outdated terminology).

By the way lots of women get pregnant whilst not living with their boyfriend, it's refraining from having sex with him that ensures that doesn't happen.

Had she got pregnant, we would have got married well before the birth, period.
If a couple have a child (or four) and then decide to get married, there is no point.
"Lots of women get pregnant whilst not living with their boyfriend, it's refraining from having sex with him that ensures that doesn't happen". You should spread that around, quite a few million appear not to know (or care).
You could mention abortion, contraception and responsibility while you're at it.

purplepardalis

It always annoys me that marriage is deemed to be a sign of a commited relationship and having children outside of marriage is not as ideal as having children after marriage. What can a piece of paper prove?

After all, marriage is a far more recent phenomenon than having children!

DevilsAdvocate1

purplepardalis wrote: »

It always annoys me that marriage is deemed to be a sign of a commited relationship and having children outside of marriage is not as ideal as having children after marriage. What can a piece of paper prove?

After all, marriage is a far more recent phenomenon than having children!

The piece of paper gives protection when things go wrong or if either party die. This is particularly important after children come along.

A good friend of mine lived with her boyfriend for 3 years. They sold their flat and moved into rented while the house they were buying was built. The money was put into his account. Just a week after they moved into rental, he was diagnosed with bowel cancer. They knew it was terminal pretty much straight away and the doctors suggested that with chemo he would have around a year. There were no wills. His health went downhill very quickly. They decided to wait until after his first chemo before getting a will sorted. Within 48 hours of the chemo he died, just 9 weeks after going to the GP.

His mum got to organise the funeral as she was classed as next of kin due to them not being married. His mum did not want my friend there as she had never liked her, so she did not tell her when the funeral was going to be. Friends, who were disgusted with his mum's actions, told her when and where the funeral was. The funeral was actually against his wishes as he had told my friend he wanted to be cremated and his mum had him buried (next to his dad, which I can understand).

Initially, it looked like the money would go to the mum. Some of it did, but my friend was able to show that some of the money was hers due to the sale of the flat. However, she had to employ a solicitor to do this.

If they had been married, things would have been much easier for my friend as she would have been able to make the important decisions and would have inherited the money they had built up in equity in their flat. She could not afford to buy the house they were waiting for, so ended up having to buy something else.

Marriage is not a piece of paper, it is protection.

Wickedkitten

Unless of course, you have a will.

Gloomendoom

Wickedkitten wrote: »

Unless of course, you have a will.

A will still does not give the same financial benefits as being married.

Lotus-eater

Gloomendoom wrote: »

A will still does not give the same financial benefits as being married.

Can you expand on that?

euronorris

tescobabe69 wrote: »

If a couple have a child (or four) and then decide to get married, there is no point.

So the only reason people get married is so they can have children together?

Well I never! And there I was, thinking it was for a myriad of different reasons, and varied from couple to couple.