Is this assault?

Oldernotwiser

JenJen70 wrote: »

Unfortunately not my young man, he's a fairly quiet lad who is unused to dealing with such agression.

But I don't think you can call it bullying when a weaker person threatens a stronger one.

Lotus-eater

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

But I don't think you can call it bullying when a weaker person threatens a stronger one.

Don't know how you worked that out. Sounds the other way round to me.

tomjonesrules

mr-angry wrote: »

Yes sorry the son should should speak with the inspector (my opinion).

I understand what you are saying about choosing battles etc but if the police officer is stating that she is of the opinion that no offence has been comitted when you (the OP) feel strongly that it has and dont feel that the constable in question has acted in a professional manner then yes you should speak up, otherwise this officer may well treat many others in the same way. Especially when you have witness evidence.

As for the outcome, I dont think anyone is expecting a high court appearance out of this.

Or perhaps the officer should be praised for giving honest, realistic advice?

Think of what will happen if they kick up a fuss about the police officer - the police will pursue it, visit the uncle, potentially arrest and charge him. Then it all kicks off again. The OP/ her son will need to call the police. How helpful do you think the officers are going to be, knowing that they have complained about one of their colleagues for a pretty trivial reason?

Poppy9

JenJen70 wrote: »

. Unfortunately my son the decided to vent his frustation on Facebook and wrote a status saying "fat c***",

JenJen70 wrote: »

Unfortunately not my young man, he's a fairly quiet lad who is unused to dealing with such agression.

He's quite agressive on social networks though! I woulld expect this sort of foul mouthing off on facebook from a teenager but not a grown man.

Tell him to grow up and learn to fight his own battles. He should easily be able to out manourve an overweight man more than twice his age.

McKneff

By keeping on and on about it, youre leaving your son wide open to more abuse and fear.

!!!!!! let it go, at the moment its trivial for want of a better word, but if it escalates, you could be having your windows put in and
visiting your son in hospital at the same time. So many people on here are telling you to move on. So why on earth arent you.

Dont get me wrong, I'm a mum myself so I know about the protective instinct, and its really understandable but you are going overboard.

Talk to your son, ask what he wants to do.

Bet you 10 to 1 he will say 'just leave it mum'

Oldernotwiser

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Don't know how you worked that out. Sounds the other way round to me.

A normal young man of 21 is always likely to be stronger than a very overweight, middle agreed man, don't you think?

Lotus-eater

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

A normal young man of 21 is always likely to be stronger than a very overweight, middle agreed man, don't you think?

No!

And the 50 year old will have bulk and experience of how to intimidate people behind him. Not to mention alot of booze probably.

Janepig

JenJen70 wrote: »

Unfortunately not my young man, he's a fairly quiet lad who is unused to dealing with such agression.

When you're with him maybe, but are you with him 24/7? Do you really know what he's like when he's out with his friends?

Seriously, there's nothing gets my dander up in work more than young men (it's always men, never women) who can't deal with stuff themselves and have to get mammy to do it for them. He's 21, he's a grown adult, not a child. Let him sort it out himself.

Jx

Zoetoes

I don't think the OP deserves the stick she's getting on here.

And yes maybe it was daft for the lad to post on Facebook but he'd have had nothing to post about if the bloke hadn't been aggressive in the first place.

The police are often useless so I wouldn't bother phoning them, however as a tax payer I would at least expect a better attitude towards me.

There's probably not a lot you can do but hope that's the end of it and your son is best to avoid that pub. The bloke will pick on the wrong person sooner or later.

mr-angry

tomjonesrules wrote: »

Or perhaps the officer should be praised for giving honest, realistic advice?

Think of what will happen if they kick up a fuss about the police officer - the police will pursue it, visit the uncle, potentially arrest and charge him. Then it all kicks off again. The OP/ her son will need to call the police. How helpful do you think the officers are going to be, knowing that they have complained about one of their colleagues for a pretty trivial reason?

Or perhaps the officer was a bully.

"Asked my son what he expected her to do about it.
Told my son that if she went to speak to the uncle she would be making it clear my son had requested she do this.
Also told him to expect repercussions if she did go to see the uncle.
Told my son that it was his fault for writing the Facebook status.
Asked him where he worked and would he be happy for his employers to find out about this."

If these responses are true fact (which we dont know tbh) then I am sorry but this is not trivial and this person should not be wearing a uniform and by not complaining they will carry on treating others in the same way.