The New Me And Our Quest To Become Debt Free And Have Self Belief

jo1967

Weller well done! I can not imagine how hard this has been for you but you are through the worst now & I hope you feel like you can conquer the world.

Stay strong & give your lovely hubby & kids big hugs.

Take care xx

Garetha

Dear Lisa

I'm amazed how quickly this has all happened.
Brilliant! Well done - all of you.:beer: :j

You must be absolutely drained, but this is what was needed for all of you.
Now get on with your life and enjoy your family - you deserve it.

southernscouser

Weller. What can I say?

Fancy a s**g?

Nah seriously hun. Good on ya! I hope you wake up in the morning with a weight lifted from your shoulders.

We know about your mum but your dad sounds like a diamond aswell as your OH.

Things can only get better from here. No more lies (hopefully she had the decentsy [sp] to tell him about them) and no more secrets. You are free to live your life as you wish! :beer:

Psykicpup

I've only just read your post - I'm lazy & tend to read the post with only a few replies let alone pages lol.
What a rollercoaster - I've cried, been angry, hopefull,I've laughed (mostly at SS he knows how to stop a situation becoming maudalin dont he lol), been sad, worried & proud -I'm worn out just reading it! My word what must have it been like for you!
I doubt that this is all over just yet, so dont forget we (although I dont feel I have earn the right to inc me in that yet) are here with you & love you for your strength & wonderful family.

ps where do you get 'andys' from? I thought mine was the dogs but yours blows the socks of for the way he's been

pps did you get any thing for Valentines or has it all gone by-the-by with everything else

take care & big hugs for all of you!

mandymoo

Well done weller, we are all so proud and your dad sounds a wonderful man treasure him. Today is a new day and you now have the strength to live your life with your lovely family.Remember all your friends are still here
best wishes to you,Andy, Sam and Mollie
hugs from mandymoo xxx

Dumyat

weller this was the first place I came when I logged on. I've been thinking about you last night and wondered how it had all gone.
sounds like it went really well. You must be exhausted but now its all out in the open it will sort itself out. your dad sounds a real gentleman. let him deal with it now. its their marriage and she has a lot to explain I'm sure.
speak to him about the cheque but I think you should cash it. its his way of sorting things for you, let him do it.

and all this from a pair of boots hope you have a great day x

JoKay_2

Hi Weller

Just wanted to say another well done, what a very brave, but unpleasant, thing to have to do. But, I'd remind you to look back over the last week or so, and see how far you've come, and how you (and your OH, of course) have changed this awful situation you found yourself in.

As far as the money goes, I agree with Emmzi - it might be best to let the dust settle for a few days, then speak to your dad about whether he can afford to repay you - at the end of the day, your were blackmailed out of your hard earned money!!

Sending you lots of hugs :grouphug:

hypno06

Hi Weller, I am so pleased that you have been strong and able to do all the things that you have done these last few days.

Just read back to your first few posts and remind yourself just what an amazing journey you have had over the last couple of weeks - you have come SO far and should be really proud of yourself, as plenty of others have already said.

As for the money, I would cash the cheque - it is yours and it is bound to be a lot of money. I would use most of it to bung towards my debt (I don't know what your level of debt is, but this money is bound to make a dent in it)

However, and I think this is important, I would also take some of it out - a good amount - to allow you, DH and the children to have a fab day out, or a weekend away or something. Maybe even a week at butlins in the spring or day trip to disneyland paris - something that you would not normally have done given the financial status, but something that really does allow you to have massive fun. Remember how much you enjoyed wacky warehouse the other day, well multiply that by 10 and find something that you can all do and remember with big smiles.

Your dad has not given you the cheque as some sort of bribe or a pay off - he has given it back because he knows what is right, and that money belongs to you. Explain to him what you are going to do with the money and keep talking to him, he sounds worth holding on to x

plumduff-2

Ive just got up and logged on straight away to get an update..

Fantastic news... top marks to Dad...you truely are surrounded by wonderful people..(bar one...) ... How proud you must be of yourself to realise that you do not have this horrible nasty trait that both your mum and grandma had...

Lisa you are inspirational to have made such significant changes in your life within such a short space of time.. I take my hat off to you..!

You give yourself a pat on the back... xxxx

halloweenqueen_2

Blimey - you stay away froma thread for a few days = what a turnaround. Fantastic work, hope you can put it behind you. Cash the cheque - I believe your Dad will get the money back and he'd probably be hurt or feel his input has been devalued if you don't.
Please go and buy a gold plated pair of boots, whatever boots you get they are going to be priceless as (excuse the pun but) they kicked it all off!