Hows your wife ?

jamespir

following on from the "why are you single or why dont you have kids" threads

does anyone else get this a lot

from aunts family freinds hows your wife? even work clients and colleagues ask me hows the wife ?
even if i old them im not married


is it really expected at thirty i should be married yes i have been with the same women for nearly ten years and i have kids


can people not be in a long term relationship without being married

londonsurrey

I suppose it's more of a courtesy title, the way housekeepers of old were always "Mrs", even when they were unmarried.

What would you prefer?

jackieb

They could ask you how the common-law wife is.

jamespir

londonsurrey wrote: »

I suppose it's more of a courtesy title, the way housekeepers of old were always "Mrs", even when they were unmarried.

What would you prefer?

hows the misses dont sound too bad to me or hows the girlfreind

Gillyx

I would take that with a pinch of salt to be honest and just reply with "she's fine" or whatever you want to say she is.

What pee's me off more is, I was in the jewellers with OH, he was buying a watch, and the person behind the counter kept mentioning rings like "ooh so next time you come in will it be for a ring" we ignored it, and then she kept going on and on about it, until eventually OH laughed and said "oh no, I'd never want to spend a lifetime with her" just to get her to shut the hell up. It was so embarrassing.

meritaten

They are giving your good lady a 'courtesy' title.
Just out of interest James - What do you think they should call her?

londonsurrey

Missus would be the equivalent of wife, as it's the title of a wife.

I suppose that the answer is to inform them that she's your girlfriend. Otherwise, people who are unsure will tend to use "wife" in favour of "girlfriend" for fear of inadvertently offending.

meritaten

Gillyx wrote: »

I would take that with a pinch of salt to be honest and just reply with "she's fine" or whatever you want to say she is.

What pee's me off more is, I was in the jewellers with OH, he was buying a watch, and the person behind the counter kept mentioning rings like "ooh so next time you come in will it be for a ring" we ignored it, and then she kept going on and on about it, until eventually OH laughed and said "oh no, I'd never want to spend a lifetime with her" just to get her to shut the hell up. It was so embarrassing.

I sympathise - Now who did you want to hit? the twit who behaved so unprofessionaly behind the counter..........or the twit who put you down (OH)?

jamespir

meritaten wrote: »

They are giving your good lady a 'courtesy' title.
Just out of interest James - What do you think they should call her?

i dont mind girlfreind i call her my partner but some people said that suggested i was in a civil marriage thingy

londonsurrey

I suspect that it's more her that they don't want to offend than you.

Gillyx

meritaten wrote: »

I sympathise - Now who did you want to hit? the twit who behaved so unprofessionaly behind the counter..........or the twit who put you down (OH)?

Oh I knew he was joking, we are planning on getting married at some point, but with an unplanned child on the way, it's down our list of priorities at the moment.

He generally said it to shut her up, not because he meant it. It worked anyway