The New Me And Our Quest To Become Debt Free And Have Self Belief

misspoppy

HI Lisa

well done for going through with the meeting. I am so glad it is all in the open - well the bits about you and your mum any way. I'm sure the cheque must be quite large so it would make life much better for you and your family. I agree with other suggestions to double check with your Dad that they can afford it and maybe suggest to him that he asks your mum about her debt. Then have a family holiday with the money Butlins is a good idea.

Oh and take Sam with you to buy a pair of boots for you!

You have come such a long way in such a short space of time thanks for sharing it with us.

Claudie

Well Done!

I am really thrilled for you and your family.

Take care

Pink_butterfly_3

Well done Weller!!

You did fantastic xxx

jennynoo

Hi Lisa, well done on last night, that must have taken a lot of courage.

weller711 wrote:

My Dad has written me a cheque out for all the money I gave Mum though am still in two minds wether to cash it or not - he says we need the money with 2 children and he will get it back off my Mum.

I know everyone else thinks you should cash the cheque but, as your mum is in debt, personally I would just leave it, if you can afford it. Your dad is going to have a lot to deal with now and the money you have given them could help soften the blow.

He can't believe shes done what she has - he says he doesnt know her anymore.

If your dad doesn't know about the 'other' things your mum has done then maybe your dad has never really known her. I think if I were him I would want to know everything and now is the time to get it all out in the open (unless she has completely stopped doing those other things in which case maybe you can justify him not knowing). I just don't see how they can move their relationship forward until he knows the full picutre. And if it has to end then maybe that is the best thing for him. He sound like a wonderful person, who cares about his family and seemed to handle the situation well.

Maybe I'm talking rubbish, I'm no expert, so would like to know what everyone else thinks about this.

catewithers

you are so brave. Well done for dealing with a very distressing situation in such an honest way. You are a woman of great strength and integrity. Make sure you tell yourself that every day when you get up!

Thinking of you.

Cate x

chevalier

hi weller
I am very glad for you that Social Services are not interested in you. But then you knew that you were fine with your children, so why should they be? I feel very sorry for your dad, I imagine that the talk they started last night is still ongoing.

Also you have to bear in mine that although she was very repentant last night, you mum may well have just been saying what she thought you and your dad wanted to hear. She may NOT change, so I would be very careful about letting your guard down with her.

The best of luck with the future, we are all very proud of you and your OH.
chev

nel

OMG

i have JUST come across this thread and have read most of it...paying most attention to your posts.

firstly this was all in a week? my god what a rollercoaster you have been on and not just this past week either

you know what they say you can pick your friends but not your family and theirs usually a family member that we all wish we could totally ignore without repercutions

i am soooooo pleased you found the strength to finally spill the beans on whats been going on and i for one am certainly proud to be a member of such a terrific website

keep your chin up hun...things can only get better from this point on


i must say i am soooooooo damm pleased i didn't read this thread before now, i would have been fingerless by now waiting to find out the outcome:D :T :T :T :T

nel

PS there is a short book i read some years ago that was just as compelling read as this thread has been (and will continue to be i'm sure)

its called "a stationmasters Daughter" by stella le'vie i think thats how its spelt.....really isn't similar at all to you story apart from the fact that is one person stuggle......maybe you should have a read of it and maybe it would inspire you to write your on book too, you have a lovely way about you and the way that you write

Best of luck for your future hun

nel

victory

Well done weller, just read all the thread and I am so happy for you and yours to have found the strength to do something about it, absolutely brilliant, I hope you ride high, you so deserve it:j :j

glenstan

Been reading your posts every day , so glad you have got things sorted. Here,s wishing you and dh, the peace and contentment you so deserve after the trip to hell and back you have been through.