In-Law help!

**dancingbutterfly**

poorly_scammo wrote: »

Poor little lad. Letting adults down is bad enough but letting down a child like that seems cruel.

I'd adopt the 'you know where we are if you want us' attitude. I think some will disagree with that but if they can't make the effort I don't see why you should.

The last time we went there, they said ''long time no see, what do we owe the pleasure?''

I bit my tongue something chronic and was dying to say ''oh im sorry, I didnt realise you didnt know how to use the telephone or drive your car!!"

*Louise*

Oh and if someone said they were coming to dinner then didn't show up....I would be on that phone asking why - how rude!!

Ignoring the situation (or letting OH ignore it) just makes a rod for your own backs. They get away with it once with no repercussions, then they thnk it's okay to treat you that way.

**dancingbutterfly**

McKneff wrote: »

:eek: cant believe you are speaking about your OH with so much disrespect, I feel sorry for him, he's between a rock and a hard place. !!!!!!.

If I was male and my OH called me a wet lettuce I would think well she doesnt think very much of me and I would be very very hurt, you should be ashamed of yourself hurting some one who loves you. If you think so little of him why do you stay.

Excuse me, It was meant light heartedly. Maybe I should rephrase it for you 'he's far too laid back to say anything.'

Is that ok? We have a great relationship and can take the mickey out of each other as well as ourselves.

But we're not here to talk about my marriage

**dancingbutterfly**

Thanks louise, your right....we've let it get this way.

Oh is going to call them tomorrow after work for a little chat...

julie03

you need to do what is right for you son, he should come first, just tell them all we are staying at home and you are quite welcome to join us , i did this when my son was 5 , i have never left the house christmas day since

missbishi

McKneff wrote: »

:eek: cant believe you are speaking about your OH with so much disrespect, I feel sorry for him, he's between a rock and a hard place. !!!!!!.

If I was male and my OH called me a wet lettuce I would think well she doesnt think very much of me and I would be very very hurt, you should be ashamed of yourself hurting some one who loves you. If you think so little of him why do you stay.

OMG, "wet lettuce" is hardly disrespectful now, is it!

Abbafan1972

I would never let anyone treat me like that and would be fuming if I was expecting them for dinner and they didn't show up! Had you actually cooked the meal ready? And I would have certainly been straight on the phone asking why.

Just do your own thing on Christmas day, you've spend far too long letting the whole world revolve around them.

dirtysexymonkey

McKneff wrote: »

:eek: cant believe you are speaking about your OH with so much disrespect, I feel sorry for him, he's between a rock and a hard place. !!!!!!.

If I was male and my OH called me a wet lettuce I would think well she doesnt think very much of me and I would be very very hurt, you should be ashamed of yourself hurting some one who loves you. If you think so little of him why do you stay.

oh get a grip!

BitterAndTwisted

They accepted an invitation to dinner and then didn't show up with no explanation and no apology forthcoming?

They made a promise to your child to take him out and then didn't bother?

I wouldn't be inviting them to my home ever again, especially on Christmas Day. I'd receive exactly one of those "What do you want?" responses on the phone before I stopped bothering to contact them at all. This is obviously a one-sided relationship, or at least all the effort is made on one side.

Stop contacting them. Let them stew in their own juice. And they can fix their own damned car.

McKneff

It is disrespectful. Its my opinion and it didnt come over as 'light hearted'

And yes, the new phrase was much better and I understand laid back, that in itself must be frustrating.

As for the inlaws, I can see your point of view, its painful to watch your little one be hurt, over and over again.

Let them stew in it.