Advice on rejecting men....

AdmiralX

ZARA wrote: »

self defence classes

An absolute must,

sorry to have missed this

AdmiralX

Jinx wrote: »

Thanks ladies,

Good suggestions;:)
And if daughter returns very late night might be better to have some friends with her, and walk by the well lit parts.
There also pick pockets...

A_Phoenix_of_Tangerine

Cattle prod to the gonads? A sporadic bout of twitching / verbal tourettes? A staged phonecall to dad / brother / husband arranging to meet off the bus? All possible, though the first is preferable

AdmiralX

Jinx: TfL advice for women: http://www.tfl.gov.uk/gettingaround/19463.aspx

Theft is the most common type of crime on the transport system.
Sexual offences remain rare according to TfL.

Unbooked minicabs may be the problem.

lynzpower

Person_one wrote: »

There's no surefire way to avoid harassment. I've even pretended to be asleep but had men shake me to 'wake me up'. I've tried headphones, reading, even reading a book in a foreign language so that I can pretend I don't speak English. Harassers don't want to read the signals you're giving out, they only care about their desire to interact with you, your feelings are irrelevant.

If she's a pretty young woman she will be harassed, its not her fault, its not something she's doing wrong, its not a signal she's accidentally giving out. The only thing she can do is react in a way that keeps her safe.

When I first moved to london every man and his dog seemed to take a shine to me. Some very strange things have happened to me, although in some areas its worse than others. Generally though I was safe, sometimes I put myself in dodgy situations by a) being sympathetic b) giving too much away when there was no need. I dont do that any more you live and learn!

Ive done it all, the fake conversations on the mobile phone, the looking at my watch, the book im not reading, but nothing really worked. I used to get spoken to by all sorts of people.

Over the years it happens less, I definately give off that 'dont speak to me' vibe and also im a lot less tipsy on public transport which is like a magnet to the weirdos. They can spot a '3/4 bottle of wine down' a mile off.

VestanPance

Has she tried pulling out a bible and asking "have you thought about our lord Jesus Christ recently?"

bedpotato_2

Jinx wrote: »

I need some advice to pass to my daughter ladies about rejecting men in the city....

Shes at Uni in London, a pretty 19 year old curves in all the right places.

There's her problem. She should keep her curves under wraps. One can safely assume she isn't, or she wouldn't be having this problem in the first place.

Tell your daughter to wear long loose clothing and no makeup (as opposed to anything short or tight, ESPECIALLY tight trousers on the bum or tight tops on the breasts).

If it ain't for sale, don't show it off.

VestanPance

bedpotato wrote: »

There's her problem. She should keep her curves under wraps. One can safely assume she isn't, or she wouldn't be having this problem in the first place.

Tell your daughter to wear long loose clothing and no makeup (as opposed to anything short or tight, ESPECIALLY tight trousers on the bum or tight tops on the breasts).

If it ain't for sale, don't show it off.

A girl shouldn't need to dress not to attract men not to be hassled. Fine to be sensible and take precautions like let people know where she is if having to travel alone, but she should be free to wear whatever she wants.

Person_one

bedpotato wrote: »

There's her problem. She should keep her curves under wraps. One can safely assume she isn't, or she wouldn't be having this problem in the first place.

Tell your daughter to wear long loose clothing and no makeup (as opposed to anything short or tight, ESPECIALLY tight trousers on the bum or tight tops on the breasts).

If it ain't for sale, don't show it off.

That post was a joke right? An ironic parody of some of the medieval attitudes towards women that are thankfully rejected by all right minded people these days?

BitterAndTwisted

bedpotato wrote: »

There's her problem. She should keep her curves under wraps. One can safely assume she isn't, or she wouldn't be having this problem in the first place.

Tell your daughter to wear long loose clothing and no makeup (as opposed to anything short or tight, ESPECIALLY tight trousers on the bum or tight tops on the breasts).

If it ain't for sale, don't show it off.

Please pop back to the 19th century where you belong. Or Afghanistan. Whichever suits.