Hows your wife ?

jamespir

DevilsAdvocate1 wrote: »

I think girlfriend and boyfriend sound childish and would have felt silly still using them after several years together. And partner always makes me think of businesses.

I don't understand why people are prepared to make the far bigger commitment of having children together but don't want to make the lesser commitment of getting married.

weve just never had the time or the money

Lotus-eater

DevilsAdvocate1 wrote: »

I don't understand why people are prepared to make the far bigger commitment of having children together but don't want to make the lesser commitment of getting married.

On the other hand, if it's a lesser commitment, why bother?

jamespir wrote: »

weve just never had the time or the money

That's a total cop out if I ever heard it.

My answer, is that we were never bothered, either by what people thought, or what it meant.

Gillyx

We had a waiter in a restaurant about a month ago refer to his partner as "the bird" I thought my OH's eyes were going to pop out his head. :rotfl:

duchy

I've never understood the "We can't afford to get married" line.
If you want to make the commitment you can get married for almost nothing at a registry office (or even a church) -you don't HAVE to have the cars, dress, reception etc -or even do it on holiday -Las Vegas is amazingly MS for that . Seems to a lot of people it's about the trimmings not the basics though.

euronorris

Lotus-eater wrote: »

My answer, is that we were never bothered, either by what people thought, or what it meant.

Pretty much the same here.

When we come to buy a house, we'll register our partnership here in Holland, affording us the same legal rights as married couples. But that is only because of the legal rights it affords us and our future children. If we ever move back to the UK, then we'll be popping down to the registry office to get married for the same reason.

Otherwise, we don't see the point. We love each other, we're committed to each other, we know we want to spend the rest of our lives together and bring up a family, so what difference does getting married make? Other than the legal aspect, which is covered above.

jamespir

Lotus-eater wrote: »

On the other hand, if it's a lesser commitment, why bother?

That's a total cop out if I ever heard it.

My answer, is that we were never bothered, either by what people thought, or what it meant.

sorry you dont know me so please stop making assumptions

Any

I have to say this is probably the most ridiculous thread today (only IMO).

What are they supposed to call her, your partner of 10 yrs?

Sorry, but g/friend b/friend is for teenagers. Or for the first 12 mths. Then it is at least partner.

Wife/husband/partner is not about whether you are married, it is about what you feel about the person - some people don't need a piece of paper to tell them how deep and commited the relationship is. that is what those people are refering to - I have no idea why would you be disputing your partner's position!!

The actual marriage used to be just to tie assets together and tie themselves together in the eyes of God, nowadays you ARE already common law wife/husband if you are together 10 yrs and have children!!!

Lotus-eater

jamespir wrote: »

sorry you dont know me so please stop making assumptions

:rotfl:

You've never had the time or money to nip down the registry office then?

I can tell you how little it costs and the little time it takes if you want?

jamespir

Any wrote: »

I have to say this is probably the most ridiculous thread today (only IMO).

What are they supposed to call her, your partner of 10 yrs?

Sorry, but g/friend b/friend is for teenagers. Or for the first 12 mths. Then it is at least partner.

Wife/husband/partner is not about whether you are married, it is about what you feel about the person - some people don't need a piece of paper to tell them how deep and commited the relationship is. that is what those people are refering to - I have no idea why would you be disputing your partner's position!!

The actual marriage used to be just to tie assets together and tie themselves together in the eyes of God, nowadays you ARE already common law wife/husband if you are together 10 yrs and have children!!!

i not disputing anything or my girlfreinds position surely its my choice shes happy calling me her boyfreind

jamespir

Lotus-eater wrote: »

:rotfl:

You've never had the time or money to nip down the registry office then?

I can tell you how little it costs and the little time it takes if you want?

i did look yes but id like to make it special