The New Me And Our Quest To Become Debt Free And Have Self Belief

Snaggles

I was wondering the same....hope everything's okay weller xx

earwig

weller where are you hope we havent herd from you because everything is ok rather than somthing else has gone wrong keep posting we would love to hear from you what ever the reason

moonlightpjs

I'm here !!!!!!!
Sorry about not posting - things been a bit manic IYKWIM. Mollie has been in hospital for 2 days as they thought she had Meningitis but luckily, thank god, she didn't and it was just a viral infection so have been there all of the time, she is home now but still not 100%. Have been out of my mind but shes a little fighter and gave me the strength to get through it along with Sam who has been so very upset.

My dad is in pieces as my Mum has told him about the debt so he has been coming here quite a lot and sitting with Sam whilst me and Andy were at hospital and has even had a couple of days off work (which is so unlike him). My Mum and Dad keep their own money seperate but share the bills IYKWIM but don't have a mortgage and my dad has close to £45k in building society that is for his pension (when he left his last job they said we can give you it all now, pay you an amount monthly or pay you when you actually retire so took the money and stashed it away as he didn't want the risk of losing it - I think this was about the time that pension funds were going astray.

He doesn't know whether to pay the debts off for Mum as he is so against debt, if you can't pay cash, you don't have it sort of thing. But I have told him that Mum earns enough and has enough left over after bills that with a bit of hard work and sticking to it she can make a big dent in them in no time. She has to just stop spending and thats it really.

I haven't spoken to my Mum but did receive texts from her when Mollie was in hospital though I did say I didn't want her there so I suppose I can't blame her. Shes sent flowers and teddies for Mollie (still spending??????????) and sent her love with Dad. Making it right will take time but I do think that she needs to sort herself out first before we can ever begin to rebuild a relationship, if at all. I am a very forgiving person normally but she has just done so much that at the moment I just dont want to know. Time will tell I suppose.

Thank you all for your lovely messages of suppport, when I have logged on I have tried to thank people but not felt up to posting so apologies to anyone I missed, everybody is now thanked (Ithink - better go and check :rotfl: ) It means so much when I have had all the support you have all given me - I don't have the words to thank you all. You are all true gems :A

Snaggles

So glad to hear you are all okay, you must have been so worried about your daughter. I can't get your link to work unfortunately, but it might just be me doing something wrong!

Just take things slowly, I'm sure in good time you will have a clear idea in your mind of how you want the relationship with your Mum to work from now on. There's no pressure on you to rush into anything.

Take care, Love Snaggles xxx

tesuhoha

Was really looking forward to seeing the children but all I got was a page asking me to log in. :sad:

chevalier

Wow what a roller coaster, up down up down and now up up up!
So glad Mollie is better, I had my youngest child in hospital at 12 weeks, scared the whatsits out of me. And I had to stay in too as I was breast feeding at the time! Still they bounce back amazingly fast, the only thing is they usually do when you are still knackered!

As for your mum. Her presents are a nice gesture, even if you suspect the motivation. And fair play to her for telling your dad about the debts. But I also think that your dad should NOT bail her out. Otherwise she won't learn?

best of luck with this ongoing situation. I hope the extra money in your monthly budget, will bring your debt free date nearer!
chev

mandymoo

Weller, you have truley been tested and you have come through.
Glad to hear Mollie is on the mend and Sam is doing well and Andy is there for you all. You are both an amazing couple that have worked together,I am glad that your dad is still seeing the children. Your dad will do what he feels right for your mum (but I don`t think he should use his money to help) but on the other hand your dad sounds a very resonable man and will do what he feels he needs to do either way that is for your mum and dad to sort out.
Please look after yourself and take things slowly.
Best wishes to you all
mandymoo xxx

mandymoo

tesuhoha wrote:

Was really looking forward to seeing the children but all I got was a page asking me to log in. :sad:

I tried but it shut the computer down lol !!!!
Never mind, if they are as lovely as they sound then they are beautiful.

moonlightpjs

mandymoo wrote:

I tried but it shut the computer down lol !!!!
Never mind, if they are as lovely as they sound then they are beautiful.

Sorry - absolutly useless when it comes to things like that - have removed it now as it doesn't seem to work :rotfl:

spud30

Hi Weller,

So sorry to hear your little one has been poorly. They are sent to worry us, you know !!!

I agree your dad shouldn't bail your mum out. She has to do it for herself, otherwise she will never learn.

Take care, and dont stay away too long. You know we worry