Why don't you have Children yet?

scheming_gypsy

Person_one wrote: »

Not for long...;)

only if you believe the myths

there's using a sunbed and there's abusing a sunbed. If you abuse a sunbed you'll start to age but if you use them properly you'll have a healthy glow.
Unfortunately all the press about sunbeds is where people show pictures of people who'll do 12 minutes at lunch and then 12 minutes in the evening and have a sunbed at home. I'll do 6 minutes a day for about a week and then that's it for a few months.

DKLS

There a 1001 reasons why I don't want children, but fundamentally we are selfish, we were lucky to find each other and don't wish to share our lives or dilute our love with an intruder.

Lotus-eater

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

only if you believe the myths
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It's not a myth

You only have to look at the premature ageing brown women walking around to see that!
Especially when you get close to them

scheming_gypsy

you deleted the important part

Lotus-eater

DKLS wrote: »

There a 1001 reasons why I don't want children, but fundamentally we are selfish, we were lucky to find each other and don't wish to share our lives or dilute our love with an intruder.

That's a way I had never looked at it before.

Thankfully.

Lotus-eater

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

you deleted the important part

No one has ever accused me of being a completist.

Any

Saying that anyone who even as much looks on a sunbed or has beach holiday every year ages automatically much faster is like saying that ever eating a chocolate immediately means you are fat.

There are some that over do it (both) and there are effects to it, there is no question about that.

As does many other things..

lostinrates

mudgekin wrote: »

I had to have a hysterectomy at 28 which devastated me and got married at 30. so yes being asked as a newlywed would have upset me.

TBH it isn't a subject for small talk, to me that is one of the most personal questions that can be asked. You simply have no clue whether it is medical reasons or simply that the person is childfree through choice, it simply is none of your business

It isn't JUST conversation and unless you have been through it and walked in the shoes of a woman who has that choice taken from her then don't you dare make the comment below :mad:

The amount of things people are getting upset about on here at the moment it doesn't surprise me that someone'll be offended somewhere!

That rates as one of the most insensitive remarks made here

I'm don't feel the same way as you, despite also not having been able to have children.

People don't usually go around trying to be hurtful, and to a degree I feel its my responsibility to ''toughen up''. I would detest to be someone people felt they had to walk on eggshells around, and love having my friends'children in my life. Of course its deeply and profoundly upseting to me, but also....life goes on, and my feelings are not at the centre of everyone else's life, and I feel one can make a choice to accept its terribly personally sad and do one's best to move on, or one can make the dissappointment a major feature in life. I really try to choose the former.

DKLS

Lotus-eater wrote: »

That's a way I had never looked at it before.

Thankfully.

Why thankfully? have you bred?

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The answer is simple: I don't like children.

Not actively dislike, mind, but I don't find their endeavours endearing, and don't, in general, find friends children 'cute.' My wife and I don't want the intrusion into our lives, and that's what it would be for us: an intrusion. I don't have to justify this, or respond to silly accusations of 'selfishness' - it's far better to be self-aware than make the disastrous choice to have a child and then resent it. We are all different, and this is simply how I am.