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How to handle the "why are you still single?" question.

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  • coolcait
    coolcait Posts: 4,803 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker Rampant Recycler
    .... The scenario is as follows, I bump into an old schoolfriend's mother or an ex work colleague or a distant relation and, genuinely, the conversation seems to go;

    "Hello there, I haven't seen you for ages. How are you doing?"

    Me: "Very well, thank you. And you?"

    "Fine, fine. So, do you have a boyfriend?"

    Me: " No actually, I'm single at the moment."

    "ARE YOU? Why?"

    Me: "Why not?" ;):D:cool:

    Cue not letting it bother you - and showing that it doesn't bother you.

    OR (if being single is really getting you down)

    Me: "Because you haven't introduced any gorgous single men to me ;):D. Why?" :p:rotfl:

    Cue not letting it bother you - and showing that it doesn't bother you. but not ruling out the possibility of being introduced to new gorgeous single men... :T

    I've looked at this opening post umpteen times - then looked at the number of responses. And I've thought "Well, there's probably lots of hugs and support and brilliant ideas in there already".

    And there probably are.

    However, this time, it comes a day after I had a riotous conversation with a gorgeous single friend, who had recently been to a family wedding. She used the second comeback, above, to her auntie, who had asked why she was single. And reminded me that I had once used the first comeback.

    Of course, in the original conversation, it was more like:

    "How come ye're no' winchin' yit? Whit are ye daein'?!"
    "How come ye've no' found me a nice man?! Whit are ye daein'?!!"

    Cue hysterics all round. Nil embarrassment.

    Sometimes, people are just making conversation (however clumsily)and would absolutely die if you actually told them why you are still single, and how much it hurts you.

    So, that's always a useful back-up option if you really want to shut them up, and have a high embarrassment threshold.

    Apologies if any of these suggestions have already been made. However, Im sure that one more post won't make that much of a difference.
  • How about 'None of your business'? :)
  • TimBear
    TimBear Posts: 808 Forumite
    I've never understood this question! It's so irrelevant, and downright rude coming from acquaintances!

    Of course I would talk about it with friends if I were single, but with people I barely know and haven't seen in years? No thanks.

    I honestly don't know how I'd respond! Perhaps just 'I'm not looking right now', 'I'm happy being single'? I really don't know.
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