How to handle the "why are you still single?" question.

Tropez

euronorris wrote: »

And I met mine through a mutual friend.

But I still got all that rubbish from peeps before hand. It was always 'You should go to the pub or out clubbing, you won't find one sitting at home alone, will you?'. And then, when you did, and usually met only drunk t*ssers, you'd get 'Well, what did you expect? Clubs and pubs aren't exactly the best place to meet a partner are they?!'.

I just gave up in the end and resorted to nodding and agreeing to everything they said, but completely ignoring it. :rotfl:

:rotfl: I think it is probably best to just nod and ignore.

The thing I never understood is that I was never asking for advice on how to meet women, I was just being given it! I have a cousin who was insistent on trying to pair me up with someone because it seemed ingrained upon her that people can only be happy with someone so was always bringing up "oh you should come out with me, we'll find you someone"... yeesh...

SandC

That and the friends who become single suddenly want to do all this socialising with you - cos what with you being single and all you must be doing that......

VestanPance

runningwoman wrote: »

I can't think why you are single

Because I choose to be. Simple.

VestanPance

euronorris wrote: »

I used to give a simple answer. But it was never enough. Then I would be accused of being too fussy, too intelligent, not intelligent enough, too pretty, not pretty enough, too slim, not slim enough, you should die your hair brown, no you should keep it blonde, you should flash some skin, you should dress more conservatively, you should wear heels more, no flats, blah blah blah.

All because they just had to know WHY I was single. And couldn't accept the simple, honest answer of 'I haven't found the right guy yet.'.

Still, I don't know why anyone needed to know WHY I was single anyway.

And then, of course, whenever you do start dating someone along comes the criticism of that person. Wouldn't you prefer someone taller? Shorter? Healthier? More relaxed with food & exercise? More intelligent? Less intelligent? blah blah blah.

Answer 'No, I know what I like and it's obviously different to what you like, and that's OK.'. Them 'Yeah....but..' etc.

Arghh! It's enough to make you scream! They are my choices to make, people should stop concerning themselves with them so much!

Reading this reminds me why all my friends are male!! Anyone attempting the Spanish Inquisition should just be told to F@#k off.

Suzanne_Louise

I used to answer with 'Because I haven't found anyone good enough for me, yet'.............

miss_independent

SandC wrote: »

Anyone else get the assumptions that you are out partying all the time while you wait for someone to come along? :mad::D

But of course, if you are not out partying then you should obviously be doing so because THAT'S where you're going wrong and THAT'S where you'll meet your man cos you won't find anyone sitting at home will you? Yeah cos you all met your partners down town with your beer goggles on didn't you? No? Well whaddy know.....

Today, "Do you have a man?" was followed by "Do you ever go out?" by someone I have never ever met but feels she knows me. Ermmmmm, yes I do, why do you ask? Like Tropez I don't really like going out drinking that much etc and tbh I always reply that the kind of men you meet out clubbing aren't generally the settling down or even dating type. The answer I managed to come up with today when asked, "And do you like children?" was "Depends on the child really... I tend to look at them on an individual basis" then *mock shock* "Oh gosh, sorry, are you looking for a babysitter or something?"
Them: Puzzled face, "No..."
Me: "Oh..." fake puzzled face, then look at them like they are a bit strange. "Anyway...must go. Love to the family, bye!"
:rotfl:

londonsurrey

Excellent!

Person_one

Anybody else watching 'Don't Tell The Bride'?

That always makes me glad I'm single!

lori64

Must admit, I dont get half the questions fired at me now that Im 47yrs, than I used to when I was younger.
I just dont know why people seem to think its ok to be nosey gits and pry into my personal life!

Just the other day though, some nosey bat said to me "wont you be lonely in your old age if you dont have kids"???? Er...what a sad reason to have them in the first place. Wish people would just get it into their heads that Im NOT interested in being a mummy. Im not maternal towards kids and never have been. But that comment doesnt wash with them, as "if I met the RIGHT man" then I would be gagging for kids. Umm..NO, it wouldnt make any difference...Im simply not maternal.....deal with it !!!!!!! Oh, Im not working at the moment, Im menopausal and have no cash......but what the hell, surely having a child by anyone regardless of my finances has surely got to be better than being childless? I give up, really I do!
I have never been married either....so I have been a source off gossip on/off for years.
When I see how dysfunctional other folks relationships really are, Im glad Im single!

Cat501

I suppose it must be different if you've been married/co-habiting in the past and have kids, because I never get asked that question (age 39, 3 kids, single for the best part of 10 years). The longer I go on being single though, the more I can't imagine being with someone without having a panic attack at the mere thought of it! Wouldn't worry about it OP, just grin inanely at all their comments and occasionally nod your head to keep up the pretence that your actually listening:)