Dilema - donation to make ex pregnant

Cara79

Oh ok missed that

FatVonD

OP, if you go ahead you may be genetically the father but you won't be doing any 'fathering', they've already decided that her partner is going to be the 'father' to this baby, despite what she's telling you. She's hardly likely to tell you that they have decided they want a baby together knowing that you still have feelings for her. If you can't see the sense in what everyone else is telling you then refuse to do it because you don't want to help cement their relationship for them.

pollyanna24

Carl31 wrote: »

Your definition is very poor

I see what youre trying to say, but you dont come across right. I dont live with my son, but i go out of my way for him always. More so than my dad, and he was a good dad too.

What about parents that dump there kids at the nursery all day while they work? Is that good? I happen to disagree with that approach. I think a child needs at least one parent at home when it grows up

Cor blimey, bit harsh.

My ex decided to leave me after 11 years with a two year old and a two month old.

I suppose I could have stayed at home and lived off the state, but I decided to go back to work part time, and hopefully work towards my kids' future.

Murtle

Barneysmom wrote: »

Tell her to get a puppy.

:eek: what did the puppy do wrong?!

Tell her to get one of those kids dolls that cries and wets its nappy!!

mountainofdebt

Hagar_uk wrote: »

It is not...like I said I think she is mad and her needs to be a mum are selfish..but I have a chance to be a father again, which may never happen, is it better that is mine than a child grows up with no dad at all

No you have the chance of being a sperm donor.

A Father and a Sperm Donor are two different things

Hagar_uk

Cara79 wrote: »

How can you have been together 20 months yet have a 16 month old child with her? That would be the shortest pregnancy in history!!

Either way, I think u'd be crazy to even consider this!

We have been split up for 7 months, we got pregnant about 3 months in,

VestanPance

Hagar_uk wrote: »

We have been split up for 7 months, we got pregnant about 3 months in,

If that's not a sign she was a baby crazy mental just using you nothing is.

pearl123

The more I read OP the more I wonder if you are having a laugh!
Yet I suspect you are sincere.

Everyone here has advised against the idea - I think. Does that no tell you something. Also just about everyone is shocked that you even consider being a donor after having had such a brief relationship with you partner.
I do wonder if you are considering being a donor just because you are just trying to keep your ex-partner close and are worried about being excluded from the mother and your child lives?

Hagar_uk

mountainofdebt wrote: »

No you have the chance of being a sperm donor.

A Father and a Sperm Donor are two different things

I flattly refused to just be a spern donor, the child would in essense grow up like my other son, having a seperated father, the thing with her on off partner is secondary to her wanting a child. Its not what she wants, as she would like a child all to her self, but to be fair with our existing child, she has never wanted to stop me seeing our son ..

Its a silly plan, and if I had another child I want to do it properly this time around (frist child I worked away lot - hence split)

If my ex found someone else and had a child that would be one thing, but if she is going out to create a life for a sibling for my son, one side of me thinks it is best for my son if it was mine

I have seen the resentment and problems caused when there are different fathers, as my son gets older, I want to take him away for holidays do cool things together and have SR, I know if for a child who won't have that it must be hard seeing that happen to their brother.

Lotus-eater

I can't believe you are trying to justify this in the slightest. You must be bonkers to even consider it.

If she has this 2nd child of yours, you are going to be screwed for money by her and for all you know she will be off with someone new and never let you see them again.

You sound upset now you can't see your son enough, what if you have 2 and what if you have a new family? This is so crazy, you're not thinking clearly. She's obviously thinking all too clearly and you are going to get screwed.